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I have more and more single women around me.
A 35-year-old female friend who insists on working and insisting on buying a house on her own said that probably the most comfortable time in this life is not to get married in a hurry, nor to look at anyone's face.
Her parents are more enlightened people, never urged their daughter to get married, but comforted her daughter and said that as long as you live a happy life, whether single or married, there is no relationship, they are willing to accept.
And a woman who has been single for a long time probably has these kinds of mentalities.
1. Hurt
A woman who has been single for a long time, she may have been hurt by love and by a man in a certain relationship.
She also once dreamed of getting married, looking forward to having her own happiness, having her own children, just following people's wishes every day.
When she wanted to get married, the man who could marry her abandoned her, and when she didn't want to get married, she didn't really meet her true love, her own.
Some women have been hurt by love, she will learn the lessons of the previous relationship, let herself be more involved in the next relationship, better protect herself.
And some women have been hurt by feelings, but they hold the mentality of being afraid of the well rope for 10 years, because they see through a man, but they think they have seen through the entire group of men.
In the relationship, these things come and go, either men are let down by women, or women are let down by men, or women hurt men, or men hurt women.
A woman who has been single for a long time, a woman who has never had the idea of marriage, because she has been hurt, so feels that men are unreliable, it is better to rely on herself.
If what you like is a long-term single woman who has been let down by men, please give her 10 times the tenderness and love, slowly soften her heart, slowly open her heart, when she begins to trust you, she will definitely give you more love, more happiness.
2. No confidence in managing feelings
Some women who have been single for a long time, even if they are in the original family, living a happy family life, even if the friends around them are in the happiness of marriage, she still has no confidence in herself.
She believed that there was true love in this world, and she believed that in this world, some happiness would be immortal; but she always felt that these were someone else's, and she had no half-cent relationship with her.
A woman who has been single for a long time, when she has a deep desire to get married, when she really wants to rely on a man, she doesn't have the slightest confidence in herself.
She always felt that there was no one to rely on, and happiness was just a flower in the water and a moon in the mirror, and it would not be eternal after all.
After all, feelings are full of changes, and marriages are full of uncertainty, but I have to deny that when you can live with someone you really like, it is already a great happiness.
In love, women please learn to be brave, don't give yourself so limited, so many rules, when true love comes, there are never those so-called frameworks.
Women in the relationship, please learn to have more confidence in themselves, more confidence in men, the last man you like, you did not enter the palace of marriage, can only show that you are not suitable for each other's happiness.
Because you are not destined to be happy, you can't go to the end, and the one that really suits you is already by your side.
3. Make money addictive
Nowadays, more and more women feel that being a stay-at-home mother is a kind of self-insult, and many women enjoy the addiction of making money.
Now life, which has taken countless times, has once again confirmed that after marriage, a woman's economic income determines her happiness after marriage, and also determines whether her marriage has the right to choose at the time.
A woman who really knows how to make money is addicted and addicted to saving money instead of a woman who is first in love is truly sober in the world.
In this life, women can live wantonly, there are indeed not many, because there are too many identities and labels, trapping women.
There are many women who have seen through, instead of looking for uncertainty in love, rather than studying in love, men love their own clues, and it is really better to spend time on themselves.
A woman who likes to make money and is addicted to life has her own heights and goals for life.
A woman who has been single for a long time will prefer the feeling of making money because of her life, there are no feelings to rely on and no men to talk to.
She will spend more time in her work, and her sense of achievement and happiness in life comes from work, but also from making money, and also from saving money.
A woman who has been single for a long time, after all, has no one in her life but herself, and she must improve herself, for the safety of her future work.
But in this life, long and short, who can say for sure?
Of course, a woman who has been single for a long time is not that she cannot get married, but that she actively chooses not to get married.
Whether married or unmarried, I still feel that feelings are something worth experiencing, and getting married is something that needs to be tried.
Whether there is marriage or not, women must maintain financial independence, whether there is a lover or not, women must love themselves well.
Although you have suffered some losses in your relationship, and have suffered some rejection and hurt, it is precisely because happiness is difficult to find, so you must try more.
Someone said, "If you want peace, you get married; if you want to be free, you are celibate." ”
For women, whether married or unmarried, whether they have children or not, they may regret it.
So everything that life gives you, if you are in fact prompted, do not deliberately resist, some experiences can be tried, it is also a blessing.
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