It is also common knowledge that many people raise children in order to be able to rely on them in old age. However, if we want to talk about the hard work of parents in raising their children, then filial piety to the elderly is not excessive. The fault of not raising a godfather and lacking a successor is a problem that every family will face. But parental love is not omnipotent, what should we do to make parental love more effective? Let's take a look! Parents' nurturing grace for their children is greater than god's grace, and parents' nurturing grace for their children has been working hard for decades.
Although adoptive parents have no compassion for their children, it is still very difficult to raise them, especially some families are not very good in their own conditions, and it is difficult to raise children.
More than twenty years ago, a father adopted his daughter when she was a baby, and for many years he took care of her as if she were a jewel in his hand. He is Mr. Yang Deming, whom we are all familiar with. Today, in my memory, he is still so kind, kind, kind, and full of love, which has left a deep impression on me. The story begins when my father was young.
The man adopts a baby and the two live together
Fang Chongcai was born in a small village in Sichuan, and his physical condition was not very good. He was in poor health as a child and was often ill and hospitalized. Once he developed symptoms of encephalitis after a cold and died soon after. This is a very unfortunate thing for Xiaofang Chongcai. Due to the lack of care, Fang Chongcai had a fever when he was a child, and the treatment was not good, resulting in meningitis.
His mother wanted to take Fang Chongcai to the doctor, but the traffic situation was not good, and the family had no money, which delayed his treatment, brought him sequelae, and affected his reaction and intelligence.
Fang Chongcai was still in his thirties and had not yet started a family, which also made his mother very worried, but the conditions of the family coupled with Fang Chongcai's intelligence were different from ordinary people, and even the best girls were not willing to live with him. The mother had to call her son to her side and ask him to help her with the housework. Mother said, you do it yourself, I will work for you to earn money, as long as you can support yourself. The son said: No! I'm looking for someone. Fang Chongcai remained bare-knuckled until a strange man arrived, and Fang Chongcai changed his fate.
One day, Fang Chongcai got up early to go to the field and saw a man holding a child in his arms, wearing a worn-out cotton jacket, and the quilt was also a little broken. He recounted what happened to him and his children in the mountains. The dreamy story of the heavens made this Chongcai villager very moved. The well-meaning people of the village stepped forward to ask him. The man asked the villagers if anyone would like to adopt the child.
It turned out that this man was a relative of the child, because the child's biological parents were not in good condition at home and the child could not afford it, so he wanted the child to be adopted. So he came to me with the child, and I asked him to hand me the little quilt. The child's mother said, "Look how beautiful my son is!" I laughed and said, "Oh! Not bad! The man opened the little quilt holding the baby and showed it to everyone, and sure enough, the quilt was wrapped in a little pink baby.
At this time, a villager said that the child was crying so young that he may not have eaten for several days, and it was impossible for such a child to be adopted. I panicked when I heard it. How could this child be so young? Could it be that he was abducted and sold to be a child bride?" How do you not know? And the situation in the village is not very good, each family has several children, really can't afford it.
Fang Chongcai had been watching from the sidelines, and he felt sorry for the children in the quilt and wanted to adopt them, but he couldn't. He told the people in the village what he thought: The child is my son and should be adopted for him. The people in the village were very happy when they heard about it. So Fang Chongcai took the child home to raise him. The man inquired around the village, and none of the villagers wanted to adopt the child, but fortunately the well-meaning Samaritans took him in for the night.
Fang Chongcai tossed and turned at night, thinking about his child. The next morning, he went to the villager's house where the man lived, wanting to see the children. When he saw this child, he couldn't help but be stunned - this child is his own child! The child's parents are working outside the home, and there are only fathers and mothers at home. My father was ill for many years and life was very difficult. The mother was also frail and sickly. The villagers saw that Fang Chongcai liked the child very much and persuaded him to adopt it.
