The Zhou Zhigang family of the hit drama "The World of Man", their parents have no culture, but they are properly "the home of the bully":
The eldest son, Zhou Bingyi, and daughter Zhou Rong, were both admitted to Peking University after resuming the college entrance examination;
Zhou Nan, the son of Zhou Bingkun, and Feng Yue, daughter of Zhou Rong, were admitted to Tsinghua respectively.
According to the logic of the screenwriter, Zhou Cong (son of Zhou Bingkun), the only one in the third generation who has not yet taken the university, is estimated to be Peking University Tsinghua, and the worst is also the Renmin University, Fudan and the like.
The screenwriter is bold enough. Those who have a little understanding of the current situation of education in China do not dare to make it up.
Probably out of the consideration that "such a family education is too idealistic", the screenwriter did not let Zhou Nan go to the United States to study at Tsinghua University; not only that, but also let him see the righteousness and courage, leaving a touch of tragedy for the "Home of The Scholar".
Sacrificing Zhou Nan, the screenwriter has roughly two considerations:
The first is to tell the audience that even the most perfect family education will have shortcomings, and it is difficult to exist in reality that the "ideal family" of all the students admitted to Peking University Tsinghua University is difficult to exist.
The second is for the sake of plot twists. The current plot is around 1992 and 1993, which is precisely the period when the mainland clearly put forward the great turning point and great development of the market economy. In this magnificent era, the first protagonist Zhou Bingkun will definitely make great achievements, otherwise he will be embarrassed to be the protagonist.
Zhou Bingkun (second son of the Zhou family)
But now his identity is that of the logistics director of the publishing house, the official establishment, the iron rice bowl. According to the traditional concept, having such an identity and going to the sea to do business is very unrealistic, and it is not in line with its "down-to-earth duty" personality.
Only with the help of external forces can we completely break Zhou Bingkun's "sense of establishment" and force him to go to the sea and make great achievements.
What kind of external force can get him out of the burden of weaving? Like Luo Shibin and water self-flowing, squatting prison. They went to prison because of "buying and selling backwards", but after the reform and opening up, they had no baggage and showed their fists.
How can Zhou Bingkun be put in jail? The best thing to do is to fight.
But he has such a good personality, how can he fight casually? The object most likely to be involved in the fight is Luo Shibin, who has a complicated relationship with him and resembles an enemy and a friend.
Locke Shibin
However, because Luo Shibin helped a lot in the deception of Sun Chaochao (one of Zhou Bingkun's best friends), and later invested in Jichun (even if it was to help Zhou Bingyi, then vice mayor), the relationship between the two has been greatly eased.
The relationship is so relaxed, even become friends, and then let the two of them fight, it is more difficult. How do you get two good friends to fight?
There is only one way: an event that broke out and left both of them on the verge of collapse.
There is only one event that can make the two collapse at the same time - Zhou Nan will die, and he will not be injured. If Zhou Nan was only injured or even seriously injured, his two fathers (his adoptive father Zhou Bingkun and his biological father Luo Shibin) would take care of him with all his might, but he was more like a comrade-in-arms.
Sacrificing Zhou Nan, Luo Shibin felt that the sky had collapsed, Zhou Bingkun felt trapped, and the two men would accuse each other when they met at the airport, and finally lost their minds and fought hard.
Zhou Nan (Adopted son of Zhou Bingkun)
As for the degree of play, light injury, minor injury or serious injury, vegetative, depends on the mood of the screenwriter. Since he wanted to put Zhou Bingkun in prison, serious injury was necessary.
- Got it? It's all routine.
Well, back to the point. Two generations of 6 children, 4 admitted to Peking University Tsinghua, although exaggerated, but the family education "code" revealed in the play, is still very valuable.
First, in family education, the role of mothers is irreplaceable.
The "father Zhou Zhigang" in "The World of Man" belongs to a more typical image of "stubborn parents", and in terms of children's education, the method is simple and rude.
Zhou Zhigang (father of Zhou Bingkun)
Fortunately, he was away all year round, returning home only once every two or three years, and there were few opportunities to educate his children.
Even so, when he and his younger son Zhou Bingkun quarreled, it was also magnificent, angry, angry, and dying, and once they didn't pay attention to each other for several years.
In the Zhou family's family education system, the central role is played by the mother Li Suhua.
She can't read one in big characters, and her husband's letter must be read to her son, so why can she teach 2 children who were admitted to Peking University (Zhou Bingyi, Zhou Rong) and 2 grandchildren who were admitted to Tsinghua (Zhou Nan, Feng Yue)?
Illiterate does not mean uneducated. Culture can be mastered by watching plays and listening to plays, folk customs and folk customs, and villagers.
Li Suhua (mother of Zhou Bingkun)
Like most ordinary working women, her tutoring implements only two concepts:
First, we have parents in our family, that is, the child's father, listen to the father. It's called establishing authority, establishing rules — daddy is the rule.
If Zhou Zhigang is not working outside all year round, this concept is a double-edged sword. Zhou Zhigang is grumpy, and if he is at home all day, it is difficult to become a good parent.
Thankfully, he was out of town, and it was easy to get around—he became the shadow parent. Big and small affairs, in the end, depend on the mother, the mother bows to the government, the father becomes a puppet, anyway, you are thousands of kilometers away, the whip is out of reach, things ask you for instructions and then decide, yellow broccoli is not a problem of cold or cold, but a problem of mold or rot.
On the one hand, our family has authority and rules, that is, your "shadow father", everyone must respect him; on the other hand, this "shadow father" can't even see the shadow all day, can only listen to the mother, when the mother can "act cheaply", our family mother is the master.
