Yi said that the gathering place for women's growth, may you not wear armor, you can resist thousands of life is not easy, welcome attention.
I still want to talk about Zheng Juan in "The World", in my opinion, it is such a woman who redefines the appearance of independent women and refreshes the current cognition of independent women.
It is said that independent women can find happiness. What does it look like to be an independent woman in our minds?
Emphasize that to have independent economic ability, you must go to work can not be a full-time wife and mother, and Zheng Juan has been doing full-time at home for many years; emphasizing that you must love yourself is to buy and buy for yourself, and Zheng Juan has always been paying for the people around her, even buying things is to buy a family.
Zheng Juan looks like a little woman like a silk flower, is that right? There is a voice that has been emphasizing that women should be like women, feminine, gentle to show weakness, how to do, in a word, women turn themselves into vases, in order to be happy. Zheng Juan gives her husband a basin of foot-washing water every day, and speaks softly and slowly, but no one thinks that she has lived herself as a vase.
It can be said that Zheng Juan has refreshed our understanding of the two female life states of the big heroine and the small woman at the same time, making the definition of independent women more objective and true. Let us see that women can still live like this and live a sense of happiness.
Zheng Juan has not had a career or job in her life, just like Zhou Rong said, Zheng Juan has been around this family and these families all her life. It is true that Zheng Juan's world is very small, and she has not read books and cannot find a so-called serious job, but what she sees in Zheng Juan is independence, especially independence.
The reason for this is that she always knows to rely on herself. In her words, a person has everything as long as he has himself. It is precisely because she has this kind of human life concept in her heart that she maintains the ability to make money and survive at any time.
Zheng Juan's mother's family of three people can be said to be a vulnerable group, it is precisely because of their own strength is weak, so her mother does not let Zheng Juan go out to set up a stall, Zheng Juan at home pastes paper boxes, string sugar gourds to earn money, do these things to earn very little money, but she is trying to earn, do not want Zhou Bingkun to take the money to fund.
She told Zhou Bingkun that life is difficult, others can live, she believes that she can also live.
After she and Zhou Bingkun got married, she has been busy at home, and the things that go out to earn money are all Zhou Bingkun's business. However, when Uncle Xiao Gong brought something and needed Zhou Bingkun's help to sell it, Zheng Juan took it upon herself to go out and do it, and it was done very well.
She not only helped sell, but also made money, and with this money she bought gifts for her family. When Zhou Bingkun asked her why she didn't buy it for herself, she said it felt good that she earned money to buy things for her family.
Independence is an ability, an attitude of taking responsibility for one's own actions, and everything else is just a façade. Looking at reality, women with Kochi and working hard in the workplace are always full of grievances in their hearts, always feel that they have less to rely on, and are brainwashed and controlled, and there are many such women.
Independent? Less.
People can maintain a sober mind about life in difficult times, but it is not necessary to enter a rich and gentle township. Zhou Bingkun's career entered the most prosperous time, that is, he entered the publishing house and opened a restaurant and bookstore. He let the family live in a large house in a single courtyard, with no worries about food and clothing, but she still maintained her independence.
Many people say that they like Zheng Juan's gentleness, Zheng Juan is gentle, but there is only flexibility in this gentleness, not weakness. In her body, it truly reflects the power of female tenderness, because flexibility like silk gives tenderness strength.
Luo Shibin, who had disappeared for many years, suddenly appeared and wanted to recognize Zhou Nan's son. For Zheng Juan, this incident is to open the scar again, and it is a great irony that she has been hurt. For Zheng Juan, this life is a bad thing one after another, for others, where there is any happiness to speak of.
However, Zheng Juan has never complained except to solve the thorny problem step by step, nor does she feel that she is too bitter and tired and unhappy. On the contrary, she is more focused on where the bottom line is in everything and what she needs to insist on.
She said to Shui Ziliu that in the matter of Zhou Nan, no one has the right to speak, only her, and she counts. Because she knew that Zhou Nan's affair was her affair, it should be up to her to decide, and she could not ask anyone. This is her bottom line, and likewise, she insists on zhou rong's persuasion of the child.
Because Zheng Juan was firm and confident in her heart, she could say that I had the final say in the face of the water flow, and only in the face of Zhou Rong pointed out that Zhou Rong was to make up for her debt to her daughter.
Only those who know what they want and where the bottom line of their lives is can be sober in the world.
Sun Xiaoning told Zheng Juan that she wanted to live with Zhou Bingkun for the rest of her life, and although Zheng Juan said that she was the same, her heart was bottomless for the first time. Because she knows that in the end, this love marriage is a matter of two people, she alone said it does not count, and What Zhou Bingkun thinks in her heart, she is not sure.
It is not that many years of married life have made two people lose trust and tacit understanding, but Zheng Juan does not want to tie up a person with other things, she wants a marriage that is truly in love. Her brother comforted her, saying that her dedication to the Zhou family for so many years could also strengthen their marriage.
Zheng Juan said that she just didn't want to use this to bind Zhou Bingkun, she wanted Zhou Bingkun to love her as a person.
Paying for a person unreservedly but not wanting these things to become a burden of love, every time I see here I have a stunning feeling, which is not only the attitude to love marriage, but also a self-consistent ability of myself.
A person's best state is to be consistent in words and deeds, consistent in his internal and external cognition, not awkward in himself, and not twisted in life, so that he can calmly face everything.
Zheng Juan's self-consistency is very strong. In addition to her own beauty, neither her origin nor her family's resources can be compared with Zhou Bingkun, but she has never had inferiority, she just told Zhou Bingyi that she was not worthy, but it did not mean that she felt that she was not good enough.
After she and Zhou Bingkun got married, she would bring her husband foot wash every day, which in her opinion was not humble, nor was it what she did when she decided to do her position without work, but the embodiment of her heartache for Zhou Bingkun. Her life is very hard, she pays a lot for the Zhou family, but she never uses these efforts as a chip for marital stability, she values the true feelings and true righteousness.
In Zheng Juan, you can't see the moment of inferiority, and when making every decision and every thing, she will not let herself screw up. When she found out that the money sent by Zhou Bingkun was not given by Luo Shibin and the water flowing, she also hesitated.
However, she soon accepted it calmly, because she wanted to understand the solution to the problem. First of all, she can't go out to earn money at the moment and can only accept this money, secondly, if there is a problem with this money, she will bear all the consequences herself, and finally, Zhou Bingkun's affection she has the opportunity to repay in the future.
Zheng Juan's younger brother Guangming said that the time when people are most afraid is when they don't know the result, that is to say, when they are uncertain, once they can be sure that they have an answer, they will naturally settle down.
Zheng Juan is such a person, even if there is panic, confusion, and fear, but soon she can figure out what to do next, and then go down firmly, and be a person.
How hard life is, happiness is actually a feeling, a perspective on life, can be flexible and self-consistent and powerful, happiness will always follow you around.
What do you think of Zheng Juan?
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