The child does not listen well, the reason does not make sense, can not be scolded, the management of disgust you manage too much, no matter that you do not care about him, deliberately provoke trouble to attract your attention, in the end how to educate the child!
Are these children born to their parents? It is normal for children to play games, after all, it is natural! Don't impose your childhood experience on your child! Those parents asked themselves: Did you study hard when you were young? If you have tried, then the result of your efforts is to become an ordinary ordinary person who can no longer be ordinary? If you haven't tried, don't blame the child! Because they inherited your genes!
He can't become an adult, but he treats his children harshly, and his name is Wangzi Jackie Chan and female Chengfeng. Once the child is not in accordance with their wishes, that is, disobedient and rebellious, they do not need a sound sunshine soul child, only a good walking dead obedient child. I hope that when they are old, they are also forbidden to do everything, just stay at home and read, the name is good for you, so old to go out and stumble and stumble, don't care what they think, anyway, their children are for their own good. After all, whoever holds the economic power and has a stronger body seems to be standing on the commanding heights and doing everything right.
In fact, both parents and children have problems, the child's problem is that I am now addicted to games caused by your parents, parents feel that you do not learn to indulge in online games is the child's fault, in fact, both sides are shirking excuses for each other, pushing the responsibility to each other, standing on the moral high ground. In fact, when it comes to sending children to such schools, parents no longer have the idea of Jackie Chan, but just hope that children will be able to support themselves in the future.
Behind these events is still the inner workings of some parents. To tell the truth, if such an idea can be realized, it is simply intolerable: some parents have a serious deviation in their understanding of the word "parent", thinking that parents are a word, in addition to giving orders, they have not done enough demonstrations for their children, and they feel that in this way, they can hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. Correctional schools can frequently resurrect, that is, they are interested in the idea of parents, and with a potential market, there is a huge profit space, no matter how many times they are banned, they are not afraid. Therefore, in order to eradicate this phenomenon, it is still necessary to start from strengthening the exemplary role of parents, and it is necessary to "teach" parents.
However, in the current era when the network is so developed, their courage and degree of rebellion are unimaginable to those who have dealt with them deeply! If the parents of these teenage children in your eyes are really unable to discipline, will they agree to let the people in the school forcibly tie up or escort their children to such schools? And a semester also costs more than 30,000 yuan! Although this kind of school is not formal, and the instructors and teachers are not good, but think about it, can normal teachers and instructors use the formal methods of normal schools to manage these teenage "children" who cannot even be disciplined by their parents and families? If it is really as cruel and terrifying as the author of this article says to the children, then the school has not died or crippled among more than two thousand problem children for such a long time?
Forcing children to reform with violence and power can only change more and more problems. From the birth of the child to the growth, the companionship of parents education is crucial, the correct education method, often empathetic thinking from the child's point of view to analyze the problem, tolerance and understanding, these are very important, for children, material life is obviously not more important than spiritual abundance.
Speaking easily, he just lies at home and does not go out, what do you do with him? Can you still carry him out? Even if you carry it out, as soon as you open the door, he will come in and lie down at home again, and ask you what you can do? Are you willing to kill and mutilate him? Can you get your hands on it? But in the end, there is a way to turn over the dead fish, that is, to take him to the vocational and technical school, according to his interest and ability to help him pay money to enroll in the vocational and technical school, can not go on to find the technical school again, and then pay money, and finally he himself will want to learn something, more or less can learn a little thing out. After coming out, help him to contact the various inaugural jobs, do a good job, do not do well and then contact, there is always a job he is willing to do, encourage him, tell him about the future, no one does not want the future! Finally succeeded on the right track!
It is true that inhumane forms of education such as corporal punishment are increasingly unsupported by most people, but individuals believe that any educational method (carrot or stick) has limitations and rationality, and the key is whether it is used at the right time and to the right extent. For example, some people do never scold their children, but only blindly accommodate their children to the level of coddling, and the results of this very humane way of education are also very bad. To be honest, not many people in reality dare to say that they "can teach, can teach, and teach well." Especially parents who send their children to such schools, they must know that some of the educational methods of such schools are somewhat inhumane before sending their children to them. Moreover, some of these parents may be as inhuman as such schools, or even more barbaric.
This kind of school is to frequently use extreme violence to hit the child's self-esteem, so that the child has a strong fear of psychology, in order to achieve the purpose of making the child obedient in a short period of time. However, the side effects of this practice are very large, and some children will have fear of all people and things, self-closure, resulting in personality problems. Other children will have extreme violent tendencies as a result. Both are dangerous and difficult to correct. Educating children still depends on parents, children are members of their own families, not enemies, parents if they do not have patience, and do not want to spend time to communicate and interact with their children, as the children grow older, self-awareness awakens, certainly will not listen to the parents, so this root is still in the parents, the bell must also be tied to the ringer, parents if they do not make changes, find ways to communicate with the child normally, rely on others to educate, is not able to solve the problem.
Do you think children are inherently "bad"? The birth of the child is not something he can decide from the beginning, and when you give birth you ask him if he wants to? What qualifications do people like you who can only give birth and will not raise , have to call themselves parents? Why do you think such schools exist? It is because there are parents who are the first to throw the pot like you. So why do other people's children have good character and excellent learning, do not skip class and do not rebel?
Especially understand the original intention of parents, helpless and helpless until the last moment will not bear to hand over the child, in fact, many times not parents face such a child no way, is no way to change their own concepts and attitudes, knowing that the method is not good, but has been a vicious circle, love is a good medicine, gentle and firm, if necessary, parents' psychological counseling and help can resolve or solve the contradiction ~ because the child is a child after all, as long as there is love, he will eventually have the day of growing up and understanding
It should be the adjustment of life, the problem is not in the children, in family life, in the environment. Maybe you are in contact with families who are struggling to survive, helpless people, no family life, and educated families think that behavior control, education is equivalent to punishment and training. They had been abolished from their enlightenment and were still beating sticks at them. If parents are guided to a positive, healthy and happy life, why should the child play games. It should be the adjustment of life, the problem is not in the children, in family life, in the environment. Maybe you are in contact with families who are struggling to survive, helpless people, no family life, and educated families think that behavior control, education is equivalent to punishment and training. They had been abolished from their enlightenment and were still beating sticks at them. If parents are guided to a positive, healthy and happy life, why should the child play games.