The 13-year-old daughter has always been a small cotton jacket before, but in the past six months, her temperament has changed greatly, she has become no smile and does not like to talk, and when she comes home from school, she is reading and learning, and every time she talks to her, she either nods or just mutters, and her eyes are dodging not looking at you.
Seeing my daughter's state like this, my heart is very depressed, I am afraid that my daughter has depression, I have called her class teacher before, and his class teacher said that maybe the child is adolescence, let me not worry too much. The class teacher said that the child's performance in school has always been a very quiet child, and he and his classmates have also communicated normally.
But for more than half a year, when my daughter returned home, she went back to her room and closed the door, and took out her book to study. One day I don't talk to her, and she won't take the initiative to talk to me.
Afraid that my daughter is stupid, I am afraid that my daughter will not be able to vent her psychological emotions, and every time I am softly persuading her, coming out to go shopping with me, going out to exercise, and going to the park to play, but she refuses. On weekends, I also hide in my room to read books and write homework.
Let her come out to watch TV, and she won't come out,
These two days of winter vacation, let her cut her hair, she just does not cut, bangs cover her eyes, but she is stubborn to say no. It was too cold for her to wear more clothes, and she didn't listen, preferring to shiver and still wear a sweater. Take her to buy clothes, now has her own vision, don't like it or don't want it.
Half a year ago, although my daughter was a little introverted, she usually talked and laughed with me, and let her do whatever she wanted. She has always been a well-behaved woman and listens to me at all times. Even what to wear had to ask me.
But now her own idea is very big, she decided on her own, I said that she would not listen to me.
I don't know why the children in adolescence have changed so much, I reflected on it, half a year ago in the summer vacation, my daughter and her father quarreled several times, because her father was afraid that she could not control the time by playing with the tablet, so he cut off the Internet for her, and then the two people talked, the daughter cried, and my husband's emotions also broke out, first criticizing her, and then saying good things to her.
There is also remember that the holiday daughter asked her classmates to go out to play, when my husband and I were not at ease, we called her a few more times, and my husband listened to her phone watch with his mobile phone and overheard what she was talking to her classmates. After my daughter returned, my husband told my daughter to listen to their conversation, and I saw that my daughter was full of unhappiness, but she closed the door and returned to the room without saying anything.
Later, after the daughter went to school, every time she came back, she always made her two-year-old brother cry, and the husband said a few words to her daughter and let her let her brother go.
I spend more time with my son every day, I don't know if it is because of this, it hurts my daughter's heart, so my personality has become like this.
I really hope that time can be turned back, back to half a year ago, more concern for the daughter, should also advise the husband to respect the child, after all, she is not a child.
I don't know if these few things make the child close up at once, plus the adolescent child is so sensitive.
But every day I saw that there was no smile on her face, and I felt a heart-wrenching pain in my heart, hoping that she could safely survive this difficult adolescence.
Here is a reminder to parents of adolescent children that we should have more respect, understanding, and care for our children, and never force them to do things they don't want to do. Everything really needs to be guided step by step.
Maybe some parents say, that such a child is not too glass heart, Jia En feels that adolescent children, really glass heart, now the daughter's various thoughts, I really can't guess, before I felt what she did, even what she thought, I can guess thoroughly, but now, I really can't guess her mind.
It is really uncomfortable for me to see children unhappy for more than half a year, every child comes to this world, each has its own mission, but for some parents, the expectations for them are really simple, I really don't want her to learn how good, how outstanding, as long as she can grow up happy, happy and healthy every day. #这才是家庭教育 #
