There is a sentence in the novel "Siege": "The people inside want to come out, the people outside want to go in", the reality is indeed so, people who are not married are eager for marriage, and many married people are eager for a single life, which is really contradictory.
However, more and more young people look at marriage more rationally, if they do not meet the right marriage partner they would rather be single, in their view of "unhappy marriage is not as good as high-quality single", there are not a few people who hold this view, which is also an important reason for the gradual increase of older youth.
Marriage is not a child's play, on this issue there is no mistake in being cautious, many people rush to get married on the basis of no in-depth understanding, after marriage, husband and wife contradictions continue, quarrels and cold wars occur frequently, how can such a marriage be happy and long-lasting?
Mr. Hu married cost 200,000 yuan, he thought he could live the dream of a good life, a week after marriage his wife ran back to his mother's house, more than a year did not come back, the wife frankly said that Mr. Hu has physical problems, they even to the point of divorce.
Mr. Hu is a rural person, 26 years old, the family conditions are average, as the only boy in the family parents look forward to Mr. Hu early marriage and early birth of children. Mr. Hu is honest and reticent, he has been on blind dates many times, and no girl is willing to marry him.
Under the introduction of relatives, Mr. Hu met Ms. Wang, Ms. Wang is lively and cheerful, loves to talk and laugh, is very good at coaxing people to be happy, and at the first sight of Ms. Wang, Mr. Hu was fascinated by her, and they were licensed to marry for more than 3 months.
Mr. Hu and Ms. Wang don't know much, and there are many differences in their temperament, hobbies, and living habits, which take time to slowly run in. After getting married, they did have a lot of contradictions, Mr. Hu blindly gave in, he thought that doing so would impress Ms. Wang, but he thought wrong.
A week after the marriage, Ms. Wang ran back to her mother's house, and Ms. Wang never returned for more than a year. Nominally Mr. Hu and Ms. Wang are husband and wife, in fact they live together for no more than 1 week, and this marriage has no meaning for Mr. Hu.
Mr. Hu paid a considerable price for this marriage, when he got married, Mr. Hu gave Ms. Wang a dowry of more than 100,000 yuan, and bought "three gold" for Ms. Wang, Ms. Wang asked to buy this and buy that, all home appliances are the best.
Mr. Hu spent more than 200,000 yuan on marriage, he did not have so much money, his parents had to borrow money from relatives and friends, and the Hu family still owes a bunch of debts.
Mr. Hu should have enjoyed the joy of being newly married, and if he was lucky, he could become a father, but the reality is that he and Ms. Wang have only a few hours together. The Hu family was indignant about this matter, and they agreed that Ms. Wang was not a woman who was going through the day, she was a liar.
Neighbors said that Ms. Wang was very rude, and when she saw the elders, she never said hello, and some people said bluntly: "She has cheated several men, she married those men, and then left, and the son of the Hu family is also one of the victims!" "The neighbors have noses and eyes, and they can't be questioned.
These gossip Hu family naturally know that Mr. Hu has repeatedly sought out Ms. Wang theory, he hopes that Ms. Wang will go home with him to live a good life, Ms. Wang is not moved, Ms. Wang said: "I know that you hate me, otherwise you would not say those sour words in the circle of friends!" ”
After getting married, Mr. Hu found that Ms. Wang was very strong and pressed him everywhere, which was very different from the way he looked when he was in love, and after being disappointed, Mr. Hu sighed in the circle of friends: "It is said that marriage is the graveyard of love, and I deeply appreciate the meaning of this sentence!" ”
Ms. Wang held on to this matter, she felt that Mr. Hu regretted getting married, so Ms. Wang was grumpy, looking for stubble at both ends for three days, and deliberately ran back to her mother's house.
There is another reason why Ms. Wang does not want to be with Mr. Hu, Ms. Wang said that Mr. Hu has a physical problem, she can't accept it, and she would rather live in her mother's house in order to avoid Mr. Hu.
Mr. Hu spent so much money to marry a daughter-in-law, and in the end he still lived a single life, which was not the result he wanted. Mr. Hu asked Ms. Wang to go home with him or he would divorce, Ms. Wang chose to divorce and did not agree to be with Mr. Hu, and Ms. Wang's attitude completely angered the Hu family.
The mother-in-law asked Ms. Wang for 80,000 yuan in compensation, but the Wang family insisted on not giving it, and the two sides did not give in to each other, and eventually a conflict occurred. Mr. Hu did not want to continue to suffer in the unhappy marriage and considered repeatedly that he intended to sue for divorce.
Mr. Hu and Ms. Wang have the name of husband and wife but do not have the truth of husband and wife, they have been married for a year and live together for only 1 week, which is unheard of. Moreover, Mr. Hu spent more than 200,000 yuan to get married, the price he paid was not small, he did not live a happy and happy life, still lonely and alone, how could he not be aggrieved and not annoyed?
Mr. Hu fell into such a pitiful situation, but if you think about it, it was caused by him.
First of all, the purpose of Mr. Hu's marriage is not clear.
Love can make people feel happy and sweet, and people who are in love with each other to form a family, love each other, hand in hand for a lifetime, so that life is complete.
Mr. Hu reached the age of marriage, his own conditions are not good, as long as the other party is willing to marry him, he is very satisfied. Mr. Hu married in order to complete the task, he had no requirements for his other half, and the chances of him meeting a good wife were minimal.
Second, Mr. Hu's marriage was too hasty.
There are many prerequisites for marriage, such as two people to fully understand each other's appreciation, two people to have the same interests and hobbies and the same three views, two people to have a deep emotional foundation, etc., only with these conditions can marriage be happy.
Mr. Hu and Ms. Wang got married after three months of knowing each other, he knows very little about Ms. Wang's past, he does not know Ms. Wang's family background, does not understand Ms. Wang's temperament, and does not know Ms. Wang's emotional experience, he must have many hidden dangers in getting married in this situation.
Finally, Mr. Hu did not understand the way to get along with husband and wife.
The lyrics sing: "Falling in love is always simple, getting along is too difficult.". Falling in love is a collision of passions, often occurring in a moment, and harmonious and long-term coexistence requires enough wisdom and ability.
After Mr. Hu got married, he deeply realized the difficulty of getting along with husband and wife, he did not comfort his wife well and did not look for the root cause of the problem, he was passive, and he dispelled bad emotions by complaining on the Internet, which could not solve the problem at all and intensified the contradiction.
Just as the so-called slap can not be sounded, Mr. Hu's marriage has reached a desperate situation, and Ms. Wang also has an unshirkable responsibility. It is normal for husband and wife to have contradictions, Ms. Wang did not face the problem directly but ran back to her mother's house and left, she can easily fall into the handle of "cheating marriage", even if she is reasonable, she can't say it clearly.
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