Maurice Sanders is perfect enough to make people jealous. That neat white tooth, almost a textbook smile, can always make people feel close, but also make the same sex jealous. He said that the first photo of the profile page of social networking sites is crucial, and what kind of smile to show needs to be planned. (Lesson 1: Start the first step with a smile.) Tightly closed lips mean you have something to show off, like a toothy tooth or a Ponzi scheme about to be kicked. If you grin too much, people will think you are a used car salesman who is eager to meet sales targets. "In our time, people are processing information very quickly." Sanders, 24, said the slightest hint of insincerity is all you're done.
We have to listen to him. Sanders is one of the most popular people on the seafarer software Tinder. According to the information displayed by the dating app's digital processor, he gets more "slides to the right" (likes to slide right, doesn't like to slide left) than 99% of his competitors (his competitors are the majority of straight men in the United States). We asked him why he was so popular. He laughed and replied, "Let me confess to you, I only see Tinder about once a week." (Lesson 2: Don't think too much.) ）
Two years ago, Sanders moved to Atlanta. He works as a consultant and travels frequently. However, after the outbreak of the new crown epidemic, he lived a "lockdown" life (only temporarily). He took the opportunity to speak up and let the city and the women in the city know him. He explains: "The purpose of my personal account is to meet more people, uh, to meet women. That's my primary purpose. At that time, I just wanted to make more female friends. (Lesson 3: Know what you want.) ）
Sanders' profile is surprisingly limited: four photos, four interests (including "fitness" and "exercise"), a one-sentence introduction ("Follow me on ins"), alma mater and current city, saying, "I've written about my graduate from Pennsylvania State and now living in Atlanta." I don't want to attach all the information. (Lesson 4: Learn to inspire a passion for inquiry.) ）
On the presentation of the photos: Sanders believes that diversity is key. Full body photography is essential. (Lesson 5: Multi-angle presentation.) Sanders used only four photos to bring out his outward charm. If you think about it, you'll realize that this is far more than anyone could see in a dimly lit bar. Then there is the attitude of "Lao Tzu doesn't care about anything" that he exudes because of his self-confidence. As Sanders puts it, "I wish I could show my true self." This kind of confidence that can make people involuntarily admire and envy is simple to say, but it is even more difficult to imitate.
Finding the other party that matches is only the first step. For a while, Sanders always started by saying, "Hello, little fool!" Then the other party will fight back: "You are the fool!" "That means, who do you think you're talking to?!" In the end, the opening was abandoned. (Lesson 6: Don't make jokes that are suspicious of demeaning others.) Now, he usually starts with a gender-neutral compliment, such as replying to a friendly emoticon after she sends a smiling emoji (the role of a smile is two-way), and then chat about some regular topics: What's the first thing you do in the morning? If you had to follow someone all day, who would it be? Who do you worship? (Lesson 7: Ask a few ice-breaking questions that will give you an idea of the personality of your referral.) ）
If all goes well, it's time for the next date. Yes, even in 2021, the routine is still the same. "I don't really care much about COVID-19," he said. Then he explained, "That's not to say I have to go out on a date tonight." (Lesson 8: Still take the COVID-19 pandemic into account.) After all, the purpose of people using Tinder is to extend the relationship beyond Tinder, first by texting or following each other on Instagram, and then choosing a neutral environment to meet and see if the person is as attractive to you as the person's profile.
Looks simple, right? However, anyone who has ever met offline knows that this is far from the case. The true meaning of dating success is as mysterious as Tinder's algorithm, and trying to solve this mystery will only drive you crazy and eventually turn into a crazy single dog, or even a real psychopath.
Oh, and another piece of advice, which was the winning formula for Sanders' further success: "Take the initiative and open the way with love." We asked him to be specific, he explained: "Keep a positive mindset and think for the better: this person may not be the love of my life, and he may not be intimate with me, but at least I have one more friend." 」 (Lesson 9: Sometimes knowing is enough.) ）
Written by: Justin Kirkland
Photo by Jeremy Liebman
New Media Editor: Neil
New Media Execution: Eva