Mo Yan wrote in "Late Ripening People":
"When people reach middle age, they will love lightly when they meet someone they like, and silently think about it." For the sake of home, don't cross the thunder pool. Not disturbing the tranquility of others is compassion; not hurting the self-esteem of others is kindness; it is good to live to shine one's own light, do not extinguish the lamp of others. ”
During this time, we often hear the word "middle-aged love", from the hit movie "The Myth of Love" to the hit drama "Meet the Season", all of which vividly interpret the implicit, profound, helpless and unwilling love of middle-aged people.
In fact, in the relationship between men and women, middle-aged men are most attractive to women on this point, may you have.
01 Career is a man's capital
As the saying goes: "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of entering the wrong line." ”
Career is a man's capital, especially in middle age, there are old, there are small, a little inattentive will have a "mid-life crisis". If there is no career, the so-called love is just a flower in the water, a moon in the mirror, and delusions.
In "The Season of Encounter", when the middle-aged man Jian Hongcheng met his first love Ning Yu again, he was already worth more than 100 million yuan and ran his career well. With this capital, he has the ability to help Ning Yu again and again, and also gives his feelings a little sustenance.
Just imagine, when the middle-aged goodbye, Jian Hongcheng has achieved nothing, what kind of middle-aged love can there be? But the white moonlight has become white rice, just like Shi Yuan in "Heart Residence", in front of the first love Gu Qingyu fell to the extreme, even if the two can not let go of the deep affection they once had, married for love, but the ending can only be flash marriage, flash separation.
02 Career supports the background of men
When people reach middle age, after years and months, what kind of career you have, what kind of foundation you have.
Philosophers have long said: "Man is a product of the environment." ”
I've seen a story like this:
Girls are small and beautiful, beautiful as flowers, orchid hearts and ferns, and there is no shortage of suitors. The 25-year-old Xiaomei also wants to fall in love, and among the many suitors, Xiaomei has a good feeling for two of them. A tall, handsome and sweet-talking man, but no stable job, and a bit unprofessional; a deeply humorous, erudite, and has a good job, but only 168 in height, as tall as Xiaomei.
How Xiaomei hopes that these two people can be combined, then she will have perfect love. Just when Xiaomei was entangled, the girlfriend said a word that woke her up.
Girlfriend said: "A man's career is his appearance, and when both of them are 40 years old, you see who is more handsome and who is more attractive?" How tall is Mr. Lu Xun? Aren't giants in our hearts? ”
In the end, Xiaomei chose the latter, and when Xiaomei, who was middle-aged, met the tall and handsome suitor of the year, she was really glad of her choice, and the handsome man who had once been full of wrinkles was already full of wrinkles and looked tired. On the contrary, Xiaomei feels that her husband is becoming more and more attractive.
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Half Life":
"Maybe love is not passion, nor nostalgia, but years, years and years have become a part of life." 」
But years!
Over the years, a man's career will become a part of him, slowly invading his heart and appearance.
03 Career determines men's circles
Someone said, "Your income level is the average of the five people around you who are most closely related to you." ”
Deeply.
We are in this world, no one is Robinson, a person is on an island. When people reach middle age, the people who have the most contact with you, in addition to their families, are not colleagues?
What kind of career you have, what kind of circle you have, what kind of network of relationships.
Russell said something very enlightening when he said:
"The beggar is not jealous of the millionaire, but he is certainly jealous of the beggar with the higher income."
A person's vision, heart, and pattern are largely determined by his career.
Xiaojiao Heart Language:
Wang Guozhen wrote in "Haste to Middle Age":
"Middle age and noon are somewhat similar: dignified, deep, empty, a pole on the curve of life."
The charm of middle-aged men is supported by careers, and the poles on this life curve rely more on career support.