Where does a woman's charm come from? Some people say that appearance, figure, temperament, dress, cultivation, self-reliance, and even interesting soul. Indeed, these are all sources of feminine charm.
But in the view of the writer Jia Pingwa, the top charm of women in the eyes of men can probably be summarized into three points, after the publication of Jia Pingwa's book "Temporary Sitting", he once said: "Others say that I can write about men, in fact, I can write more about women." ”
Indeed, as a writer, Jia Pingwa's interpretation of women is very unique. At the same time, as a man, combined with his entire life, his understanding of women is also very profound.
So, in the book "Temporary Sitting", how does he summarize the charm of women? First of all, we need to understand what kind of story this book mainly tells.
"Temporary Sitting" is one of the rare works that can make people mesmerized after reading it. He told a story between a group of women. The core character, "Hai Ruo", is the owner of the tea house, she is very good at running, and most of the people who come and go in the tea house are well-dressed. With good communication skills, she met twelve sisters directly or indirectly.
In the book, the studio of the great writer Yi Guang, behind the tea house. Since he often came to Hai Ruo for tea, he also met these women by the way.
The tea house is like a small society, with a variety of worldly changes. The story that happened among these twelve sisters is also varied and strange.
So, in this small society-like teahouse, from the perspective of vision or Jia Pingwa, what are the three points of charm in men's eyes?
01
Spiritual independence
I believe that many people have a deep feeling for this. It's easy to understand literally. When a woman is able to be spiritually independent, it means that she will not be attached to anyone and have the freedom she wants.
On the other hand, a woman who is mentally unable to be independent may be able to have charm in the eyes of men with her other conditions at the beginning, but over time, relying on this fatal weakness of men will definitely wear away men's patience and be disgusted.
In "Temporary Sitting", Xin Qi among the Twelve Sisters is a typical example. After she met a wealthy businessman, she divorced her husband for the life she wanted.
She desperately wanted to tie up the rich, even at the expense of giving birth to a child for the other party. However, a woman like her was only a blip in the eyes of the rich businessman. The rich businessman knew in his heart that Xin Qi valued his money, so even if he thought that the other party was attractive as a woman, he did not really feel sorry for her. The outcome can be imagined.
A woman's youth and beauty can indeed make her look attractive, but when a woman has no ability to work, is not mentally independent enough, and only wants to be attached to others, her charm is not worth mentioning.
What kind of women will men be attracted to? In fact, spiritual independence is an important point. Especially for the rich, they are used to maximizing their profits.
When a woman is just empty of beauty or skin bags, and cannot be mentally independent, it is impossible to make men pay for it for a long time. When can Israel be good for others? Only when you have an independent spirit and personality, so that men feel your noble and indomitable character, you are truly valuable and attractive.
02
There is a bottom line to understand the principles
"The more you lust, the heavier your body is, and the mud on your feet is stained, I don't think you can fly."
In "Temporary Sitting", the writer Yi Guang said such a thing. Indeed, in the face of desire, many women have no bottom line and do not understand principles. And the ending is destined to be lamentable.
Judging from the book, whether it is the teahouse owner Hai Ruo or other sisters, they have their own characteristics and charms. In the case of Hai Ruo alone, she is top-notch in terms of appearance, ability, etc. In the eyes of most men, she also has great charm. From the moment she lost her bottom line and principles, she was doomed to despair and failure.
It is not denied that in the beginning, they were all attractive and lived a glamorous life, but when the bottom line was violated, their lives were covered with a dark layer, and there was no charm at all
In the end, Hai Ruozhi had no news, and the lives of other women were also depressed. Their changes are a harbinger of a woman who has no bottom line and does not understand principles, and is doomed to be defeated by desire. And such a woman, how can she talk about having top charm?
And a woman who has a bottom line and understands principles is rarely likely to have such a situation. This type of woman is clear-headed and understands what to do and what not to do. Most men will admire such a woman, and they will look up to such a woman.
03
Low-key has connotations
After Ying Li in "Temporary Sitting", she is a "charter wife" and a "rich woman". Her life has made countless people envious. Such a woman has money and leisure, and naturally through the blessing of money, she is indispensable to her charm as a daughter.
But a woman like her, even if she has a life that others can't struggle for a lifetime, she doesn't know how to keep a low profile, and she doesn't understand that a woman who wants top charm needs to have connotation.
In order to obtain more wealth, she did not hesitate to sell herself and win over the powerful. In the teahouse, she was also the very high-profile woman.
Such a high profile has naturally become the object of envy in the eyes of others, and under the planning of others, it has become a "fat sheep" that can be slaughtered.
When Yan Nianchu and others created traps to fool Ying Lihou, this high-profile woman ended up almost penniless due to greed and desire.
There is no denying that Ying Lihou is attractive, but when she pays for her high profile and lack of connotation and greed, she begins to look cheap in the eyes of men.
From the experiences and encounters of these women in "Temporary Sitting", we can fully see that a woman who is mentally independent, has a bottom line to understand principles, and is low-key and connotative is high-level and also has top charm.
When women lose these, it is equivalent to losing the capital of charm and starting to become cheap.
It is true that how women live and whether they are attractive is not just for men to evaluate and judge. However, whether it is love or marriage, it is a game, so in the relationship between men and women, no matter who it is, they need to figure out each other's psychology and thoughts.