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Maybe it's Love House and U! In the spirit of the love of "Great Rivers and Great Rivers", I have a strong interest in reading the original "Falling Flowers Season" of "Meet the Season".
I like Anai's writing, because in his works, he can always evoke people's memories of the past, like a clear stream, slowly flowing in the reader's heart.
Between his lines, it is not difficult to find that the author has a pair of keen eyes, a meticulous insight into human feelings and sophistication, and the story presented is infectious, but the style is simple and delicate.
The novel depicts a feud that has been entangled for more than two decades, and two generations of people who have been swallowed up by hatred have lost both after revenge and counter-revenge, and finally gradually tend to reconcile.
Ning Hui'er and Ning You, who have also experienced family changes, as the mothers of their respective children, have a completely different impact on their sons because of different parenting styles.
At the same time, people can't help but sigh how important it is to have a wise and kind mother.
When the disaster came, Ning Hui'er was too busy with her livelihood to manage her children, and little Ning Shu planted a heart disease in fear.
When the news of Cui Hao's (Ning You and Ning Shu's father) killing came, the sisters and brothers were hungry and frozen, and their tears were full of fear, but they didn't know where to find their mother.
In a conversation between Ning Yu and her son, we can see the weakness and helplessness of a pair of brothers and sisters at that time.
"Not fear, but... Your uncle has always been unable to let go of his feelings, and has always thought that Grandpa was angry with him to kill people. I was too young to explain him. My mother,your grandmother was being called out and drunk outside, and she didn't have the energy to take care of us, and your uncle had a heart disease. ”
When the child needs the comfort of her parents the most, Ning Hui'er is busy with her livelihood, and Ning Yu is forced to grow up and take on the responsibility of taking care of her brother, however, even if she can protect her brother thoroughly, she still cannot replace her parents.
The overly depressed ning forgiveness was eventually swallowed up by hatred and gradually moved towards the abyss of destruction. Judging from the ending, Ning Hui'er's early death is inseparable from Ning Shu's stubbornness, and Ning Hui'er's neglect of Ning Shu's discipline is the root cause of the disaster.
Ning Hui'er and Cui Hao's husband and wife are not harmonious, leaving hidden dangers for this family change.
Cui Hao was laid off, under tremendous psychological pressure, and not only did not get comfort and explanation from his wife, but his wife's tough attitude made him feel very nestled, and a fire burned overhead, which indirectly led to the subsequent killing.
It cannot be said that Cui Hao went to extremes and was caused by his wife. However, in the face of difficulties, as a family, we should work together to tide over the difficulties. Sometimes, the mental blow is more heartbreaking than the physical torture. The strong wife, the attitude of indifference, let the man lose all dignity.
Family members are originally a community, Cui Hao has become a murderer, as a child, even if there is a good life to live, it must be a turbulent and displaced life waiting for them.
The idea of preferring sons to daughters was deeply rooted in Ning Hui'er's mind, and the difference in treatment made Ning Yu heartbroken and helpless.
Ning You's husband was arrested in the case, when her daughter needed comfort the most, Ning Hui'er chose to ignore, in her eyes, the most important thing is the safety of her son, and even unwilling to listen to her daughter say more about the difficulties encountered, always put the sentence "You have always been very good, I am very assured of you" on her lips.
Ning Yu took care of her mother in the hospital, Ash ash was not assured of her mother's safety, she took a car alone to visit the hospital, Ning Hui'er even ignored the safety of her grandson, and at least she did not care, which made Ning Yu psychologically unbalanced at the same time, but also disappointed in her mother.
And Ning Hui'er's habitual protection of her son made Ning Shu accept her sister's care as a matter of course, and even complained that her sister was too strict in her discipline of him, did not understand gratitude, but was resentful, and the final consequence was that the sisters and brothers were like strangers.
In the face of the siege of Jane's family, Ning Hui'er still stubbornly chose to stay by her son's side, which broke Ning You's heart. Facts have proved that due to Ning Hui'er's insistence on her own opinion, she finally took her own life.
