On December 25, 2020, outside a private primary school in Hefei, Anhui Province, an elderly man who looked to be in his 70s stood next to a small shop in front of the school.
After a while, two little girls dressed in red ran out hand in hand, and they rushed to the old man and hugged him.
A passing classmate asked, "Did your grandmother come to pick you up?" ”
The old man's face stiffened when he heard this, and the two little girls pouted unhappily.
They said, "This is my mother!" ”
The parents of the surrounding students all looked over in surprise, and they whispered: How can such an old woman be a primary school student mother!
The old man at the center of the topic blushed and hurried away with his two children.
Who is the old man? What is it that makes her raise two small children in her half a hundred years? How are the old people and children living today?
"The only daughter died because of the ignorance of her family"
Sheng Hailin was born in April 1950 in Hefei, Anhui Province. Sheng Hailin's family conditions are very favorable, and her great-grandfather was once a Talent of the Qing Dynasty.
Sheng Hailin's grandfather was a well-known local teacher who opened a private school and later became a Chinese language teacher, and her father also received a good education.
At the beginning of the War of Resistance Against Japan, Sheng Hailin's father worked as a "38-type" cadre.
In the early days of the founding of New China, the cadres of the army implemented the supply system, providing daily necessities free of charge, and providing supplies in terms of food, clothing, shelter, and transportation.
Sheng Hailin is the eldest in the family, and has a younger sister and two younger brothers, and each of the four siblings has a separate nanny to take care of.
In the later period, the supply system was abolished and wages were paid.
But the conditions of Sheng Hailin's family are still good, until the youngest brother reaches adulthood, and the family has a nanny to take care of life.
When Sheng Hailin became an adult, she initially served as a soldier in the army and studied medicine, and later became the president of a hospital in Anhui.
At that time, the state called for late marriage and late childbearing, and Sheng Hailin also actively responded to the call, and did not begin to consider her life's events until the age of 27.
At the age of 27, Sheng Hailin was introduced to her husband, and the two soon got married.
At the age of 30, Sheng Hailin gave birth to her own daughter, Tingting.
Sheng Hailin and her husband do not have the habit of preferring sons to daughters, although they are daughters, but the couple is very fond of Tingting.
When she first gave birth to her daughter, Sheng Hailin's husband was still working in Nanjing, and Sheng Hailin's work was also very busy.
In order to be able to take care of Tingting, Sheng Hailin hired an eighteen-year-old girl to take care of Tingting at a price higher than the market.
Although there are young nannies to take care of the children, every day after returning home from work, Sheng Hailin will still insist on telling fairy tales to Tingting.
The arrival of Tingting has brought great fun to Sheng Hailin and his wife.
Daughter Tingting likes to play the piano, and the couple bought an imported piano for Tingting.
From childhood to adulthood, the daughter's eating and wearing degree, Sheng Hailin and his wife are both the most expensive.
In September 2002, Tingting graduated from university and went to work in the Anhui Provincial Library.
At this time, the old couple is almost at the age of retirement, and what the old two want to see most is that their daughter Tingting can marry early.
But Tingting, the blind date found by the couple, did not like it, and finally Tingting herself met her son-in-law Xiaojiang, who worked in the suburbs of Beijing.
The son-in-law Xiao Jiang's family is in Chizhou, but in fact, the conditions are not good.
But because their daughter liked it, Sheng Hailin and his wife did not do much to stop it.
Later, for the happiness of their daughter, Sheng Hailin and his wife arranged Xiao Jiang to work in a university in Anhui Province.
In the first month of 2009, Sheng Hailin actually wanted her daughter and son-in-law to celebrate the New Year in Hefei.
But the son-in-law Xiao Jiang pleaded bitterly, and Sheng Hailin could only let her daughter follow her husband back to Chizhou for the New Year.
Before the Spring Festival, Sheng Hailin also bought imported fur coats for her daughter and let her daughter return to the man's home.
However, early in the morning of the sixth day of the first lunar month in 2009, Sheng Hailin received a call from her family.
The father-in-law said on the other end of the phone that Tingting and his wife died unexpectedly in a car accident.
Sheng Hailin once collapsed, she rushed to Chizhou, only to find that the car accident was all an excuse, all because of the ignorance of her family, so that Tingting and Xiaojiang died of gas poisoning.
Sheng Hailin's heart ached extremely, she had a big fight with her relatives, and her father-in-law also had a white head overnight.
"Begging for children everywhere"
59-year-old Sheng Hailin could not accept the grief of her elderly widow, she could not believe that her daughter was gone.
