Author ┃ Blue Feather Read aloud ┃ Blue Feather
Guidance ┃Liang Shanbo Editor ┃丄學号
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Flipping through the calendar, the Year of the Ugly Bull has entered the countdown.
After the eighth day, the children also had a winter vacation, and in the laughter of the children, the air has been filled with a faint smell of the New Year.
When it comes to the New Year, the happiest must be the children. Because you can play freely and eat as much as you want. Of course, the happiest thing is that you can receive the money.
However, for many children, the happiness of collecting old money often lasts a little short.
There are always some parents who try their best to take the money in their children's hands and "keep it for safekeeping".
Parents' starting points are mostly good. Afraid that the child will spend a lot of money indiscriminately, or even be deceived.
But because of the improper way, the child cannot understand and feels that the parents just want "their own" money.
So, here's the problem. Good things turn into bad things, and the pressure money that originally carries blessings has caused parent-child conflicts.
In fact, as long as the following three points are done, the contradiction between parents and children is avoided, and the money and materials are used to the fullest.
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Communicate openly and respect your child's IQ
Talk show actor Xiao Shenlong, in a talk show about the New Year, once complained about the pressure of the year:
"The most touching words were: 'Take it, give it to the child!' The saddest words were: 'Come, son, Mommy keeps you safe!' In the end, there was no mao. ”
Xiao Shenlong's unique dialect, coupled with exaggerated expressions, made the audience laugh forward and backward, and the applause on the scene was thunderous.
However, when the camera sweeps over a child, I see the child's bitter and vengeful face, and frequently nod his head in approval.
In fact, the scene expressed by Xiao Shenlong has been staged in many families. The child dressed up one day to sell cute, sweet talk, dry mouth, in exchange for the pressure of the red envelope, parents a sentence "for custody", it has become a bubble.
This is also too disrespectful to the fruits of the child's labor! Imagine that you have worked hard for a month, just paid the salary, before waiting for the heat, the boss said, come, I will keep it for you first! What mood are you in?
Is it understandable that the child's feelings of being confiscated and suppressed?
In comparison, one of my colleagues is much smarter.
The children of my colleagues, since the age of five or six, have kept the money for the year.
Of course, colleagues do not ignore and do not ask, but communicate with their children on an equal footing. She would ask the child what she wanted to do with the money.
Children will have a lot of ideas, such as buying toys, buying snacks, buying gifts for good friends, and so on.
At this time, colleagues will give some advice, and then guide the child to plan.
The child feels respected and is willing to accept the advice of his colleagues.
In fact, parents want to manage their children's pressure on the old money, mainly because they are afraid that their children will spend money indiscriminately.
But because of the improper method, let the child have a feeling of being manipulated and robbed. Children will feel that they are being fooled and not respected, so they cannot accept it.
What makes children angry is also this feeling of disrespect.
There is a saying that goes, "Respecting others is the beginning of earning the respect of others." In parent-child relationships, the same applies.
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Etiquette education to improve children's emotional intelligence
Pressing the old money, it contains the good wishes of the elders to the younger generations, and the people who should have been sent were full of love and received gratitude.
But sometimes, we encounter some discordant situations.
There are many children in my hometown, so when I came home during the Spring Festival last year, I prepared a large stack of red envelopes. Surrounded by a group of cute treasures, listening to them shouting aunts and aunts, small mouths smeared honey like saying New Year's words, the mood is really good!
However, such a harmonious scene was broken by a rampage of a small fat man.
This little fat man pulled away the other children three or two times, squeezed in front of me, did not call anyone, and asked me arbitrarily: "What about my pressure money?" ”
I recognized it as the child of a distant relative, and though I was a little displeased, I stuffed a red envelope into him.
The child opened the red envelope on the spot, looked at it, and said disapprovingly: "Just so much?" Then, taking advantage of the fact that I didn't react, I grabbed two more red envelopes directly from my pocket, turned around and ran.
I was stunned by this kid's operation!
This, too, is so impolite!
Being rude is not only disrespectful to people, but also a manifestation of low emotional intelligence. And emotional intelligence is very important for a person's development.
There is a saying on the Internet, "A person with low emotional intelligence can also have a difficult IQ to play effectively." ”
We also often see examples in our lives where emotional intelligence determines the future.