But other villagers who came to visit the children laughed at Fang Chongcai. They said the child's parents both worked in the city. If his father didn't come back, it would be hard for him to live. Fang Chongcai did not listen to these words. His mother said the child was so stupid. Fang Chongcai was a fool in the village, how could he raise his children! However, the village chief present did not care, and Fang Chongcai's self-reliance was not a problem.
So, the village chief found Fang Chongcai's family, and Fang Chongcai's mother was very worried. He said, "I haven't found a daughter-in-law yet, and now no one in the village wants to marry you." After the village chief's wife learned of this situation, she persuaded her father to let Fang Chongcai bring her son to find her daughter-in-law. The village chief persuaded Fang Chongcai's mother that Fang Chongcai had not yet found a daughter-in-law when he was so old, and it was estimated that it would be difficult in the future, or it would be better to adopt this child, and there was hope in the family in the future.
After thinking about it, Fang Chongcai's mother found that Fang Chongcai really liked the child and left the child behind. When the child grew to be about 6 years old, Fang Chongcai was going to take him to school, which was also the first time that Fang Chongcai left his familiar environment and came to a strange place. The child reluctantly agreed. But. Fang Chongcai was very happy, although he was a big man, he took very careful care of his children. In order to let the children eat better, in addition to farming, Fang Chongcai often went out to work and saved money on the children.
Fathers work around the clock to raise their children
The baby also gradually became healthy, crying like a weak kitten from the beginning. Fang Chongcai is a girl brought back from her hometown when her daughter was in the first grade of primary school. At that time, she was very thin, and after being examined in the hospital, the doctor said that she was anemic. Later, when he reached the age of the hukou, he saw the child's accounting, and Fang Chongcai was able to calculate it steadily, because his daughter Xiaofang finally became his family.
In order to make Xiaofang's life better, when Xiaofang was very young, Fang Chongcai worked to earn money while farming, which was not enough for the life of the father and daughter.
Fang Chongcai felt that she had almost eaten nothing and wore nothing, but she couldn't let Xiaofang do the same. "Xiaofang's parents died when I was very young." Fang Chongcai wiped the beads of sweat from his face with his hand and said, "I have not liked her since I was a child, and I always wanted to get her back." When he went out to work, Fang's mother basically took care of him. Although Xiaofang misses it very much, Fang Chongcai knows that only by working hard can Xiaofang and other children live a normal life.
The life of working outside is also very difficult, not to mention the situation of Fang Chongcai, so when working outside, he will also be bullied. Once, after Fang Chongcai returned from an errand, he saw a girl crying very sadly at the door. He thought: If anything happens to this girl, I must go and save her. So he took the girl home. Fang Chongcai gritted his teeth and insisted, all for his daughter. Later, after the death of Fang's mother, Xiaofang was taken care of by Fang Chongcai's younger brother Fang Chongqian.
Usually, Fang Chongcai is busy making money in the field, and there is no time to take care of Xiaofang, plus Fang Chongcai is not very good at talking, and can only express his concern and love for Xiaofang through behavior. Xiaofang is very beautiful, and very cute, so many people in the village like to call her "Xiaofang", but one day, Fang Chongcai wants to take Xiaofang to school, but Xiaofang does not agree. Why? Although he has always regarded Xiaofang as his own daughter, the whole village knows how he adopted Xiaofang.
The people of the village never shy away from it. Xiaofang was born into an ordinary peasant family, and she did not like to go to school when she was a child. Because she is a rural girl, her parents work in the city. The father was very busy, and there were only two children in the family, her and her sister. The family was very poor. When Xiaofang went to school, she learned about herself from other people's mouths, and her classmates always laughed at her for having a stupid father. Xiao Fang had once been estranged from Fang Chongcai.
She hoped that she could have a normal home like other classmates, and even blamed Fang Chongcai for adopting her. "I'm a very ordinary girl and I'm lucky." Xiao Fang looked at the handsome, lively and cheerful boy in front of her and smiled. "Your luck is really good! Fang Chongcai didn't know either, he only knew that he was trying to make Xiaofang's life better.
