There is a kind of mother who is a mother, always able to care for the child's soul and become a role model.
Ning You in "The Season of Encounter" is such a mother.
01 Calmly handling the divorce has taken care of the child's soul
The beginning of "Meet the Season", in addition to showing the grievances of the predecessors, is from the divorce of Ning You and Hao Qinglin.
Hao Qinglin's derailment was discovered by Ash Ash, and Hao Qinglin refused to admit it.
Ash was angry, but told his mother Ning Yu about this matter.
Ning Yu also comforted Ash in turn.
Ash told Hao Qinglin that he was not worthy to be his father and was not qualified to educate him.
Ning Yu said to Ash gently as always:
"Dad wants to have a good talk with Mom, can you go to Grandma's house for dinner on our behalf?"
Gray Ash insisted on not going, and Ning Yu said the following words to him:
This is a matter of mom and dad, we really need to talk about it alone, you let us have a good talk first, and then tell you the first time, okay?
No matter what, the relationship between mom and dad and you will never change, but this matter has a greater impact on mom, and mom has the right to give priority to her marital relationship. Can you respect me in this matter? ”
All along, Ning Yu regarded Ash ash as a part of the writers and gave enough respect and protection.
When Hao Qinglin filed for divorce from Ning Yu and asked for half a million, it really blew people up.
Soft rice is hard to eat, and it is still reasonable.
Thanks to Ning Yu, he told Ash about Grandpa Ash, saying that His father was the same as Grandpa's situation back then.
Saying that the current ash is like the self of the past, let the gray ash understand.
Until Hao Qinglin was later arrested for committing crimes, Ning Yu had been maintaining Hao Qinglin's good image in gray gray's mind.
If you have to find a little advantage in Hao Qinglin, it is not in the face of your son, and you quarrel with Ning You.
After all, children are innocent, and no child wants their parents to quarrel in front of them.
It can only be said that Ning Yu is really too kind, too stoic, and too concerned about others.
She has always cared for gray hearts and protected his mental health.
In contrast, in real life, many women, divorced, are in front of their children, and they are not the ones who have lost their ex-husbands.
Over time, the image of the father collapsed in the child's heart, and the psychology became more and more unhealthy.
Her private communication and humiliation-bearing personality also laid the groundwork for the complete abandonment of hatred later.
02 Work hard and be a good example
I once heard an education expert say a sentence:
The child does not need to be educated at all, you just have to be his example.
Ning Yu did.
When Chen Xin'er went to Ning Yu's company to make trouble, she said that she would pay for Ning Yu to take her children abroad.
Ning Yu domineeringly typed the number of 2 million on her mobile phone, which was her annual salary.
As a stay-at-home mother, Chen Xin'er was so shocked that she couldn't say a word.
I think back then, Chen Xin'er was also the envy of everyone.
Unfortunately, for love, he helped Jian Hongcheng peek at the tender, violated professional ethics, and ended his career.
Chen Xin'er is emotionally dependent on Jian Hongcheng and also needs Jian Hongcheng's financial support in life.
Since the first appearance of Chen Xin'er, to every trouble, it has given people a feeling of depression.
As Ning You's classmates, the two of them were originally on the same starting line, but the choice of life made one of them become an "elite" and the other a "parasite".
When playing in the playground, Tian Jingye directly summarized the reason why Chen Xin'er was a demon - too idle.
In her relationship with Jian Hongcheng, there has always been a feeling of "too much force".
And what hurt Chen Xin'er the most was actually herself.
Ning Yu is different, she has a career to be busy with, and she treats her work conscientiously.
Although she said that she was not ladylike, because she "had something to do", she did not put all her hopes on her husband.
Another point is that she did not shout at her children and put on a high posture because of her career success.
She always gets along with Ash in the way of a friend, and she is gentle in her speech and demeanor.
It is gray and lucky to have such an excellent mother, and gray ash will definitely follow her example.
03 Let go of hatred and let it fill your life
The plot of "Meet the Season" is actually a modern version of Romeo and Juliet.
However, the ending of "Meet the Season" was satisfactory, and Ning Yu and Jian Hongcheng finally achieved positive results.
When Ning You was in college and found out that her classmate was Jian Hongcheng, Ning Yu's mother had advised Ning You to give up going to college.
However, the deceased has passed away, and the living still have to live a good life.
Letting go of hatred is actually letting go of yourself.
If you spend your emotions and energy on the matter of "hate", it is impossible to have Ning Yu, who later earns 2 million yuan a year.
When Chen Xin'er was forced to die on the roof, Ning Yu said:
"I can't be with Jian Hongcheng at all, our two families are enemies."
This is Ning Yu's words in a hurry, but it is also the true thought of the heart, but it does not mean that there is no love.
Even if it was love, she didn't dare, because Ning Shu hadn't let go, and her mother hadn't let go.
Ning Yu is not a selfish person, she will take care of everyone's emotions.
Mother, Chen Xin'er, Ning Shu, including Ash Ash, but did not consider herself and Jian Hongcheng.
Jian Hongcheng's garage rescue reminded her of the escape when she was young.
Years of strength, years of humiliation in marriage, at that moment, it didn't feel like anything.
Finally someone stood with her, helping her, caring for her.
When the mother said, "Just let this thing pass!" ”
Ning Yu felt relaxed and happy from the heart!
At the end of the original work, Ning You and Jian Hongcheng were very happy to find a school district room for Ash Ash, and they finally ushered in a new life!
Letting go of hatred, not letting hatred fill life, and welcoming a new life is the best ending for Ning You.
summary:
The role of Ning You feels very perfect.
A proper independent woman, a gentle and amiable mother.
Teacher Yuan Quan played this role, felt too suitable, and really admired the director's casting ability.
The image of a gentle and atmospheric mother was played by Teacher Yuan Quan.
There are thousands of mothers in the world, but they all have a common wish, that is, they want their children to grow up healthily.
There may be a mother whose heart is good, but the method is not right.
Ning Yu's approach is worth learning, let us grow up with our children and encourage us together!