Chen Guoqiang, 46 years old this year, was evaluated by relatives and friends as a man of great affection and righteousness, because he still took out 100,000 yuan to treat his stepson Xiao Liang in the case of his debt of 200,000 yuan, and he was a stepfather to this point.
Chen Guoqiang and 43-year-old He Fang have been married for only 3 years, just half a year after marriage, the stepson Xiao Liang was diagnosed with a brain tumor, Chen Guoqiang calculated the 100,000 savings that he planned to repay the debt, and thought, the repayment can be delayed, but the illness cannot be delayed, and he gritted his teeth and pulled it out.
Xiao Liang was healed with the help of his stepfather, who in a sense was also his savior.
However, he pays attention to it, which does not mean that his wife is also exquisite, and his wife He Fang, that is, Xiao Liang's birth mother, ran away from home in October last year after her husband cured her son's illness, not only taking away her stepson, but also blackmailing her husband.
What really happened between the two that made He Fang become so gracious and revenge?
In order to find He Fang, Chen Guoqiang specially came to the home of his father-in-law He Zhizhong, and when his mother-in-law Li Xiuying saw Chen Guoqiang, Li bluntly said that he did not recognize this son-in-law, and his father-in-law He Zhizhong accused Chen Guoqiang of domestic violence against his daughter.
Chen Guoqiang admitted that he did have a physical conflict with He Fang over trivial matters, but there was no exaggeration from his father-in-law.
Chen Guoqiang took all his savings to cure his stepson's illness, and then he turned into a domestic violence man? What's behind this shift?
Chen Guoqiang went into debt to treat his stepson
Originally, Xiao Liang's attending doctor told Chen Guoqiang that Xiao Liang's brain tumor may have developed for five years and is not a new disease, which made Chen Guoqiang suspect He Fang's motivation to marry himself.
When Chen Guoqiang and He Fang knew each other for three months, He Fang proposed to bring Xiao Liang, who was about to become an adult, and at first Chen Guoqiang did not agree, but then he Fang could not help it, so he hung Xiao Liang on his own household registration, and Xiao Liang even changed his surname to Chen.
But half a year later, Xiao Liang was diagnosed with a brain tumor, and after Chen Guoqiang helped his stepson to cure the disease, He Fang and Xiao Liang disappeared again, so how could Chen Guoqiang not suspect it?
Chen Guoqiang's suspicion of He Fang, his father-in-law denied, in April 2018, in order to help his son-in-law pay off his debts, he had lent Chen Guoqiang 80,000 yuan, if his family had a plan for his son-in-law, why borrow money?
The two sides insisted on their own opinions, and finally the He family pushed Chen Guoqiang out of the door, and the communication could not continue.
In order to understand the truth, the emotional mediator specially contacted He Fang, who had been missing for several months, and as soon as He Fang saw the mediator, she took out her mobile phone, which was full of photos of the scars left by her husband when he beat himself.
The reason why He Fang ran away from home was that she was scared by her husband and did not return to her mother's house, because she was afraid that Chen Guoqiang would bring trouble to her mother's family after she chased after her.
He Fang looked aggrieved and saw that what he said was not false.
He Fang looked aggrieved
In order to mediate the conflict, the mediator called Chen Guoqiang and He Fang together, and He Fang stood away from the old man after seeing her husband, full of palpitations.
Chen Guoqiang did not admit that he hit He Fang, but after seeing the photos taken by He Fang, he finally admitted that he was dropped by He Fang's mobile phone at that time, and his emotions were out of control before he hit He Fang.
Chen Guoqiang and He Fang had a two-year-old daughter, and he asked He Fang to take care of her daughter, but He Fang chose to accompany her son.
In Chen Guoqiang's view, Xiao Liang got this disease, only temporarily cured, and will recur in the future, and he has no financial ability to continue treatment, so he forced Xiao Liang to leave home to go out to work, and He Fang made a choice, either to go home to take care of his daughter, or to divorce.
He Fang did not return home, so Chen Guoqiang filed for divorce twice.
Obviously, Xiao Liang is not Chen Guoqiang's own son, Chen Guoqiang does not want to be dragged down by his stepson, but Xiao Liang is He Fang's own son, and He Fang cannot give up his son.
Xiao Liang, who was thrown out of the house, has very complicated feelings for his stepfather, on the one hand, his stepfather really cured him of his illness and had the grace of saving his life, on the other hand, his stepfather turned his face and did not recognize anyone, and his desire for control was extremely strong, even when his grandparents died, his stepfather did not allow him to go home to mourn.
Before marrying He Fang, Chen Guoqiang had experienced two failed marriages, both of which parted ways because of life and personality reasons.
His father-in-law, He Zhizhong, reprimanded Chen Guoqiang
The focus of the contradiction between the two sides lies in money and integrity, Chen Guoqiang in order to maintain the marriage, take all the wealth to treat the stepson, but when the debt struck, he buried suspicion and dissatisfaction with He Fang in his heart, and finally evolved into domestic violence to vent pressure.
Chen Guoqiang did have economic pressure, he bought an excavator and spent four or five hundred thousand, for which he also carried 200,000 debts, but the excavator worked a lot of money, the monthly income was more than 10,000 yuan, and he could repay the debt in a few years.
However, because of the treatment of the stepson, not only did he spend all his savings, but he did not have time to work, resulting in a sharp decline in income, if the stepson's illness was not completely cured, it would be a heavy drag in the future, and reality forced Chen Guoqiang to change his face.
Moreover, after He Fang ran away from home, he ignored his daughter, and Chen Guoqiang felt that He Fang was irresponsible.
With the efforts of the mediator, the two sides came to the local community for mediation, and the community cadres asked both sides to relax, and for the sake of the common daughter, they should try to reconcile.
