Speaking of Wangzi Jackie Chan and Wangnu Chengfeng, everyone should know what it means, indicating that parents have high hopes for their children and hope that their children can make a difference. Now there is a network word "chicken baby" that means the same meaning, which means that parents continue to "play chicken blood" for their children in order to get good results in the test, constantly arrange learning and activities for children, and encourage children to continue to struggle.
In this era of competition, I believe that everyone is not unfamiliar with the "chicken baby", usually there is a high probability that more than heard and seen, but have you ever seen the child reverse "chicken mother"?
Recently, a bao dad in Changsha, Hunan Province, shared his wife who is often "chicken baby", and was counterattacked by his son's Jedi, and once the video was shared, it became popular on the Internet, and netizens ridiculed "This trick can not let my children learn."
In the video, a boy holds a stack of books, walks up to his mother sitting on the couch and says, "Mom, these books are for you," and then hands his mother the books in his hand. "You just pretend to be with your child", "Don't yell and don't scream, a practice of mother", "Nonviolent communication", etc., without exception, all let the mother learn to "progress", there are more than ten books.
As the book delivery boy also said what he expected from his mother: "I hope you study hard, improve every day, and strive to become a good mother that makes me proud." In the face of her son's behavior, the mother did not want to show weakness and immediately fought back: "Thank you son, have you finished your winter vacation homework, have you finished practicing brush writing, and have you finished reading the four famous books you bought?" "Really killed three times in a row."
According to the boy's father, Mr. Lin, his wife is usually very busy at work, and only wants to relax and play with mobile phones after work, but in the face of the child, she does not give the time for entertainment and rest, and the child's spare time is arranged to be full, and the child has been dissatisfied with the mother's "double standard" behavior, which has this scene.
The child went to play with the same classmates and accidentally saw these books, so he saved up the money to personally give this "big gift" to his mother. In this regard, the boy's mother said that she did not expect that the chicken baby would not become a chicken, but then she and her husband would also work together with the child to learn and progress, and strive to be a parent who made the child proud.
Netizens: "Children have a lot of ideas, look forward to their mothers into phoenixes", "children have too many ideas", and many netizens laughed and said, "Don't let my children see this method".
I believe that such parents are not in the minority in reality, the same thing parents can do children but can not, the requirements for children are very strict, but they are very relaxed for themselves, and even many parents still call this "double standard" behavior for the good of their children.
Parents do not regard their children as an independent and dignified individual, so they feel that they can arbitrarily and harshly demand their children, and feel that children must listen to their parents, and they do not know the harm behind these double-standard behaviors.
How much does "double-standard" behavior affect children?
1, children and parents are the same as double standards
Children have been under the requirements of their parents' double standards for a long time, and over time they will naturally be influenced by their parents and will feel that these double standards are normal, so they also begin to "double standards" for others. For example, when assigning tasks, the dirty work is assigned to others, and even when you can't complete the task yourself, you subconsciously feel that it is the cause of others, and you are not aware of your own mistakes, which causes others to resent.
2. Affect children's trust in their parents
The child is actually not a child who does not understand anything in the mouth of the parents, the baby has his own independent thoughts from the age of 3, and it is more obvious after the age of 10. Parents treat themselves differently from their children, which will not only make children feel unfair, but also affect their children's trust in their parents, and even cause tit-for-tat confrontation between parents and children.
How can parents avoid "double standard"?
1. Put down your parents' shelf
Many parents always feel that "you are born to me and must listen to me" when treating their children, and require their children to obey unconditionally. But the child is an independent individual, but also has their own thoughts, parents want to avoid double standards first of all to change this idea, with an equal attitude and children to communicate, in order to gain the child's trust and respect.
2. Before asking children, think about whether you can do it
If parents want their children to read more books and do not play mobile phones, then parents should usually play less mobile phones and read more books; parents want their children not to eat snacks, so parents should also eat less snacks. In the same way, parents ask their children to think more before, the same requirements can they do, if parents and children work together, children naturally will not feel that parents are double standard.
3) Put your child and yourself in the same standard
Many parents have a set of strict standards in the face of their children, but in the face of themselves, there is another set of more relaxed standards, such as children can not play mobile phones in their spare time, but parents have been playing mobile phones after work, because parents are tired after a day of work, children should learn more when they look at mobile phones, etc., so how not to make children feel unbalanced?
Each child is an independent individual, only when they grow up in the education of equality and respect of their parents, children can have an independent and happy life, and when they grow up, they will pass this respect to those around them, including you as a parent.