Li Suhua is a kind mother who is both principled and very kind, and has a high emotional intelligence. This allows her to deal with family issues with ease.
Second, our family's three children, the old three Zhou Bingkun is "old knotty", the old mother manages him well, the old zhou Bingyi, the old second Zhou Rong, you two please go to the toilet.
This is a very wise aspect of traditional family education: parents have limited ability and energy, and can only focus on the weakest and smallest, and the large basic belongs to free-range breeding, and even the large ones have to bring the small ones.
The result? This family does not lack love, the old knot is the most pampered, the eldest and the second elder must also cherish the "old knot";
This family does not lack independence, the eldest and second can be independent very early;
On the one hand, the eldest and second eldest also want to compete for favors, but they also want to get the praise of their mother by taking care of the "old knotty" brother.
——The perfect tutoring environment was formed. Envy no?
Zhou Bingyi (Zhou's son)
Second, parents should understand that you are not raising children, but people, a person who goes from "not independent" to eventually independent.
If you don't raise your child as an adult, but just raise a "minor", the "product" is not qualified, and your family education is a failure.
Our goal is to make children "adults" – not only in age, but in all aspects of psychology, physiology, character and more.
Zhou Bingkun's change in attitude towards Zhou Nan reflects this.
Zhou Nan and Zhou Bingkun are not related by blood, and their biological father is Luo Shibin. Luo Shibin, who has become a rich man, hopes that his son will "recognize his ancestors and return to his ancestors" and inherit the industry, and Zhou Nan's heart is moved - this is understandable, who does not want to have better conditions and create a better future?
Water artesian, Luo Shibin
Zhou Bingkun was very disgusted with this at first, "Our family is bitter, you will chew the bitterness and swallow it" (to the effect) was his initial attitude.
But then he changed, the child grew older, the circle could not be circled, and his own affairs - such as whether to study abroad, and even love - were decided by themselves.
Having such a father is Zhou Nan's luck. Many parents do not understand this when they are old, and the tighter they grasp their children, the farther away their children are from you.
Third, don't miss the golden upbringing of 0-6 years old.
Zhou Rong's daughter Feng Yue was raised by Zhou Bingkun when she was 2 years old, and when the child was older, she tried to save her feelings with her daughter, but she could not come back.
Fourth, if you miss the golden parenting period, the way to make up for it is to fully respect the child's growth and space.
Living in her brother-in-law's house since childhood, Feng Yue is more sensitive and mature than other children. Everyone else has a father and mother, she does not, she is more eager to get the sustenance of the soul, let herself have something to rely on.
"Looking for dependence" is essentially "looking for a mother" and finding a sense of security. In her birth mother, Zhou Rong, she did not have a sense of security; the one who could give her a sense of security was her cousin Zhou Nan.
The best way for Zhou Rong to save her relationship with her daughter is to respect the growth and space of her children: because you left your parents prematurely, you are more mature than other children, and your heart is richer than other children.
But she committed the big "two" (more than the date of February 22, 2022), and peeked into her daughter's diary, causing the mother-daughter relationship to enter the freezing point.
Feng Yue (daughter of Zhou Rong)
The more sensitive the child, the more they need independent private space, and the parents must respect it. Fortunately, Zhou Rong's open-minded attitude on the issue of her daughter's early love (in stark contrast to Feng Yue's eldest aunt) saved the situation.
Fifth, other people's family examination 100 Peking University Tsinghua are other people's business, do not compare, do not "blow the wind" for their children.
Qiao Chunyan made such a stupid mistake, Feng Yue was admitted to Tsinghua, her son Niu Niu "only scored 150 points in 5 subjects", Vice President Qiao was furious, what was the result?
Niu Niu ran away, went to the construction site to move bricks, wanted to "fight for his parents", and was able to go home with the help of the police. When I came home, the ash on my face was three feet thick.
Qiao Chunyan herself also reflected: "I study so poorly, why let the cow and cow study well?" ”
Qiao Chunyan (Daughter of Zhou Zhigang)
She is also not right, parents learn poorly, does not mean that children are necessarily poor in learning, genes are not the determining factor. The determining factor is the family environment.
Qiao Chunyan had a hot temper, and her husband Cao Debao could hit the kang from the dinner table, and the child was so angry that he took a bowl and ran to eat it. In such a family environment, it is difficult for children to learn well.
Compared with the Zhou Bingkun family, it is all typical good temper:
Zhou Bingkun couldn't kick a fart out of three feet;
Zheng Juan has lived for more than 40 episodes, and she has not spoken loudly;
Zheng Juan (Zhou Bingkun's daughter-in-law)
Zhou Nan and Feng Yue have early signs of love, and they are all about to become a head, and they are very kind;
Grandma Li Suhua does not smile or speak when she sees people, and Grandpa Zhou Zhigang has a hot temper, but he is not at home for many years, and the impact can be ignored;
In addition to the little grandson Zhou Cong, who is not very good at talking (such as playing chess with his grandfather and saying "Grandpa is definitely dead this time", but he does not know that grandpa is most taboo about this), his temper is not bad.
Zhou Rong (daughter of the Zhou family)
What does a good temper mean? High emotional intelligence, willing to consider problems from the perspective of the other party, and have empathy.
Good temper is good tutoring, there is no doubt about that. The Zhou family has taken so many Peking University Tsinghua exams, and a good temper is probably the key.
Gao Jinguo, a senior editor with a high online name, is the author of 26 books such as "Good Parents Raise Good Children - 35 Educational Thinking Lessons for Parents", "Interesting Chinese History for Children (12 volumes)", "Stories of Teenagers Reading History (3 volumes)", "Life is a Practice", "The Layer of Window Paper of the Tang Dynasty", "Those Things in the State of Qi" and so on.
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