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In love or marriage, we often mention a word called: door to door.
Perhaps many people scoff at this and think that this is a kind of gold-worshiping marriage value. But in fact, this saying, which has been passed down for thousands of years, has its own true meaning that has stood the test of time.
Door-to-door pairing refers not only to the matching of the economic status of both men and women, but also the matching of the environment in which they grew up, the education they received, the level of cognition, etc., in short, the matching of the three views.
Don't think that love can cross everything, if the three views are not compatible, even if you love each other because of a momentary attraction, you will gradually consume love in the conflict of subsequent thoughts.
Just like a man who has been pampered since childhood, there is no way to understand the desire for money of a woman with a poor family. Because their perception of money is different.
Similarly, a woman who has not experienced a good education will have a hard time admiring the men of the bookish family, who are more likely to be attracted to men with a lot of money.
In fact, the lower a woman's level, the easier it is to like rich men. Their money worship is difficult to change in a short period of time, no matter how pure the surface looks, it is difficult to hide the depth of the heart.
In Jia Pingwa's "Temporary Sitting", there is a typical case, this woman's name is Xin Qi.
Xin Qi is a rural girl who has no good family background and has not received a good education. But she has an obsession and yearning for the glamorous city of Shanghai, and her goal in life is to take root in this bustling metropolis, to live a rich life of people, away from that barren hometown.
If he wants to stay in Shanghai, the only way Xin Qi can think of is to marry a Shanghai man, preferably a rich Shanghai man. And the only thing she can attract shanghai men is her posture.
She went to the 4S shop where her sisters worked as a model, scratched her head every day to let people take pictures, spent a lot of money on the purchase of clothing, and even borrowed money to set up, she put all her hopes on her posture.
But she didn't understand that beauty without connotation was like a castle in the air, maybe it could attract the attention of others for a while, but it couldn't stand up to scrutiny, and it dissipated in the air after a long time, and there was nothing left.
Xin Qi did not meet any good men at first.
Those Shanghai men, who can always see through the purpose of Xin Qi at a glance, are just playing, and none of them intend to be serious with her. Until she was introduced by a friend and met a civil servant in Shanghai.
This man did not meet Xin Qi's goal, although he had a house, but it was only a small small room, and although he had a stable job, his salary was not high. Xin Qi also knew that this was the best choice that Xin Qi could encounter, so Xin Qi began to approach this civil servant purposefully.
Finally, kung fu paid off, she married him, settled in Shanghai, and became the Shanghainese she dreamed of.
But Xin Qi was not satisfied with such a life, and she still had the dream of "being a man on top" in her heart. With this mindset, she met a wealthy local businessman in Shanghai.
Although this rich businessman was bald, greasy, and fleshy, and could be her father at an old age, he didn't care about these hardships because he had money.
Xin Qi couldn't wait to divorce her husband and wanted more from a wealthy businessman. She had thought that the rich merchant was generous to her and would meet her requirements, but the rich merchant did not hesitate to dump her.
With the vision of a rich businessman and the people he came into contact with, Xin Qi was just a plaything with another plan for his property, and it was good to play with it freshly for a while, and when he was tired, he could kick it away without mercy, because there were countless women like "Xin Qi" behind him, and they were younger than her and more beautiful than her.
A low-level woman only knows how to use her posture to target men's wallets, but she does not know that posture is the most depreciating currency, in exchange for temporary benefits, but it is impossible to exchange for a lifetime of happiness.
Jia Pingwa's "Temporary Sitting" depicts the stories of more than ten women, which can be called the apocalypse of women's lives.
The women in the book, starting from the tea house and ending at the tea house, the tea house is like their grand garden, condensing their life of mixed tastes. Also like the Daguan Garden being raided, no matter how hard these women struggled, in the end the tea house was burned down, and they all went their separate ways and scattered in all directions.
"Temporary Sitting" is like a women's encyclopedia, gazing at women's lives from a female perspective, while also giving readers different enlightenments and showing different looks of love.
A thousand people have a thousand Hamlets in their hearts, and in the same way a thousand readers have a thousand of their own tea houses in their hearts. If after reading this book, you can find some thoughts about life and love in the tea house in your heart, then the meaning of this book will be completed.
Recommend Jia Pingwa's "Temporary Sitting" to everyone, this is another urban theme novel after Jia Pingwo's "Waste Capital", which belongs to contemporary literature, and after reading it, you will have a new understanding and thinking about women's lives.
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