In the crowded elevator, the leader did not control the exhaust. The smell in the cramped space suddenly became indescribable.
Employee A immediately frowned, "Who?" So unqualified? ”
The employee B around the leader blushed: "Sorry sorry, it's me..."
As a result, Employee A is marginalized and Employee B is gradually reused.
It can be seen how important the impact of emotional intelligence on a person is.
Some people say, "Personality and emotional intelligence are mainly learned and shaped by the day after tomorrow." ”
Indeed it is.
And emotional intelligence education must start from the doll and exercise from daily life.
How to politely accept the pressure money given by the elders is a good entry point for training emotional intelligence.
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Rational planning to develop children's financial quotient
There is a saying on the Internet that brilliantly explains what a financial quotient is: "To be the master of money, not its slave, this is the financial quotient." ”
If emotional intelligence is the capital for a person to settle down, then financial intelligence is the guarantee of a person's economic freedom.
The same job, the same salary, why do some people have months and months, and some people have small savings? This is the difference between financial quotient.
When I first went to college, most people didn't really know what to do.
Everyone has nothing to do, or when they are bored to study, there is only one classmate, and they come to the university and walk around. Ask him and say in the market making. We all laughed and thought it could really be loaded.
Unexpectedly, three months after the start of school, people really became their own bosses.
He used the living expenses given by his parents to open the first lattice shop of the university at that time. Because of his good vision and accurate positioning, his shop is doing well.
When he graduated from college, when other students were struggling for work, he easily accumulated the first pot of gold, and now he is already a small and accomplished businessman.
The financial quotient of my classmate was also tempered by the words and deeds of my parents since childhood.
Teaching children to reasonably dispose of the old age money is also a good opportunity to exercise financial quotient.
There is a thought-provoking short video on Watermelon Video:
All three children received 1,000 yuan of pressed old money.
The first child gave the money to his parents, 1,000 yuan is always 1,000 yuan, and the child developed the habit of keeping money.
The second child spent his money on snacks and toys, which was soon squandered, and the child developed the habit of squandering and spending a lot of money.
The third child, his father taught him to invest from an early age, and he learned from his father. Earned back 10,000 yuan with 1,000 yuan, and through this process of making money, I have a financial quotient that is much higher than that of my peers.
With the improvement of living standards, most children can get a lot of money during the Spring Festival, and teaching children to learn to plan and use rationally is an effective enlightenment for children's financial quotient.
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Use the good pressure to press the old money
The Qing Dynasty poet Wu Manyun has a poem titled "Pressing The Old Money":
"One hundred and ten dollars wear colored threads long, and divide them in the pillow self-collection." Discuss the price of firecrackers, and Tian Dejiao is busy all night. ”
Vividly depicts the situation that after the child gets the money, he wants to hide it, and he wants to buy something he likes, busy, but he is also happy.
It makes people laugh dumb and laugh. It turns out that collecting old money has been such a happy thing for children since ancient times! If you can still be free, then this happiness will be doubled!
How can a big New Year's, a parent, bear to simply and rudely deprive this happiness?
Instead of racking your brains to find excuses for some inexplicable worries, confiscating the child's pressure money, making yourself tired and annoying the child, it is better to try to let go, encourage and guide the child to plan reasonably, and dispose of it freely.
The pressure money containing blessings, properly applied, can not only enhance parent-child feelings, increase the festive atmosphere, but also improve the child's IQ, emotional intelligence, and financial quotient.
Why not?
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Author Reader┃Blue Feather
Lan Yu, from Shihezi, Xinjiang, is a middle school teacher, a science and technology innovation counselor, who loves reading and writing, and is a creator of educational parenting literature. Willing to warm the world with words, I hope that every child can be treated with tenderness. Looking forward to meeting more peers, learning from each other, and growing together.
Shanbo Education Guidance ┃ Liang Shanbo
Liang Shanbo, a first-class teacher, an advanced educator in Shenzhen, the first batch of family education instructors in Bao'an District, the first learning star in Bao'an District, and the editor-in-chief of Shanbo Education Public Account. Engaged in education for 38 years, focusing on the comprehensive quality education of parenting.