If you are not forced to no way back, only a desperate bet, in the case of still fighting, can still work hard, can still save, it is best not to think about divorce.
It's not easy to go all the way, it's a shame to give up easily, and divorce is only the beginning of the problem, not the end of the problem.
At least you need to be able to clearly realize that after divorce, you are no longer a family. In addition to the complete end of the relationship, there is also a busy and busy void, and the harm to the child, and may usher in a more difficult second marriage life. The word "divorce" is really heavy.
Married life and the relationship between husband and wife are over, what about the next life?
As long as the divorce, the problem of children, 99% of people are not good, this is also real, do not allow you to prepare, you must immediately bear and face the problem. So really think clearly, this marriage, is it necessary to leave?
Never think of life as easy after a divorce, especially if you have a child with you.
Have a friend around, divorced for 4 years, share his real experience, what kind of life is like, divorced man, the taste of living alone with children.
1. Caprylic.
It is indescribable hard work and heartache, under the premise that parents do not need him to worry too much, he needs to take care of his family, children, and work.
This is not an easy task, if people's energy is limited, fully engaged in work, the child will have to suffer, want to take care of the child in all aspects, the work content will be affected. Someone else stressed that he should balance his career and family, just to put pressure on him.
There is no time to take care of himself, and real life does not allow him to think wildly, and his feelings, pursuits, and preferences have become luxuries.
Every day, I get up early and get dark, and the pace is so fast that it is like a spinning top on the battlefield.
After work, there can be no delay, the child must wait for him to eat, homework to wait for him to tutor, and there are all kinds of things that need to be prepared for him to prepare. When he finally took care of the family affairs, it was a luxury for him to get drunk, because no one could complete the next day's life for him.
There is less and less contact with friends, and it is almost doomed to estrangement, in fact, for a long time, friends do not seem to be very needed for him.
No matter how hard and busy you are, you can't compare to the sadness of being forced by life to be helpless, hate that you can't split yourself in half, and eat too much dignity to be trampled by life.
2. Guilt.
Feeling sorry for his parents, feeling sorry for his children, whenever he sees that his children have things that should not be of this age, the real colic in his heart always makes him can't help but sour the tip of his nose.
He had to put his children second in life, and work was the first, because he couldn't do without this job, and he needed this job too much.
Sometimes overtime at night, he will take the child to his unit, and the child always completes the homework consciously without noise, and after completing the homework, he will not run around, sitting quietly in the position waiting for him to go home together. Even if the hungry stomach grumbles, it still stubbornly swings its hands, disguised to sleep on the table and drools.
Children are still sensible, never noisily asking him for any toys, which belongs to the kind of money that is reluctant to spend, because the child can always think that his father makes money very hard.
The more this happened, the more uncomfortable his heart became, making him feel that he owed to his child, and there was no way to make up for it in this life, after all, the child's childhood was only once.
Failing to give the child a carefree childhood, which he could not forgive himself, whenever he thought of it, he felt a colic in his heart. No matter what, children are innocent, unable to choose and decide anything, but they have been paying for the behavior of adults.
Other people are not absolutely rational animals, there are always emotional times, when they are in a hurry, unconsciously yelling at children. At that time, I couldn't control myself, and afterwards I felt all kinds of self-blame and guilt, no matter what, because the choice of adults would involve children in life being treated too much and ignored.
3. Confused.
I don't know where my life should go, and I don't dare to have any plans for the future, what is it like? Life seems to be the only way to go. The more I think about it, the more panicked I feel in my heart, feeling that there is no way out in life, and I can only live one day is one day, and I can never end the embarrassment.
Parents often advise him, otherwise he will find another one, and no matter how bad it is, he can share some pressure for you.
This question, he thought, even if he did not think about himself, he had to think about the child. Although the child does not say, but can think of inferiority, why other children have their mothers to take home, but they do not.
However, the remarriage made him feel like he was out of reach, after all, he had a son, and in the blind date market, as long as many women heard this, it was impossible to have the following.
Therefore, reality makes him dare not fantasize about anything except self-deprecation, and perhaps only in a self-deprecating way can he get some psychological comfort.
Helpless, helpless, this has highly summarized the divorced man's feelings about life, not willing to do so, as if it can only be like this, will increasingly admit that they are just an ordinary person.
The real life experience is an indescribable heaviness, so I also want to remind those couples who are ready for divorce, calm down and ask themselves if they have to go this step.
In fact, every marriage has a most difficult period of time, which is the temper and habits of each other, as well as the correct understanding and attitude of marriage.
No matter what kind of problems are encountered, as long as they are not problems of principle, they are normal. After all, whoever has a marriage may be smooth sailing, in the long years, there will be some problems.
If you have come to this step, you must also remind and encourage yourself, you must hold on, I believe that the days will not be bitter all the time, there will always be a time when the bitterness will come. As the days go forward, do what you should do, then your efforts will naturally not be in vain, give time a little time.
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