Parents have heard a saying: "I am also a parent for the first time." This sentence does sound very touching, it is true that there are no perfect parents, everyone is growing up with their children, but this sentence is not an excuse for our parents to evade responsibility. Although we have not been parents, we were also children, and we do not know what kind of education is the best, but we can ask ourselves when we were young, what kind of education will hurt the child. In the education of parents, there is a hidden future for children, the new year, do not let these wrong ways of education delay the child's life.
In the new semester, don't say "happy is good" Nan Li in the 2021 fire TV series "Little Shede" is a mother who pursues "happy education".
Other parents are anxious to send their children to the language tuition class, but she fully respects her daughter's interests and hobbies, and the most important thing is to develop comprehensively, and the most important thing is to make her daughter happy. Nan Li's confidence comes from her family, she is from a good background, their husband and wife are also strong, there is no shortage of money or resources, and they want to make their children's childhood easy and happy. But the problem of learning could not be bypassed after all, in the fifth grade of Huanhuan, the grades dropped sharply, the class cadres were also dismissed, and they were ridiculed by their classmates as "scum", she was greatly hit, and took the initiative to ask for a make-up class. This also gives a wake-up call to the parents of the "happy faction": it is right to want to give their children happiness, but children who lack learning, resistance, self-confidence and other abilities are not happy for a long time. Cultivate children's interests, make children happy and strictly grasp learning without conflict, both take into account, in order to cultivate excellent children.
In the new semester, don't say "I don't have time" A little girl asks Dad: "Daddy, how much do you earn an hour?" Dad said he could earn $25 an hour. The little girl wanted to ask her father to borrow $20, and the father was very angry and reprimanded his daughter. Afterwards, the father felt remorseful, so he went to his daughter's room, gave her $20 and apologized: "Baby, I'm sorry, Dad is angry because I think I bought you everything you need, but maybe you don't think so." After getting the borrowed $20, the little girl quickly took her own piggy bank, poured out a bunch of change that had been secretly saved up, confirmed that she had enough for 25 dollars, and seriously said to her father: "This is 25 dollars, buy dad for an hour." You say I have everything, but the only thing I don't have is you. So, will you come to dinner with me, tomorrow night? ”
No job can pay people 24 hours, the golden period of children's education is only a few years, the most need for parental companionship, if the validity period has passed, it is difficult to make up. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, please take some time to accompany your children.
In the new semester, don't do everything a class teacher received a message from a parent: "The child is still young, can't do hygiene, if you want to do hygiene, you can ask parents to come and clean, I and the child's father will come to clean, trouble the teacher don't let my child clean." At home, he is a male doll, and his grandparents are very precious. ”
Children are indeed small, but parents should slowly cultivate their children's self-care ability, and parents who do everything can only cultivate children with strong dependence.
We can't accompany our children for a lifetime, what we don't want our children to do now, children will always have to do in the future, rather than trying to help them settle all the problems, it is better to teach them the ability to think independently and solve problems. Parents who truly know how to love their children can temper "meticulous" love, help their children take on their own life responsibilities, and learn to face the wind and rain alone. In the new semester, don't argue anymore, a pair of young parents have a small quarrel before going to bed, and neither of them will bow their heads first, and they will fall asleep separately. They slept soundly, but the two-year-old baby was in a hurry, and in the early hours of the morning, the little baby who was grinding and sleeping unsteadily by the quarrel of his parents suddenly got up, put his parents' hands together, and kept saying: "Reconcile!" ”
Sun Jingxiu, a child educator, said: "A child's eyes are a video recorder, and a child's ears are a tape recorder. "So, we don't think that the child is still young, it doesn't matter if the parents quarrel, they don't understand, in fact, the child is the most sensitive, especially the emotions of the parents." A healthy and peaceful family environment is also crucial to the future happiness of children. Therefore, for the sake of the child, please speak well, please give the child a happy and harmonious growth environment.
In the new semester, don't blindly support college students, is the living expenses of 2,000 yuan a month enough to spend? After seeing a post on Weibo, a freshman girl hoped that her mother would give her 4500 yuan of living expenses per month, and after being rejected, she felt quite aggrieved, thinking that the living expenses of 2000 yuan were not enough to spend.
We have always said that children should be rich, especially daughters, but is this kind of wealth what parents want? Spending money and spending lavishly, taking it for granted that parents reach out to ask for it, and dissatisfied when the demands are not met, and do not understand the difficulty of their parents' work. Teacher Yin Jianli said in "A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher": Dao Fuyang understands that it is willing to spend money, which is too simple, but it is necessary to take care of her heart, respect, understand, and give her enough love. Wealth is to try not to create obstacles for her, so that she can live a worry-free life, a strong sense of happiness, and spiritual wealth is the real wealth.
Written at the end: A piece of grass is broken, and it will continue to grow next year; but a child is wounded and may not be able to let go for the rest of his life. Although there is no perfect original family, no perfect parents, and no perfect children in this world, the need to love and be loved will lead us to learn, to reflect, to change. The greatest love of parents for their children is to reflect and adjust their education methods in time, so that children can feel warm love, rather than self-righteous love.