It was not until she brought her daughter's ashes back to Hefei from Chizhou that Sheng Hailin accepted this fact.
At the same time, she also felt that she had no hope in her life.
She bought a cemetery of her own next to her daughter's grave.
Sheng Hailin wants to leave this world and meet her daughter again underground.
Sheng Hailin also began to believe in Buddhism, and she wanted to find some comfort in Buddhism.
Before asking for death, Sheng Hailin went to see the mage, but the mage told her that asking for death was not the way to see her daughter.
The mage told Sheng Hailin that she should come out of the pain, and only when she came out, Tingting could rest assured that she would be reincarnated.
Under the admonition of the mage, Sheng Hailin gave up the idea of asking for death.
But after losing her daughter, she had no hope of life.
At the suggestion of relatives and friends, Sheng Hailin thought that she might be able to raise another child.
But now that the social conditions are already very good, who wants to raise a child for Sheng Hailin?
During that time, Nanning cracked a major child trafficking incident and rescued more than 60 abducted children.
Sheng Hailin saw the news from the newspaper, and she called the public security bureau to ask if she could adopt the children.
But the public security bureau told Sheng Hailin that the children were all looking for their biological parents through DNA.
There was no way, Sheng Hailin could only find another way.
At this time, only half a year after the Wenchuan earthquake in 2008, Sheng Hailin found the Wenchuan Welfare Institute again.
She asked the welfare home if any children who had lost their parents in the earthquake needed adoption.
But the other party told Sheng Hailin that the children had been adopted.
Sheng Hailin called again and went all over the country, and all the healthy children were adopted, leaving only some with diseases.
Sheng Hailin really thought about the children crazy, and she even went to the welfare home to see the sick children.
The husband advised Sheng Hailin that the adoption of sick orphans could only be a burden for the couple.
Sheng Hailin did not listen, she pulled her husband to stop crying: "Then you tell me what to do!" Where do I go to find the children?" ”
Through various ways, Sheng Hailin could not get a child.
Later, Sheng Hailin thought, since I can't receive other people's children, then I will give birth to myself!
"IVF at an advanced age"
Sheng Hailin decided to do IVF.
She was almost 60 years old at this time, and everyone around her thought she was crazy when they heard her decision.
But Sheng Hailin is not afraid, she has been practicing medicine for many years, has rich medical knowledge, and has a wide range of contacts, Sheng Hailin feels that she will be able to succeed.
Moreover, at present, there are no people over the age of sixty in China to do test tubes, and Sheng Hailin feels that she is also dedicating herself to science.
But Sheng Hailin sought medical treatment everywhere, and the hospital rejected Sheng Hailin because she was too old.
Finally, Sheng Hailin came to the hospital where she gave birth to Tingting.
Sheng Hailin was emotional to the medical staff of the hospital.
She said she was also a doctor, so she would try it, and if she was unwell, she would immediately stop the attempt.
The leaders of the hospital have all had contacts with Sheng Hailin, and seeing Sheng Hailin pleading bitterly, the hospital still agreed to Sheng Hailin's request for an elderly test tube.
Sheng Hailin has long been menopausal, in order to give birth, she kept needles and medicines in the hospital, after several months of recuperation, Sheng Hailin resumed menstruation.
On October 13, 2009, doctors placed three IVF embryos in Sheng Hailin's stomach.
In the end, one embryo died and two survived.
Because she is an elderly mother, Sheng Hailin's physical condition is not good.
During the pregnancy, Sheng Hailin experienced a lot of discomfort symptoms, her whole body was puffy and unable to move.
The most dangerous one, Sheng Hailin also suffered heavy bleeding, almost killing three corpses.
On May 24, 2010, seven months after conceiving, Sheng Hailin's two children were born smoothly.
Because they were born prematurely, the two children were put in the incubator just after birth.
Two children weigh less than 4 pounds and need to be confirmed for fitness before they can be discharged from the hospital.
Through the glass, Sheng Hailin saw the child breathing steadily and felt that everything was worth it.
She and her wife named the children "Zhizhi" and "Huihui".
"Running around raising children"
It is said that it is easy to have children and it is difficult to raise children, and it is difficult to give birth to children on Sheng Hailin, and it is also difficult to raise children.
She and her husband are retired, have no jobs, and live off their savings and pensions.
Two newborns have lived in the intensive care unit for thirty or forty days, and the cost per day is 6,000 yuan.
Coupled with various expenses before giving birth, the birth of two children has hollowed out the family foundation of Sheng Hailin's old two.
