If you have a favorite person now, today's content must be listened to, which can help you.
Why in the process of love or pursuit will be insecure, always suffer from gain and loss, trace back to the source, this mentality has actually been from your birth, in childhood, the sense of security is obtained from the parents, in the unconditional demand and the endless satisfaction of the parents, the sense of security is invisibly established.
When you grow up and wean your body, your parents will still give you the best, especially for only children, so your inner subconscious will take everything for granted. After adulthood, when encountering feelings, they all hope to pursue the other half, which can fill the lack of their hearts and transfer this sense of security to the other party. So you will find that when you like a certain opposite sex, you will begin to become a gain and loss, when you do not meet her, the mentality will not be like this, and your own position will slowly change, girls will gradually lose interest in you, so when you have this mentality, what should you do?
The first point is to clarify the identity of the other party, and you must clearly tell yourself in your heart that the other party is not your parents, and you are not yet a husband and wife relationship. The other party is not obliged to pay for your sense of security at all, and hanging in this way is not the performance that a mature man should have. A sense of security is given to oneself.
Second, to live your life more fully, to work out, to travel, to read, and even to drink with friends, you have to reduce the proportion of the other person who is present in your heart. When you stop paying attention to girls all day long, you will find that you are more attractive. A failed mate selection process is not whether you have become a boyfriend or girlfriend, but you have spent time, put in energy, and have not received anything. Therefore, once the self-process matures is to continuously ingest nutrients, the real harvest is not only the cultivation of positive results, but also self-growth.