Text/Peach Demon, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
Pictured\ Stills of "Meet the Season"
Someone once said: Loving a person is often loved too deeply, and the final result is not eternal love, but short-lived and painful love.
This seems to contradict most people's perception of love. After all, when we are in love, we pursue it for a long time. And the only magic weapon to make love last long should be deep love. But why love so deeply that you can only get short and painful love?
In fact, love is not to love as you please. If a person loves someone with wishful thinking and all his might, he is not far from being hurt. Especially in the eyes of boys, the behavior of "licking", women or less do better.
For example, in the TV series "Meet the Season", there are two women who are "crazy" about love, in order to help their boyfriends realize their wishes, they do not hesitate to break through the bottom line of being a person, lick to the extreme, and finally they all end up being abandoned.
01 Chen Xin'er: Took the initiative to help her boyfriend start a business, ruining his own great future
In the TV series "Meet the Season", Chen Xin'er is a less pleasing character: Ming Ming has divorced Jian Hongcheng, but he still has to monitor his dynamics from time to time, often killing serial Call; mistakenly regards Jian Hongcheng's first love girlfriend as her emotional "imaginary enemy", and also calls or visits the door from time to time to harass; and even in order to "force" Jian Hongcheng to appear, he throws his 5-year-old child at home in Shenzhen, and runs to Shanghai alone to attend a class reunion...
In fact, Chen Xin'er and Ning Yu are both top students of prestigious universities, and when they went to school, Chen Xin'er was even better than Ning You. However, twenty years after graduation, Ning You is already a company executive with an annual salary of 2 million yuan, while Chen Xin'er has become a full-time wife abandoned by her ex-husband and supported by her ex-husband.
Many people feel that with Chen Xin'er's knowledge and ability, self-reliance should not be a problem. But only Chen Xin'er herself knew that her career had been ruined by her own hands as early as twenty years ago.
After graduating from college, Chen Xin'er relied on her own efforts and strength to get an offer from a large company, and thus had business ties with Jian Hongcheng. At that time, Jian Hongcheng was not the CEO of a listed company, but a small boss who worked hard to start a business. The two people are classmates and fellow countrymen, and in one contact after another, the two people fall in love.
In order to help her beloved get the company's project, Chen Xin'er made a bold decision: steal the company's bid. Later, Jian Hongcheng won the bid, but Chen Xin'er was fired from the company and banned by the entire industry.
For the sake of love, Chen Xin'er did not hesitate to break through the bottom line, and even recklessly paid, in exchange for only a momentary touch. At the beginning of the touch, Jian Hongcheng proposed to her and promised to be good to her for a lifetime. But after being moved, Jian Hongcheng not only filed for divorce for no reason, but also began to use cold violence against Chen Xin'er after being rejected, which was probably something that Chen Xin'er did not expect.
Some people say that It was Jian Hongcheng who ruined Chen Xin'er's life, but in fact, in the final analysis, it was Chen Xin'er who personally ruined his life. Everyone has the right to pursue love, but the pursuit of love should also be moderate, like Chen Xin'er, at the expense of breaking through the bottom line of law and morality, to please the beloved man, so kneeling and licking, which is difficult to exchange for true love.
True love is two loves, not that women can not pay, but can only pay moderately, even if the man promises you a lifetime, women can not fully believe, because you destroyed their own statement to achieve him, he reached the peak, will he still look up to you?
02 Cai Lingxiao: Single-mindedly helping her boyfriend get revenge Mistaken for "using" real love
In "The Season of Encounter", if Chen Xin'er is very sad, then Cai Lingxiao can only be described as ridiculous.
Cai Lingxiao can be said to be a proper pawn on the road to revenge of her boyfriend. She deliberately went to work at her boyfriend's enemy, Lixin Group, in order to provide her boyfriend with the most timely and reliable clues, completely without thinking about her future. At the critical moment of her boyfriend's revenge, she used her secretary position to "trick" the boss into making the wrong choice - to sweep away 80 million and go away.
Another stupid woman who does not hesitate to break through the bottom line of work ethic and law for the sake of her boyfriend.
Clear-eyed people can see that Ning Shu does not like Cai Lingxiao, he and Cai Lingxiao are together, all the time plotting revenge, without any love talk. And once Cai Lingxiao's approach is not appropriate, he will immediately shake his face and completely disregard his girlfriend's feelings.
But Cai Lingxiao is immersed in her own imaginary love world, and every time she helps her boyfriends, her happiness will increase a bit. Obviously, it was Ning Forgiveness's revenge, but she imagined it as the future of two people.
It can be said that Cai Lingxiao's every word and deed, every move, is to help Ning Lingxiao, but in the end, their love instead of cultivating the right results, but at the time of the revenge plan East Window Incident, Ning Shu used money and vicious language to "shake" Cai Lingxiao away in order to protect himself, and the two never had contact with each other. And only half a year after the breakup, Ning Shu threw himself into a new relationship.
For a woman, if he loves you too much and it's not right for you to overdo it, then he doesn't love you, and you're still on your knees licking and giving, which is really wrong.
Because if a man loves you, he will at least have heartache and pity for you, and there will be rewards for you later, but if he does not love you, then no matter how much you do, he will not be moved in the slightest, when you are used by him, it is natural to sweep you out of the house in minutes without discussion.
Cai Lingxiao's mistake is that she has been indulging in the illusion of love she has woven, she did not find ning shu for herself in time, in fact, it is very simple to identify a man who loves or does not love himself, you only need to see if he has at least the same amount of return for your pay, if you are always paying, he will never be grateful, there is no return, what you have to do is not to continue to pay, but to stop the loss in time.
03 Mei Niang said
There is a "Veblen effect" in psychology, which simply puts it: "The degree of consumer demand for a commodity increases because its price is higher than lower, which reflects people's psychological desire to make profligate consumption." ”
This means that most people will feel that "cheap is not good, good goods are not cheap", although people are not goods, but the psychology is consistent, people will maintain love according to this psychology.
When a person loves too hard and his posture is too low, he will hold the other party too high, and the harder you "lick" it, the more excessive, the more people feel that you are not worthy of his cherishing.
Some people say, no, in fact, no one is stupid, why do women blindly pay?
Yes, psychologist Elaine Hatfield also said that people in relationships between the sexes do not like to lose money, nor like to take advantage.
So why did Chen Xin'er and Cai Lingxiao completely disregard their careers and futures? Ostensibly for love, in essence it is for greed. When they give, they have a big bet in their hearts, they are gambling with their own happiness, and they hope to use their temporary efforts to exchange for the looks of their loved ones.
But true love and marriage, in the long stream of thin water, ear grinding, peach and repay, it is not a hammer deal, if you just want to kneel and pay like this bottomless bottomless, you want to exchange a man's lifelong gratitude, which is not in line with human nature.
In the book "The Method of Happiness", there is such a sentence that I want to give to everyone.
"The relationship between two people is actually another form of ultimate wealth — the transaction of happiness. Like all transactions, a successful transaction is one that benefits both parties. When one of them is damaged in ultimate wealth, when he keeps giving for the other, the result is that both of them are unhappy. In order for this deal to be successful, we must make sure that the deal is reciprocal. ”
Deeply.
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