How do I control my anger
Today we're going to talk about how to control our impending temper tantrums in our lives.
1. According to people's different personalities, different learning methods and contents can be used to avoid stimulation and reconcile moods. Grumpy people should avoid demanding learning, or at least engage in the kind of learning that is not easy to make people very mentally demanding; the mind should not focus on too hard work, but should turn to pleasant art. Calm your mind by reading poetry and interesting historical stories; educate in a gentle and elegant way. Simply put, if a person is prone to frustration and anger, then they should find an education and cultivation that can soothe their emotions.
Music and art have a good personality influence, excessively harsh training and education may distort the child's mind, and reluctant "genius education" may ruin the child's life and create a perverse personality. Hopefully, these will become the basics of educational psychology today.
2, to think in a different position, who you are angry with, just put yourself in his position and try. In fact, you are angry because you are too arrogant. The same thing, you are happy to ask others, but not to yourself. You are angry when others lie to you, but you lie to others, but you are at ease. Therefore, treating others as equals and empathizing is a good way to deal with anger. When you get angry, ask yourself, have I ever done such a thing myself? What would I do if it were me? In this way, you will find that people's free will is not so free, but often involuntarily, doing things that make others angry.
3) Forgiveness is better than revenge, being hurt, reconciliation is much better than revenge! Revenge takes a considerable amount of time and makes you vulnerable to more other harms... The more you are angry and indignant about the hurt, the longer you will be in the actual harm.
4) Choose your friends wisely, choose those who are honest, easy-going, and have self-control to be your friends, they will tolerate your bad temper, but they will not add fuel to the fire. If you know you're angry easily, you should avoid making friends with people who irritate you or provoke you to get angry. Such a person can easily manipulate you and play you between the palms of your hands. We maintain friendships, family, and group relationships to bring more joy to our lives, not to create annoyance and pain for ourselves. Some relationships seem intimate and warm, such as parties or gangs, but they are actually maintained by hatred of common enemies. In so-called "friend" relationships, anger burns faster than wildfire. Many of the hostilities on the Internet today are caused by careless dating.
5) Don't look for reasons to be angry on your own. As an individual or as a friend, don't act indignant and hateful when you encounter something. Don't feel that you have been hurt by your self-esteem or emotions, as soon as you open your mouth, you are "unhappy" and "seriously hurt your feelings". People are always self-righteous, take themselves too seriously, and are preoccupied with small things, which will only make them weak and unable to withstand anything unpleasant. After a little stimulation, the glass heart broke to the ground. In fact, it is not the thing itself that hurts you, but your opinion of it. If you encounter someone or something, always think of the bad, use conspiracy theories to guess the evil motives of others, and always feel that you have a reason to be angry, then you are doomed to be angry all your life.
The last point, that one should live with a sense of humor and self-deprecating spirit, has been hit, what should a smart person do? Don't get angry, don't take revenge, and don't fight back. Just ignore it.
These are just some personal opinions that I hope will be helpful to my friends.