In order to be able to make her two children live a happy life, Sheng Hailin can only start working again.
At first, Sheng Hailin thought about going to the hospital for consultation, only needing to stay for four or five hours a day, with a monthly salary of three thousand.
But Sheng Hailin knew that she was older now, and her salary of three thousand a month could not provide security for her children's future.
Sheng Hailin began to walk out of Hefei and used her professional experience to hold medical lectures all over the country.
Sheng Hailin's extensive medical experience, coupled with excellent eloquence, makes the boring knowledge very moving.
Therefore, Sheng Hailin's medical lectures are very popular.
Sheng Hailin has left her own figure all over the country, and she travels abroad for nearly three hundred days a year.
The husband is at home taking care of the two children.
However, things did not go so smoothly, and during the Spring Festival in 2016, my husband suffered a stroke.
The nanny at home took leave to return to her hometown during the Spring Festival, and Sheng Hailin could only go home to take care of her children and husband.
Sheng Hailin was so busy that she was dizzy, she was like a gyroscope, and she never stopped.
When the nanny returned, Sheng Hailin began to give lectures everywhere again.
Someone asked her, what should she do if she has been out on a business trip and cannot accompany her children?
Sheng Hailin said that she was also out to be able to give her children better living conditions.
In June 2019, Sheng Hailin's young daughter was hospitalized due to pneumonia causing a pleural effusion, during which she issued several critical illness notices.
Sheng Hailin was also admitted to the hospital because of fatigue.
During that time, because of the dual illness of the child and herself, Sheng Hailin washed her face with tears all day.
She even began to regret it, regretting whether she was too paranoid in the first place.
If I hadn't had two children at that time, wouldn't I have the pain I have today?
When others asked Sheng Hailin if she would ever have children if she had never had one, Sheng Hailin replied, "If there is an afterlife, I will not ask for it again." ”
During her time in the hospital, Sheng Hailin began to reflect on what she had done in giving birth to children in recent years.
She originally had children in order to have children to accompany her old age, but she was too busy making money to neglect the company of her daughter.
Sheng Hailin's savings for her children in recent years have been seven or eight million.
Sheng Hailin felt that it was time for her to stop and spend time with her children.
"A recent experience"
In 2020, there was a nationwide outbreak.
Sheng Hailin no longer travels for business to give lectures, and she holds online lectures at home.
She was finally able to stay at home and devote herself to caring for her two children.
Both of her daughters seem to inherit the virtues of their deceased daughters.
Both little girls like music and dance, Zhizhi likes the piano, and Huihui's favorite is the flute, which has won many awards in the city.
On January 31, 2022 Chinese New Year's Eve day, Sheng Hailin's two children were still practicing in the dance studio.
Sheng Hailin secretly filmed a clip of her daughter dancing, saying that she liked the children's serious appearance the most.
Once, when Sheng Hailin went to school to pick up her children, she was asked by the teacher, "Is this your grandmother?" ”
Sheng Hailin was embarrassed at the time, and her face was full of embarrassment. She didn't know what her children would think of herself as an "elderly mother."
However, Sheng Hailin's children took the initiative to take their mother's hand.
The two children said: "This is my mother, although my mother is a little older, she is still the best mother in my heart." ”
Sheng Hailin's heart was full of warmth, and the hardships of the past all disappeared in this instant.
After Sheng Hailin's husband suffered a stroke, his health has not been very good.
If the husband is slightly unwell, he will go to the hospital for a period of time.
At the end of 2021, Sheng Hailin's husband was hospitalized again because of a stroke.
After nearly a month of treatment, on January 23, 2022, the husband was discharged from the hospital and returned home.
The two children who had been waiting at home for a long time had wrapped their scarves around their father when he first came home.
Now Sheng Hailin's husband needs crutches to walk badly.
The two girls helped their father to the couch, after which one handed him a cup of tea and the other brought fruit to his father.
Looking at the happy father and daughter trio in front of them, Sheng Hailin's eye sockets gradually moistened.
She didn't know how long she would be able to spend with her children, but Sheng Hailin had at least ten years of luxury.
She wanted to watch her children grow up, to see them grow up, to watch them go to college, to go into society.
Sheng Hailin hopes to be able to marry her two children by her own hands and entrust the children to people who deserve to be trusted.
That Sheng Hailin's life is called really carefree.
Although Sheng Hailin's behavior of having children at an advanced age is not worth emulating, she can be responsible for children when she gives birth.
The great maternal spirit manifested from Sheng Hailin is worth learning from each and every one of us.
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