Xiaofang sometimes loves her father very much, but she is jealous of the other children. So, when her biological parents found out, they came to her, and Xiaofang was very happy. Fang Chongcai is a shrewd and capable businessman, and he has a lot of ideas for Xiaofang, asking her to go to Fang Chongcai. After Xiaofang found Boss Fang, Boss Fang introduced her to a suitable job. Xiao Fang's biological parents asked Fang Chongcai to meet him, and Fang Chongcai reacted slowly, but he was also an understanding person.
He also knew that this day would come sooner or later, and when Xiaofang's biological parents sent Xiaofang away, they also had their own reasons, they didn't want to make Xiaofang sad, so they agreed to Xiaofang's request. Fang Chongcai came to the school with his son and met Xiaofang's father. Fang Chongcai said to Xiao Fang, "Xiao Fang, let me tell you a story!" "What story?" Xiao Fang asked. Xiaofang played a holiday at her biological parents' house, and as soon as the school started, Fang Chongcai couldn't help but feel missed and brought Xiaofang home.
Although Xiaofang looks a little lost, she also knows that her biological parents can't let him stay, because life at home is also very difficult, there is no extra money to go to school, and although her life with her adoptive father is not as good as that of the original family, her adoptive father is still very good to himself.
The daughter married far away, and the adoptive father accompanied her
In this way, under the care of Fang Chongcai, Xiaofang grew up, and after completing her studies, Xiaofang took the initiative to work in advance to earn money, which can help alleviate family conflicts, and she also reached the age of self-reliance. When Xiaofang first came to work in the city from the countryside, in order to make a living, she had to give up the opportunity to go to college to become a temporary worker, and she got up early every day and ran between various posts. However, the good times did not last long. Although he was unwilling to give up Xiaofang, Fang Chongcai still agreed to send Xiaofang away in tears.
Xiaofang works outside, feeling very happy in her heart, and feels that she has finally seen the outside world. When I was working, I also met a lot of friends, and later Xiaofang also brought back a boyfriend. This made Boss Fang very satisfied, and he decided to buy a house for his son. Xiaofang drove a second-hand bicycle to fang Chongcai for help. After some inquiry, Boss Fang found Fang Chongcai and said, "I want to buy a car!" Fang Chongcai's family was very happy and began to discuss marriage with Xiaofang's boyfriend.
But Fang Chongcai did not want to think of XiaoFang leaving him to marry so far away. Xiaofang is the daughter brought out by Fang Chongcai, when she was very young, Fang Chongcai gave her a nice name called "Little Sun", because she has been a sunny, happy and healthy child since she was a child. Seeing that his brother was a little sad, Xiaofang's uncle Fang Chongqian proposed that his past life could allow Fang Chongcai to follow Xiaofang to life.
Xiao Fang's mother-in-law thought about it and agreed to this request. Now that Xiaofang has grown up, she also has the ability to support Fang Chongcai, and Fang Chongcai has followed Xiaofang for a lifetime, which not only alleviates the pain of missing his daughter, but also Xiaofang can take better care of her father. Xiaofang felt that as long as she and her mother-in-law discussed well, she should give Fang Chongcai a home. Doing so will not only not affect oneself, but will also contribute to the stability and development of the families of both sides. But how does that work? Xiaofang also had no objection to this proposal.
So after Xiaofang got married, Fang Chongcai lived with Xiaofang and her in-laws, just a pair of chopsticks. Xiaofang and her mother-in-law are from the same village, so the two can be regarded as very harmonious living together. But Fang Chongcai didn't think so. He felt that his relationship with his mother-in-law was becoming more and more tense, and even a little distant. At first, the family got along very well, although she lived with her daughter, But Fang Chongcai did not wait at home every day to eat and drink, and sometimes went out to work odd jobs to earn money.
