Some people say that "long-distance relationships can't be talked about for too long, and after too long, they will eventually separate." "How many couples who once loved have not been able to survive long-distance relationships, and how many couples have changed their hearts because of long-distance separation." Whether in love or married, long-distance relationships often face greater risks than in the same city.
What are long-distance relationships most afraid of?
I am most afraid of "not seeing, not touching, not knowing if your heart has already changed."
The feelings in this world, whether it is family affection, friendship, love, are mostly plain, vigorous, and the feelings of thunder and fire are very few, including myself and my friends in these ordinary feelings.
My friend WenWen, when she and her husband Xu Tao got married, in fact, I was not optimistic about them at all, Wenwen and Xu Tao were in love for three years, usually gathering less and leaving more, more importantly, the two of them did not have a family foundation, when they lived in a rented house, because of work, they could not live in the same city, although the two cities were not far apart, it was 3 hours by car, I have always felt that such love can not withstand the toss.
Even though I have always disliked them, they still got married after three years of love, and after marriage, they still lived apart. Every weekend Xu Tao would rush from that city to their warm little home, light a lamp, make a delicious meal, Xu Tao is a careful man, know the taste of Wenwen, in different seasons, she likes two fruits, orange and pineapple. So Xu Tao's backpack was always filled with the aroma of these two fruits.
Wenwen said that in fact, she herself was also very conflicted at the beginning, afraid of long-distance love, afraid of suspicion when they could not be together, and almost a strange road. However, after several years of getting along, Wenwen learned that Xu Tao's heart is simple, simple to love is love, there will be no flowers and intestines in a lifetime, and naturally there will be no tricks. Xu Tao once wrote a letter to Wenwen in which he said:
In the crowd we met, not sooner or later, it seemed that it was no longer a matter of love but fate. When I decided that you were the one who spent my life with, all the love aphorisms were gone, I believed in eternal power, I believed that time could solve everything, and I thought that if we fell in love, we were like simple children, no matter what the form, even without love, we would be simply together.
Later, Wenwen said that she did not understand love more and more, and did not want to understand, Xu Tao knew what she loved to eat, and in the season without oranges and pineapples, he would personally make her her favorite orange flavor cake. No matter the hot summer, the heavy rain, the cold winter, he never delayed, the three-hour drive was so long, and it was so short, he smiled at the corner of his mouth, and he had a worry in his heart. Wen Wen knew that no matter what, there was a man who would run towards her in the direction of home, and she was so relieved to snuggle in his arms. Later, they had their own little baby.
I was gradually touched by their love, 3 hours drive, it turned out that in front of true love is just a few feet away. I don't understand love anymore, maybe in their eyes, love is a rented house, it's a separation, it's a diaper floating on the balcony, it's the aroma of oranges and pineapples in a backpack...
Long-distance relationships, what can couples or couples do to make the relationship more stable?
I think it should be like Wenwen couple, when busy, each busy, idle time must belong to the family, there is each other in the heart, whether it is a husband and wife or a couple, such two people will never be separated.
Although you can't be together, you should always call or contact On WeChat
If couples can't live together, they must always call or contact each other on WeChat. There was a hot topic on the Internet: how many times do you have to meet in love a week? I think this kind of question is a bit funny, couples want to meet when they want to meet, where there are any special rules.
Couples who live in different places should often express their emotions, rather than deliberately suppressing their emotions. If you think of each other, call and chat, or WeChat video, which can enhance the intimacy of two people. Living apart from two places must make the other person feel that you have him in your heart and that you are thinking of him.
Second, because it is a long-distance relationship, it is even more necessary to take time to go home
It is precisely because of the separation of two places, so as long as there is time to go home, you must think of going home more, just like Xu Tao, no matter the hot summer, heavy rain, cold winter, he will take a three-hour car home every week. It was his persistence as always that made WenWen feel at ease with him.
Long-distance couples should cultivate their feelings through "frequent meetings", if they do not often go home, then what is the meaning of home? At any time, long-distance couples cannot use work busyness to push away from not going home. Men can earn money outside, but the heart must be at home.
If your husband out of town makes excuses not to come home, then your marriage is a bit dangerous. Long-distance couples with good feelings will miss it very much if they don't see each other for a long time, but when they are free, they will fly home to meet their wives.
Just like Xu Tao, although they are a long-distance couple, men often go home. The two of them are three hours apart, and Xu Tao lives in a unit dormitory in a different place, and only the city where his wife lives is his home.
Three long-term reunion, there must be a warm time that belongs to two people
After a long time apart, we must give each other a big hug, men should say to their wives, "This time, you have worked hard", but also to hug your children. These ways of expressing love between husband and wife can not be less, and it is precisely because they have not seen each other for a long time that two people must express their love for each other.
Just like Xu Tao would bring Wen Wen's favorite fruit every time he came home, he would also cook a delicious meal, do housework, and after the meal, the two people would huddle on the sofa and watch TV. So even if they are separated, Wenwen will not worry about what will happen to Xu Tao
When your partner needs you, be sure to find a way to relieve her worries
Wenwen said: Sometimes women need men, just like they need parachutes to escape, if you are not by her side at that time, then there is no need to appear later. One thing that is important for long-distance couples is that when your partner needs you, you must be with her, even if you really can't be around her, you must find someone who can help her. Don't feel that two people are not together, you can not care about anything, just because you can not be with her, so you should care more about your partner, when she encounters difficulties, you must help her.
When Wen Wen was sick, when he was sad because of trivial matters, Xu Tao would also take two days off to accompany her, and if he really couldn't get out, he would also make several phone calls a day until Wen Wen returned to normal. So for a man like Xu Tao, Wen Wen is worried that he is cheating because he is most concerned about her.
Two people become husband and wife because of love, and then they have to face the wind and rain together, they can live separately because of reality, but two people can't live like strangers, and the men who work hard outside should care about the wife and children at home, and express their love more, and your heart must be at home. Only in this way can a long-term marriage be sustained.
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