Wen | snow fell without dust
Time flies, a gust of wind blows, and it's hard to leave us with anything. After falling in love and then leaving, nothing will be left but memories.
Some people say that when the years are over, those who have not cherished it in their feelings will regret it more than those who love each other well.
Although the relationship from beginning to end is enviable, we will always meet a person who wants to enter marriage hand in hand.
For those who cherish every relationship, even if they fail to go to the end and love hard, there will be fewer regrets.
Two people together, if you don't want to have regrets, then love like this.
01
Plans can never keep up with change
"Sometimes, sometimes, I believe that everything has an end, get together and leave, and sometimes nothing lasts forever."
Just like the song "Red Beans" sung by Faye Wong, people come and go in this world, and the clouds in the sky gather and disperse suddenly, and after a few years, it seems that everything will cease to exist.
In the face of the rolling torrent of the times, in this mighty red dust, we are all very small beings, and those moving promises are particularly difficult to fulfill.
Many people like to set their own life path.
Married at the age of twenty-five and had children at the age of thirty. It seems that if you make a plan, you can achieve your goals and go on as expected.
So in love, there will always be people who promise, "We will have a home of our own." ”
Commitment, though somewhat unrealistic, at least proves that we have loved each other sincerely and passionately.
Nine Nights Anise wrote in "First Love":
"When a relationship is gone, there is always something to be left behind, even if we never see each other again, even if the pain is more bitter than happiness, even if it is hurt, even if it sheds a lot of tears, it still wants to leave some traces of being loved." 」
Love has such a magic power, even if it is hurt again and again, it still wants to love without hesitation.
If not being able to come together is the ultimate fate of love, then why don't we choose to cherish every second of time when we are in love?
When the sideburns are pale and they recall the past of their youth, they will still be in tears.
02
When you don't love, there are many excuses
In a variety show, Cheng Xiao once said that he did not like the other half to say that he was busy, for the sake of two people's better future.
In fact, the word "busy" is mostly for yourself.
Under the doubts of many guests, Cheng Xiao then said his thoughts:
"If hard work is for a better future for two people, then you must have mine in your future?" Without me, you would still have your job, your life. These burdens do not belong to me. ”
It cannot be denied that some people work overtime and work hard to make money, just to give each other a warm home and give an account of this relationship.
But all this does not become an excuse for the lack of companionship in the relationship.
In order to work, we can choose to understand, and we can properly handle the relationship between work and love. But to associate one's own desires with ethereal reality is too hypocritical.
There are also some people, under the guise of busyness, who speak in a dignified manner for the future of two people, for the future of two people. But in fact, the mind has long been far away.
Indeed, none of us know what will happen in the future, nor do we know whether there will be each other in the so-called future.
However, the present moment is graspable. Going to a movie, traveling together, trying something new, constantly exploring the good, it's all within reach.
The memories that two people have together will not change, and they are the most beautiful. Such a relationship can enhance the feelings between two people.
There will be work in the future, but the latest movies will not be fresh in the future.
03
The present constitutes the future
Xiaoli and her boyfriend have been together since college, and the two are very much in love.
After graduation, because both of them have their own dreams, they each chose their favorite city and began a long-distance relationship.
At the beginning of the long-distance relationship, Xiaoli will also worry about whether the feelings of the two people will gradually fade because of the distance, and worry about whether the boyfriend will change his heart.
Both people encouraged each other to pursue their dreams and agreed to get married regardless of whether their careers were improving or not.
The days of long-distance love are undoubtedly difficult, the lives of two people are completely different, and when facing difficulties, the other party cannot arrive in time.
Thankfully, neither of them changed their minds during those difficult days.
What Xiaoli didn't know was that her boyfriend saved more than half of his salary every month to prepare for the future marriage of the two people.
After three years in a different place, Xiaoli's boyfriend suddenly came to her city and proposed to her.
If someone really wants to be with you, then he will definitely give practical action. He will not be unprepared for the future, because he will be afraid that you will feel unhappy.
I once saw a story similar to Xiaoli.
A couple deducts the money they have to spend from their own salary, withdraws a part of it as a travel fund for two people, and saves the rest.
Even if two people really walk and disperse, it doesn't matter, they have had the best time for each other, and they have sincerely loved each other.
It's really a way to combine the present and the future. Not only did he enjoy the current life, he added new impetus to his feelings, and he also took care of the future of two people to prepare for marriage.
04
Truly perfect love is not to do your best, but to do a little.
That is, when you can still be together, cherish it, love each other well, and don't leave regrets for yourself.
Feelings, in fact, come slowly step by step. From meeting each other to knowing each other, if you are lucky enough, to the final acquaintance.
Perhaps, we have to go through enough tests to walk a long, long way, and the road is full of mud. But the end result is you, which is the greatest motivation.
The greatest thing in this world is to be able to fulfill one's promises and turn predetermined things into reality. But in this world, there are also people who treat feelings perfunctorily and do not take feelings seriously.
It's just that love is always beautiful, and you don't have to choose to give up because of one or two failures.
While you are still young, while you are still together, let's fall in love.