After my brother betrayed the marriage, my sister-in-law chose "extreme" revenge and suffered the imminent birth of a child. Everyone has a "revenge" in their bones, but some people have never encountered a need to repay

After my brother betrayed the marriage, my sister-in-law chose "extreme" revenge and suffered the imminent birth of a child.

Everyone has a "revenge" in their bones, but some people have never met someone who needs revenge, some people know how to restrain their revenge, some people always have a sense of revenge, and some people choose revenge after being forced into a desperate situation.

The kind of person who takes revenge and hates, no matter what it is, as long as they are upset, whether others are wrong or not, they will choose revenge, and they usually harm others and themselves.

Those who choose revenge after being forced into a desperate situation need to be treated differently: if retaliation is only to recover losses, as long as you are responsible for yourself, there is no problem; but if you retaliate with red eyes, it is not advisable to take no responsibility for yourself at all.

Of course, the revenge, despair and the conflict of law, which torments human nature and social norms, needs to be improved by the whole society and is beyond the scope of our discussion today. What we are going to do today is to retaliate on a marriage and emotional level.

By the criteria we mentioned earlier, three forms of revenge are not advisable after encountering betrayal in a marriage:

First of all, don't punish mistakes with mistakes, otherwise they will lead to bigger mistakes. Specifically, don't punish betrayal with betrayal, otherwise you will fall into a passive and irrational situation if you are in an active and rational position.

For example, after a man betrays his marriage, his wife should not punish betrayal with betrayal. Otherwise, you sell your marriage to avenge a man. You are irresponsible to yourself and hurt yourself. Jumping into the Yellow River also does not wash clean.

There are many such examples in reality, not only in marriage, but also in love. Some women think they can get revenge on men through commitment, but what is the result? Your revenge has no effect at all and will eventually hurt yourself.

Second, don't take revenge and ignore your child's feelings. For couples with young children, there is betrayal in marriage, such as a man's betrayal of marriage. For wives, do not blindly retaliate without considering the feelings of your children. Nor should we betray for the sake of betrayal, let alone betrayal. You should fight a man to the death, otherwise if something goes wrong, leaving your child alone in this world will cause too much harm to the child.

Third, don't take revenge and ignore your child's feelings. The difference is that this is for situations where the child has not yet been born and the wife is pregnant.

At this stage of marriage, there is betrayal, and the wife cannot blindly retaliate and ignore the child, especially when the child is about to be born. If you take revenge on that man and make the child in your belly suffer, it will definitely leave you for the rest of your life. Shadows and pain.

This tragedy happened between my friend Xiaoyu's brother-in-law. Both were uneasy because of betrayal and revenge:

"The tragedy of my brother-in-law's marriage, but when I, an outsider, think about it now, they all feel very scared and desolate, let alone themselves.

At first, when the sister-in-law learned that her brother had cheated on her, she quarreled. I thought that after the quarrel, my brother came home, and this matter should be turned over, after all, their children were about to be born. However, things are not as simple as I thought.

Because the younger brother did not return home in time, he also quarreled with his sister-in-law, who was angry and chose "extreme" revenge. He picked up the N kinds of medicine he had prepared in advance and poured it into his mouth. Because things came so suddenly, after my brother reacted, my sister-in-law was unconscious.

Although he was eventually rescued, the child was gone, and his sister-in-law was also ill.

When this happened, my sister-in-law's family refused to forgive me and kept shouting at my door. Our family is speechless, because this kind of thing is not a trivial matter, it is all our family's fault. The final agreement was that the sister-in-law would return to her mother's house to live, but for the rest of her life, her brother would have to spend money to support her.

The current situation is that the brother and sister-in-law are separated and deadlocked, because there is no divorce, and no one can remarry. Although he took revenge on his brother for his sister-in-law, he sacrificed his children, sacrificed himself, sacrificed his marriage, and made it impossible for the two families to live in harmony. Does it really make sense?

In the face of betrayal in marriage, even if you want revenge, you must be rational!

The revenge in the above three marriages is undoubtedly a tragedy in the end, especially the latter two kinds of revenge, which seriously hurt their children. Quiet.

Like Xiao Yu's brother-in-law, the final ending was really tragic. Although it is not right for a man to betray the marriage, regardless of the life and death of the child, the wife's retaliation in an extreme way has exceeded the scope of revenge, which is bound to cause new problems.

I hope others can learn from the above cases:

Cheating in marriage, even if you want to retaliate, you must be rational, you can't be irresponsible for yourself, you can't be irresponsible for your children, you can't go to extremes. Those who retaliate or punish those who betray you or hurt you must have a degree. Don't overdo it, or else, because your blind revenge will ruin yourself, your children, and everything, whether you retaliate or not. If you succeed, you'll be in trouble for the rest of your life. #Emotion PK Desk # #Emotion # #我要上 Headlines #