Over time, problems gradually came to light. I felt that I should help her. Xiao Zhao, who works at a company, said, "I feel lucky because I found a man who can make me happy." "Xiaofang was born in the 1970s. Xiaofang and her husband went out to work soon after they got married, after all, the conditions of the in-laws are not very good, and now that her father has come, the future children, money is a big problem.
After Xiaofang and her husband left, Fang Chongcai felt particularly lonely, after all, he had spent most of his life in this small mountain village and had never gone so far. Therefore, Xiaofang and her mother-in-law discussed letting them live in the village. With the passage of time, Xiaofang's in-laws also abandoned Fang Chongcai, causing some friction between the two sides.
Fang Chongcai began to call Xiaofang, and the long-term conflict between her father and in-laws also began to make Xiaofang feel impatient. Fang Chongcai said on the phone: "Are you a father?" I'm Grandma Fang, and I want to ask, what's wrong with your father lately? Xiao Fang picked up the stubble: "Dad." She thought it would be nice if her in-laws could let her father come and live with her, and he always caused her trouble.
After so many years of hard work, my daughter refused to acknowledge her father
In 2015, Fang Chongcai finally returned to his hometown, but Fang Chongcai did not expect to return to his hometown, Xiao Fang abandoned him, used to give him money to buy things, and now there is nothing. Fang Chongcai's heart was very uncomfortable. He wanted Xiaofang to separate himself. But Xiaofang disagreed. Fang Chongcai had no choice but to talk to XiaoFang. Xiao Fang saw the helplessness on his face. Fang Chongcai wanted to call Xiaofang, but found that Xiaofang did not even answer the rest of the family.
The family wanted to ask Xiaofang a truth, no matter who the old father was, he could not get married. Fang Chongcai went to the police station to report that he had been abducted and sold to a woman named Xiaofang. The police quickly arrested her and sent her to the public security organs for investigation. However, Fang Chongcai unexpectedly received an application from Xiaofang to terminate the adoption relationship.
After the Fang family received the petition, they were surprised, is this parenting relationship to be dissolved? But this is not the case. It happened in a car accident two years ago. At that time, the Fang family was sitting in their own car driving the car. One of his friends came back from outside, and he happily parked the car. There were some things that the Fang family had not yet figured out.
The court held in May 2016 that Mr. Fang was 31 years old at the time of adoption, was unmarried, and had not signed any written agreement or formalities with his biological parents. Therefore, Fang Chongcai was sentenced to bear the responsibilities of raising Xiaofang and supervising Xiaofang, and compensate her for maintenance, mental losses and medical expenses totaling more than 100,000 yuan. Xiaofang appealed to the Beijing No. 2 Intermediate People's Court. The court upheld Xiaofang's claim for adoption.
After receiving the court's judgment, Fang was naturally ecstatic. Because, that means she can get the most discretionary and fair judgment in the court, and can make choices about her lifestyle and values without any restrictions. However, Fang Chongcai felt that the five thunderbolts were at the top, why his hard-earned daughter suddenly had nothing to do with him.
Fang's family was not satisfied with this result, so they continued to appeal, but the second-instance trial result upheld the original judgment, and the Fang family accepted the reality, and the adoption relationship between Xiaofang and Fang Chongcai was completely dissolved.
Although the family accepted this result, emotionally, Xiaofang is a white-eyed wolf, and this matter also deeply hit Fang Chongcai, since this incident, Fang Chongcai has some defects and has become more reticent.
The old father thought of his daughter all the time and never came back
When Xiaofang sued Fang Chongcai, it attracted widespread media attention. Because his behavior has seriously violated the rights of others, such as the right to reputation and the right to portrait, and these rights are all things that he did not realize before the lawsuit. Therefore, the court convicted Fang Chongcai of tortious rights. After the lawsuit, Fang Chongcai sat in front of the house, looked at the road in front of the door, imagined that one day his Xiaofang would come out of the house, and said, "Daddy, I'm back again." ”
When the reporter wanted to help Fang Chongcai contact Xiaofang, Fang Chongcai told reporters that his Xiaofang no longer cared about him and no longer cared about him. Calls in the past went unanswered. The reporter heard Fang Chongcai say in his own voice on the phone: "Do you know my name?" Call Fang Chongcai, do you know why I am like this?" I don't know..." The other person replied very crisply. When Fang Chongcai was a child, he could only hold a few photos of Xiaofang, look at them, and stroke them.
