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In the process of raising children, many parents will find that there is a big difference in the treatment of boys and girls.
In general, boys' nerves are larger and generally more mature than girls, so even if their parents have some verbal misconduct, boys usually do not show excessive sensitivity.
Girls are different, because of the delicate mind, emotional sensitivity, they will be more likely to be estranged from their parents after entering puberty, especially when the parents' educational concept is still in a very lagging situation, parent-child war is often triggered.
The 15-year-old girl was boycotted by her mother with facial cleanser, and the strange concept angered the blogger: She is not worthy?
Not long ago, a short video of an education blogger was swiped on the Internet.
A mother consulted the blogger in the live broadcast room that her relationship with her daughter was not good, and what should she do if her daughter hated herself?
In the chat, the mother also shared her dissatisfaction with her daughter: the 15-year-old child, still in the school stage, privately used the pressure money to buy facial cleanser and shower gel, and children should not use those things.
Hearing this, the blogger looked surprised: Your child is already a teenager, shouldn't you use some body milk to wash your face?
Bao Mom replied lightly: You can wash it with warm water, after all, she is still a student, only 15 years old.
This mother's concept also shocked the blogger, directly scolding: is she unworthy?
The blogger said that teenage girls are the age of beauty, it is normal to buy some personal skin care products, which is also something that students around them are using, but as a mother, it is impossible to prevent this, so it is also reasonable for the daughter to hate such a mother.
In the message area, the mother's "strange" view has also aroused the heated discussion of many netizens.
Some people said that if it were not for the family's economic conditions, the idea of a mother is really terrifying for adolescent children.
Because her ideological concept is still in a very lagging stage, she does not understand her daughter's love of beauty at all, and she cannot establish a parent-child relationship with her child on an equal footing.
Oh my God, 15-year-old girl is the time to love beauty, and it is puberty, the oil secretion is excessive, what is wrong with facial cleanser? What's wrong with body lotion? Isn't it more useful? ”
" Draw the point, privately use the old money, through this sentence to know that this mother is too controlling, the girl does not have a little freedom, such a parent-child relationship is really terrible." 」
"When I was 13 years old, my mother took the initiative to buy me pure plant skin care products, which are not cheap, my mother's concept of raising a daughter is to be exquisite, usually see beautiful clothes we will also discuss together, my relationship with my mother has always been very good." 」
" My daughter is ten years old, cleanser, moisturizer, cream, shampoo, shower gel, body lotion, lipstick have their own, are all a brand, 15 years old is not small ah!" 」
Oh, the relationship between mother and daughter is indeed reasonable, and it is recommended that this mother learn how Huang Lei raises her daughter."
Treating children as children is the source of many parent-child conflicts
It is undeniable that due to different life backgrounds and different levels of education, many parents' ideological concepts are still in a relatively lagging state, and this has also caused the generation gap between parents and children to become deeper and deeper, children think that parents do not understand themselves, and parents complain about children's rebellious behavior.
In fact, when parent-child relationships reach an impasse, parents first need to self-reflect to see if we have always treated our children as children.
In real life, even if some children have entered middle school, parents are still conservative in the process of getting along with them, and their desire for control is still strong, such as seeing their children wearing beautiful clothes and suspecting that she is in early love, and the child's old age money cannot be distributed by themselves...
Parents think that they are protecting their children in the best way, but in the eyes of the other party, this is a kind of bondage that they want to break free of, because they have no way to establish an equal relationship with their parents, let alone treat them as friends who have nothing to talk about, no secrets and do not share.
If parents cannot fundamentally change their parenting concepts and learn to rethink each other from the perspective of their children, then this parent-child relationship is bound to become more and more distant, because the true love of children is not conservative and controlling, but respect and equality.
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