Chen Guoqiang did not want to divorce in his heart, he did not want to have money and money, so he apologized to He Fang, but He Fang did not want to forgive her husband, after all, in addition to domestic violence, her husband's attitude of picking up his son from home made her unable to accept.
Both sides have unsolvable knots in their hearts, and the mediation has not been solved in the end, and the temporary stalemate has come down, and no one knows where the future will go.
Husband and wife standoff
Chen Guoqiang's mistake was that good things were not done to the end, so that suspicion ruined everything, and in the end, the success was lost.
Chen Guoqiang had experienced two failed marriages before, the first marriage was that the first wife always suspected him, so that he could not stand the divorce; and the second marriage was that he began to be jealous of the second wife, and the other party could not stand the divorce.
It can be seen that Chen Guoqiang's two marriages were ruined by suspicion, which made him sick in his heart and continued to the third marriage.
It can be seen that Chen Guoqiang wants to live a good life with He Fang, otherwise he would not have made so much effort to treat Xiao Liang's illness, but the more he paid, the more bottomless his heart became, the more afraid he was of losing, and finally the jealous illness was committed again under heavy pressure.
Just because the doctor said that this disease has developed for at least five years, it made him paranoid that He Fang concealed Xiao Liang's condition before marriage, this speculation is groundless, after all, Xiao Liang felt that his ears were uncomfortable at that time, and it was Chen Guoqiang who took the initiative to pull Xiao Liang to the hospital to check out the brain tumor.
Maybe this disease has really developed for five years, but it does not mean that He Fang and Xiao Liang know, if they knew it earlier, the treatment would not be delayed to today.
Chen Guoqiang was overwhelmed by suspicion, and he guessed that He Fang was marrying in order to find a cash machine for his son's treatment, and finally spilled the anger of this groundless speculation on He Fang.
Good things are the root cause of Chen Guoqiang's wealth and wealth.
The two were married in that year
He Fang also had a mistake, that is, he did not communicate well with her husband after the problem, and aggravated the distrust of each other by snubbing her daughter.
It is reasonable to say that the husband spent money to help his son cure the disease, and He Fang should be happy, but she did not show enough patience to live a good life with Chen Guoqiang after her son recovered, which led chen Guoqiang to have an opinion on her.
Chen Guoqiang did not do anything to He Fang at the beginning, just questioned, and the reason why he finally did it was definitely
He Fang
There is no patience to explain, or even tit-for-tat.
In fact, it is easy to explain this problem, since his father can lend 80,000 yuan to his son-in-law, indicating that his family can afford to pay for treatment, then Xiao Liang checked out the problem before marriage, as a mother, how can he not give treatment, and only treat after marriage? After all, tumors cannot be dragged on.
However, He Fang did not explain that after clashing with Chen Guoqiang, he also handled the problem by taking his son to run away from home and blackmailing her husband, how could she not aggravate Chen Guoqiang's suspicions?
Domestic violence is certainly not right, but this domestic violence can obviously be avoided, perhaps He Fang has no communication skills, perhaps disdain for communication, her various performances are like a cheater, no wonder Chen Guoqiang's emotions are out of control.
It is understandable that the heart of the rescue is urgent, but the daughter is also a daughter, saying that it does not matter, how can it not make people feel more?
Although the husband and wife have mistakes, but they are not decisive mistakes, the decisive mistakes are still the problem of money, if Chen Guoqiang is a rich man, will he end up with this ending?
Chen Guoqiang used 100,000 yuan to help his stepson cure the brain tumor, speaking of conscience, curing this disease only cost 100,000 yuan to belong to the conscience price, even so it also spent Chen Guoqiang's savings.
And Chen Guoqiang is not worried about the money spent, but worried about whether this money is worth it, on the one hand, after he cures Xiao liang, will he give himself a pension? On the other hand, what if the disease is repeated in the future?
No matter what kind of worry, it is related to the word money, if Chen Guoqiang is a rich man, he will not consider the pension problem at all, even if the stepson is sick again in the future, he will continue to pay for treatment.
But Chen Guoqiang is a middle-aged man with an unstable income, carrying 200,000 debts on his body, spending 100,000 savings for the treatment of his stepson, and this economic pressure has reached the upper limit of his bearing.
Therefore, once Xiao Liang is ill again, Chen Guoqiang can no longer have the ability to help, he is afraid that his wife will accuse him of throwing up his hands, and then propose a divorce, instead of waiting, it is better to start early and force his wife to choose.
In Chen Guoqiang's view, the stepson is about to become an adult, and he has no obligation to continue to raise, in essence, it is still because he has no money to raise.
Chen Guoqiang
postscript:
After watching the ending of Chen Guoqiang and He Fang, I sighed that ordinary people do not lack the heart of achieving greatness, but on the road of chasing greatness, most of the time strength is not allowed.
Chen Guoqiang can empty the family foundation for his stepson to treat the disease, this matter is the upper limit of a stepfather's sense of responsibility, the reason why he is only one step away from greatness is only because he does not have so much money.
Just because he has no money, he has become a person who is suspicious and jealous, and finally becomes a domestic violence man, doesn't he want to be a generous person? Didn't he want his wife to follow him with a dead heart?
At this point, it will be very difficult for the marriage between the two to be maintained, as long as the economic foundation is laid here, the contradictions between the two sides will not be fundamentally resolved.
I only hope that He Fangnian will get together and disperse for the sake of Chen Guoqiang's life-saving grace for his son, and really go to that step, and not be too cruel when dividing the family property, after all, the two people still have a daughter, and she still needs to grow up healthily.
Of course, it is better not to divorce, but how far to go to unravel the knots in the hearts of both parties?