In the past two years, Xiaofang has often visited her biological parents, but her biological parents' home is not far from Fang Chongcai's home, but Xiaofang does not want to go back to see her adoptive father. Because XiaoFang's adoptive father has been dead for many years. Xiaofang's adoptive father is a retiree. Before his death, Xiaofang had not been in contact with her adoptive mother. This made Xiaofang very sad. Since the termination of the adoption relationship, Xiaofang has promised not to continue to pay Fang Chongcai's living expenses.
Xiaofang completely forgot who raised her, and he gave his life to raise her. In her life, there was nothing to remember. Both of her parents had passed away, and there was only one child, and she lived with him. Xiaofang lived very tired, but she was very happy. On her deathbed, it was who kept her alive, saved her from abandonment or death, and gave her a home.
Although Xiaofang no longer supports Fang Chongcai, Fang Chongcai has his own older brother, and Fang Chongcai has been taking care of him for all these years. After Fang Chongcai's death in March this year, Fang Chongcai's younger brother Fang Chongchun also passed away, leaving two children and a father with difficulties in life, which became the biggest concern for Xiaofang. Later, a reporter visited Fang Chongcai and clearly saw that Fang Chongcai was much older than before.
Fang Chongqian said that he often advised his brother not to think about Xiaofang again, but after this fatal blow, Fang Chongcai's mental and intellectual condition was worse than before, and he even had a little mental problem.
Although his brother's health is getting better and better every day, Fang Chongqian has not abandoned his brother, and the family is taking care of Fang Chongcai, but the situation at home is not very good. Fang Chongcai had just gotten married, and there were two children in the family, he was the eldest, the second and third. He is a cheerful man who often chats with others. But since he had children, he had become reticent. Fang Chongcai used to be able to go out to do odd jobs to support his family, but now his physical condition is getting worse and worse, and he has to stay at home.
Nowadays, Fang Chongcai lives with his brother and will help his brother every day, but no amount of effort will help, Fang Chongqian and his wife have been living with Fang Chongcai, and they are afraid that they will not be able to remember the blows they have suffered. Now Fang Chongcai already has a son, the son's name is Xiaofang, 8 and a half years old this year, has entered the third grade of primary school. Xiaofang's family is a relatively wealthy family, and there are two children in the family. Now, Xiaofang has gone to middle school. Although there was no Xiaofang, fang Chongcai was not an ancient nothingness now.
After receiving the report, many people also knew About Fang Chongcai and wanted to help Fang Chongcai, and the village also provided financial help to Fang Chongcai. In this process, Fang Chongcai also suffered some influences and blows. In his heart, he felt that he should thank the people in the society who helped him the most- the villagers. Fang Chongcai was originally a rural baby. In the face of many people in the society, Fang Chongqian said that his family can still make some money, and everyone is not so easy, so he did not accept these help.
Even now, Fang Chongcai often misses the daughter who ruthlessly abandoned him, and when she is delirious, she will talk about finding her, just wondering if one day Fang will realize her mistake and come back to see her father.
conclusion
Fang Chongcai took Xiao Fang away from a person, and he did not expect that after more than 20 years, he would become like this. Fang Chongcai's Xiaofang has become the "white-eyed wolf" in his eyes. But such a gentle and lovely woman has a cold and ruthless heart. Worked hard, but raised a white-eyed wolf. Fang Chongcai, like many parents in the world, puts all his love into his children.
Sentimentality is the great righteousness of parents, do not let their parents like Fang Chongcai, day after day in the village to enjoy the old age, waiting for the daughter who may never come back.