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In a way, to know a woman's true character and level, look at the man she chooses, this is not out of thin air, but has a scientific basis.
Psychological research shows that a person's choice for the other half is often to make up for the lack and defect in their own hearts, which is the famous love compensation effect. In simple terms, the love compensation effect is designed to emphasize that the more you lack something in your heart, the more you like a person in love or marriage with that characteristic.
For example, if you grew up in a family environment that is not rich and suffered enough material things, then you cannot ignore the concern for money in the process of interpersonal communication. Rather than finding someone you like, you want to find a rich man who can give you financial security.
And those girls who were raised by the rich, never lacked money, and never suffered hardships, could not understand their view of love and marriage, they just wanted to find someone they liked. Because they don't have to worry about financial conditions, they just want to pursue love purely.
From this point of view, a woman's level can be seen in the man she chooses.
Usually, the lower the level of men, the more they like the following two kinds of men. Because they are the refraction of their own hearts, the more they lack, the more they want to take and get closer.
One: a man with strong economic strength
Mr. Jia Pingwa has written a book, called "Temporary Sitting", which describes more than a dozen women with different backgrounds, personalities, identities, and experiences, based on a tea house, deducing everyone's different lives, just like the modern version of "Dream of the Red Chamber", writing the fate of women.
One of them is a woman named Xin Qi, and her story is very representative.
Xin Qi comes from the countryside, the living conditions are extremely poor, she knows the importance of money better than anyone, and she is eager to become a rich person more than anyone, but she does not want to work hard, but wants to opportunistically take shortcuts.
Some people say that people have three chances to change their destiny in this life, namely: birth, study, and marriage. The first two had no chance for her, and she could only choose the third, so she vowed to marry a wealthy local shanghai.
She went to work in the car shop, scratched her head, showed off her style, tried to attract the attention of rich people, but unfortunately, the men saw her essence early in the morning, and they were not willing to pay their hearts at all, at most just playing.
In the end, she chose to marry a civil servant, although he had no money, but he had a Shanghai hukou, and he was honest enough to be good enough to himself. But she was obviously not satisfied with such a life, so she soon became with a middle-aged rich businessman, of course, they had no love, fortunately the rich businessman had money.
It's just that rich people are shrewd, he is tired, there is no freshness, and he kicks Xin Qi away.
At this time, Xin Qi lost his marriage and had no material dependence, and once again returned to the original point. This is a low-level woman, a common disease in the relationship, they think that they can attract rich people by beauty, but in fact, they are just playthings in the eyes of rich people, and they cannot be equal at all, nor can they gain respect.
Two: rhetorical, habitually playing with feelings of men
There is also a woman in "Temporary Sitting" called Xia Zihua, who was once a model, but also a third party.
She fell in love with the coal mine owner Zeng Boss, a man with a wife, and there was no way to give her a name, to give her respect, to give her wholehearted love. However, he had countless love words, which coaxed Xia Zihua to be fascinated, and was willing to bear a son for him in the name of a third party.
This unrequited love affair lasted for a long time, until Xia Zihua was diagnosed with leukemia. But at this time, the former boss who was once more affectionate than Jin Jian had already run away and disappeared without a trace.
Even after the death of Xia Zihua in the end, Boss Zeng appeared again, weeping bitterly and sincerely repenting. But the harm has been cast, and the people have left, what is the meaning of such rhetoric?
Low-level women are often easily confused by short-term happiness and emotion, allowing themselves to be lost in the air pavilion woven by men's rhetoric, losing the minimum judgment and bottom line.
It's just that these women have forgotten that there is no cost to love words, and a man who is unwilling to pay anything, with a few love words, how sincere can you be?
The book "Temporary Sitting" writes through the joys and sorrows of various women's lives in love, showing the different difficult situations of women who pursue independence in the city.
If Jia Pingwa's "Waste Capital" before was a young writer, through personal brushstrokes to pour out life troubles, writing about the absurdity of a group of men, then "Temporary Sitting" is an old man who has experienced the world, with the wisdom and calm of time, with a peaceful and inclusive brushstroke, written about the vicissitudes of life, writing about the helplessness of a group of women.
This book gazes at women's lives, gives people different thinking to enlighten, and the more you read, the more you benefit. Everyone who has requirements for himself will not miss it.
Recommend Jia Pingwa's work "Temporary Sitting" to everyone, take advantage of leisure, read it.
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