It is said that the influence of the original family on the child is a lifetime, which is particularly evident in Ning Yu and Ning Shu. Even if ning Yu tried her best to change, as long as she saw her mother's face full of resentment, all her sanity would be destroyed, and even become irrational.
The ancient Roman poet Ennius once said: "Men hate those whom they fear." The beams formed by the two families of Jian Cui have not only not made the two families dilute hostility in the past few decades, but have even continued to the present.
Individuals in hatred do not reflect, whether it is Ning Hui or Ning You, or Jian Minmin, they are always grumpy about what has happened in the past, believing that they have the obligation and right to take revenge.
People's will is easily persuaded by what they think is right, and they will always persist, otherwise it is the old saying that "death is not blind", so in the seemingly indissoluble hatred between the Two Families of Jian Cui, ning Yu and Jian Hongcheng deliberately avoid conflicts between the two families and find ways to solve things is really valuable.
Home is a harbor, and it should not be the most screwed place.
In the hearts of all people, home has always been their own safe haven, a place where they can repair themselves after being injured outside.
But in the Ning family, for Ning You, it is the opposite existence, a brother who makes people unconscious, and a mother who is full of resentment and instilled hatred.
Therefore, when Ning You was very young, she knew that she had to take care of herself and her brother, and even her brother who was deliberately biased against her mother, she also chose to understand her mother's difficulties, and it was also because of this psychology that Ning Yu had a rationality beyond ordinary people after becoming a family.
Man is a very complex animal, especially in the face of emotional support, hoping to get feedback that is consistent with his own position, otherwise he will think that he has betrayed himself.
The rationality shown by Ning You for almost everything is in the eyes of her husband Hao Qinglin, the crushing and contempt for him in a high posture, the traitor who has joined forces with the enemy in the eyes of her mother Ning Hui, and the selfish person who only cares about her own feelings in the eyes of her brother.
If you look at it from the perspective of a bystander, Ning You's approach is not wrong, even if it is mixed with some residual feelings for Jian Hongcheng, it can be based on the overall situation so that the two families no longer hate each other, and this attitude of solving the fundamental problem is completely correct.
However, after all, people are selfish, and the so-called resentment in their hearts is the obsession of not wanting to let go, judging others according to their own right and wrong, and treating the good intentions passed on by others as ulterior motives.
However, whether in the Hao family or in his own home, Ning You's kind efforts did not get the respect they should have, but instead attracted suspicion, accusation, doubt, blame, and use, as if Ning You was a person who was completely contrary to this world. But even so, Ning Yu's heart was cold, and he would still try to drag everything back on track without hesitation.
The pain is inevitable, but it is not an excuse to draw the ground as a prison.
When he was accused of being a traitor by Ning Hui, Ning Yu finally couldn't bear it anymore.
When his father committed suicide after hurting someone, the hatred between the Cui family and the Jane family was thus concluded, but why did the honest father do such an outrageous thing, Ning Yu actually always remembered.
If there is no quarrel and coercion of his mother, his father will not lose his hand and hurt people and then jump off the building to commit suicide, until now he is doing his best to help his brother calm the incident, but his mother will only uncover the pain of the past to accuse.
In fact, everyone has their own pain in their hearts, especially when facing people who bring pain to themselves, the sadness and humiliation in their hearts will resurface.
Everyone feels that they are victims, and they all think that the grievances in their hearts should be released in a targeted manner. This is the typical victim mentality:
People with a victim mentality think that they are being treated unfairly everywhere in their lives, that they are pitiful, and that no one hurts themselves.
In this state of mind, they will blame others for the reasons that happened, and rarely find the reasons from themselves, let alone have the psychology of compensating for grievances with virtue, but on the contrary, they will think that countering violence with violence is the real solution.
From the perspective of the big picture, this is a typical manifestation of irresponsibility and irresponsibility. It is very easy to plant the seeds of hatred in his heart, just like Ning You's son's first reaction after hearing the whole thing, he also thinks that his uncle and grandmother have suffered losses. But he was just a 12-year-old, and even though he began to discern right from wrong, his values didn't really take shape.
As an adult, only know how to release your emotions and do not know how to look at things from a global perspective, such a life is tragic. Just like Ning Shu could use everyone to satisfy his plan against the Jane family, he did not escape the threat of personal safety brought by the calculation of others.
Instead of spending time on people who are old and dead, it is better to improve yourself, become a better self, and start your own life again.
The so-called hatred is not at all, only care about yourself, the other party is not alarmed at all. The best punishment is not to beat their opponents to the ground, but to make them overwhelmed and helpless, isn't it?
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Being able to come out of hatred and pain, Ning Yu is really not easy. She can show extreme calmness and professionalism at work, but she will become emotional when facing her family. Ning Yu thought about his family everywhere, and instead of getting the results he wanted, he indulged everyone.
Although the family is close to each other, they are equally sensitive. People should not be selfish, and they should not speculate on the kindness of others to themselves.