There is a way to "open your heart to make friends, and distinguish between right and wrong." ”
In the matter of making friends, it is better to maintain an "open heart" attitude. At the very least, a good attitude towards friendship, that's the beginning of a person having a good relationship.
However, before making friends, we also need to have such a human skill - discerning between right and wrong.
Whether the other party is a human or a wolf, we must at least know in our hearts and not be easily seduced by others. Especially in this complicated world, if we are not careful, we will become the "lambs to be slaughtered" in other people.
More importantly, who you come into contact with, then you will be affected by something. In the future, whether you are a gentleman or a villain around you will eventually depend on what circle you join.
The so-called "close to Zhu is red and close to ink is black" is this truth.
You get too close to your pig friends, and even regard them as close friends, believing that you can only recognize "shallow" things and cannot develop to a higher level.
If you have your own cognition and deal with people who have the ability to have ideas, then you will slowly become a capable and thoughtful person. At least, the human temperament and level, that will be transmitted.
In the social arena, for these kinds of low-quality relationships, we don't care too much, away is a kind of maturity.
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The relationship between wine and meat friends is actually meaningless.
At the liquor store or dinner party, we all feel that as long as the other person has a relationship with us, then we can become friends. But is the relationship at this table really realistic?
It can be said that the friends at the wine table, just like the "instant noodles" in life, are stimulated in an instant, which is more delicious, but there is no nutrition, and even damage the body.
When everyone has money, you invite me to a meal, I invite you to eat, both sides are particularly hypocritical, but also very willing to spend money. But in the end, maybe we don't even know what the other person's name is.
Opening the WeChat circle of friends, we found that there were a lot of wine and meat friends inside, but there was no one who could talk about the bottom of his heart. It can be said that they do not have ordinary friends yet.
The so-called "rich and wine true brothers, how can they see a person in trouble?" ”
This sentence is the best interpretation of "wine and meat friend relationship". If you have money, others will flatter you. You don't have any money, and others abandon you. What is the value of such friendship?
02
The family relationship that plays every scene is actually meaningless.
Do you think it is better for relatives to get along with each other? One sentence can be summed up, and the heart is better than the heart.
You are good to your loved ones, and your relatives are also good to you, both sides respect each other, two-way, then you can naturally harvest warm affection, bathed in the glorious goodness of human nature.
However, is it difficult to do this so-called "heart to heart" or not? It's quite hard to do. At the very least, you give your heart to someone else, and someone else may trample on your heart and leave you busy.
Take the relatives we know well, such as relatives who can't see you well, and even hope that you will live worse and worse, so how do you deal with it?
The best thing to do is to distance yourself from these people in time, and never get too close. You live the days when you are playing tricks, I live my real life, both sides respect each other, and return each other's freedom.
Family affection is likely to fail in reality.
For the family relationship that is played everywhere, we do not need to be too entangled, and it is the right way to keep a proper distance.
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A relationship on a whim will eventually hurt you.
It has been said that this is an era of emotional indifference and human reality.
Some people deliberately approach you, for what purpose? Or rather, what do they want to figure out?
The purpose of all "deliberate" relationships is obvious, either for the sake of profit or to satisfy selfish desires. Everything is not as beautiful as we think.
Everything beautiful exists only in the novel. What "love at first sight" and what "love at a glance" is just an excuse and a prevarication.
In this day and age, if the opposite sex is close to you, or wants to "touch" you, then you can't be foolishly deceived. The other party is likely to be a master of the love field who has experienced the battlefield, or a speculator who is looking for a home.
There are also many such cases in the news, what cheats money and cheats, what takes over and wears hats. This is the norm of life.
Feelings, or long-term is better. Three minutes of heat or a whim will often make you beg for it.
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Relationships involving interests are easy to turn against each other.
There is a saying that "there are no brothers in the face of money." ”
In the face of gold and silver wealth, in fact, all brotherly feelings, that is false. Even the relationship between brothers and sisters is a problem, so how can we expect outsiders to be better for us?
When it comes to interests, fathers and sons will turn against each other, brothers will turn their faces and not recognize people, friends will tit-for-tat, and colleagues will directly become enemies.
Relationships are not as simple as we think. All we can do is cherish the rare and extravagant truth, and try to give up the faint and meaningless hypocrisy.
When you talk about interests, don't think about talking about feelings. When you talk about feelings, you must not think about talking about interests. You know, interests and feelings cannot coexist after all.
That being the case, we just need to maintain the principle of "following the circumstances, not hurting people but preventing people".
If there is a reason, then you and I may as well hug each other. If there is no reason, then you and I will see each other again, there is no harmful heart, and we must also have the consciousness of preventing people. That's the right way.
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