Without good companionship, there is good communication.
Ning Shu always attributed the misfortune of his brother and sister to the elder sister of the Jian family, Jian Minmin, and tried to take revenge. Ning Hui'er warned her son that the family was not easy to mess with, and they should stay away. But when she saw her son gritting his teeth and fierce appearance, she began to panic and fidget.
"No, it's all over, both men in both families have passed away. Especially now that we're doing well and living in peace, don't make trouble for me. ”
Her words had no effect on Ning Shu at all, and if he missed his childhood, he would no longer be able to participate in his adulthood. The obstinate Ning Forgiveness intensified round after round of retaliatory actions.
As a mother, Ning Hui'er can only stick to her home and guard her most beloved son while she is in a hurry. In fact, in preventing Ning Shu from retaliating against the Jane family, she did all the useless work, but there was nothing she could do.
She could have expected that after her son was blinded by hatred, he would inevitably go all the way to blackness, or even to self-destruction. However, limited cognition did not allow her to make any changes to her son's actions.
Even if there is remorse, it will not help.
On the other hand, Ning Yu is a textbook parenting style, which is amazing!
Hao Qinglin became a criminal, his son was terrified, and Ning Yu's explanatory was timely and effective.
Just when Ash was terrified and worried that his father would go to jail. Ning Yu injected a cardiotonic agent into her son:
You don't have to do anything else, you just need to actively adjust your mindset and adapt to the days when you don't have your dad for a while in the future, and, most importantly, the gossip of others.
The little mind is instantly confronted with change, where it can bear the fact that he is the son of a murderer from now on. Ning Yu's explanation was just right to alleviate his son's pain.
You're already a man, I share my experience with you, and you have to give advice to your mom. In the future, I will be more difficult to support a family by myself and need your help.
I think it is precisely ning Yu's appropriate weakness that gives his son a sense of identity that is needed. Talk openly and honestly again and again, so that their mother-child relationship is very harmonious. After that, when the mother and son met the challenges of life together, they naturally twisted into a rope.
The son learned to regress, Ning Yu did not accuse, some of them took the initiative to apologize and inspire.
The Chinese language test was only eighty points, and the always excellent gray ash hid from his mother, secretly signed the examination paper for his mother, and while confessing to his mother, he was full of guilt. Ning Yu's words made his son feel relieved, "No need to apologize, it is the adult's fault that affects you." ”
At the same time, Ning Yu did not forget to humorously point out his son's mistakes:
"My mother has been busy lately, and her mood is not very good, and she is about to consult with you, asking you to be self-disciplined and manage your own learning affairs." However, the small thing of signing, or I will come as well, you say? ”
There is no doubt that this is more educational than any accusation. While being a good mother, Ning Yu always puts her son in the most important position, cares for and guides the growth of her children with her heart, and gives the child enough time and space to digest bad emotions.
With Ning Yu's guidance, ash reached a permeability that was not common to people of the same age.
Hao Qinglin is imprisoned, and Hao's parents are used by Gu Weiwei (Hao Qinglin's affair), hoping that Ning Yu will agree to ask her to make sacrifices for unwarranted evidence.
Ash is worried that her mother will be bullied by her grandparents, and the few words that her mother blurted out when she was anxious were amazing.
Be careful. If they love you, they won't always let you let them go; if they don't love you, you don't have to love them. If you don't love them, I don't blame you. You have to worry about it.
A small teenager, with a transparency that his peers do not have, countless adults may not be able to understand the truth, he actually blurted out like a family, had to admire the wisdom of this teenager.
With good intentions and a clear distinction between right and wrong, such a child will have a wonderful future, I think, no one will doubt.
Life, whether it is good or bad, must be carried by itself. Just as the responsibility of motherhood cannot be replaced by anyone. The precondition for promoting the growth of children is that we must grow up in advance to have the confidence and strength to guide children to a better tomorrow.