Since then, the two have lived a happy life, which is the end of countless fairy tales, but the real marriage must not be so moving, what do you think the feelings in the marriage are?
They all say, "Take your daughter-in-law's hand as if your left hand touched your right hand."
It seems that this kind of insensitive intimacy is a portrayal of many middle-aged couples.
A woman, no matter how much she was a goddess, how many suitors she had, or how much her husband admired low posture at the moment, after marriage, most of them will become difficult to touch your hand.
Life has become too bad, want to divorce and involve too much, inseparable.
According to the latest survey, women who choose not to marry and be infertile are on the rise, and many people blame house prices and prices, but in fact, marriage brings more harm than benefits to women.
In today's era, marriage stands on a utilitarian point of view, and for women, it is an extremely cost-effective thing.
But for women, wanting to be happy must be the hope of a lifetime, but for middle-aged women who enter marriage, what can make them happy is not love and men, but how to manage their emotions and the skills to manage their own days.
A woman who has entered middle age wants to be happy first to understand, lovers first love themselves, and never let marriage and family become their own.
Love should have a degree, and leave room for each other
The heroine played by Ni Ni in the movie "I want to be good with you" regards love and men as the whole of her life, her love has become a cage that binds men, monitoring men's lives every day, she lacks a sense of security, and needs to understand each other's every move, all within the controllable line of sight.
She does not mind the hard days, and she does not mind making money for men to spend, but the end of all love is to make men avoid her, and finally drop a sentence of "please don't love me", and then go away.
Before marriage, vigorous is the expression of love, after marriage, plain is the norm relationship.
Only by running a business together, giving each other, attaching to each other and having an independent spirit, such a relationship can be long-term and happy. Do not over-interpret love, its romantic warmth is limited to a short period of communication, not can last forever.
Give each other a little space, the distance has a sense of beauty, let him be free, but also in order to perceive your good and care for yourself. Give yourself some space and don't lose your social circle, because the boss and the man become all you have, and once he leaves, your world will collapse
Do not think that the compromise and self-sacrifice of love can be exchanged for the gratitude of the other party, no matter for what reason and no matter how affectionate you are, no matter how much love you have, excessive your sacrifice and payment will become a burden of pressure no one will cherish.
Don't always talk about "days can't pass"
Two people live a life, men and women of different genders and different growth concepts, quarrels are inevitable, it is true that men's behaviors and actions make women feel helpless and even angry, but smart women will not hang on to their mouths all day long.
What is aroused is the rebellious psychology of the other party, and what hurts is the feelings, putting yourself in a more embarrassing situation.
This is not to make women blindly tolerate, but to face up to the relationship, do not emotionally try to use gambling to make the other party cater to change the attitude of getting along.
In other words, if you want to think of a good way, if you can't live it or not, you won't say the opposite, and gambling can only make your life worse.
Women are free to control their emotions before they can manage the relationship.
Trust is not the same as indulging in betrayal and not knowing it, it should be any and space that is independent when we get along.
Everyone in this world has a soul that needs to be healed, and there are chicken ribs that feel unsatisfactory and unspeakable, and the "can't go on" statement undoubtedly makes their relationship more difficult to repair, and also makes themselves more sad and unsatisfactory days.
Remember to improve your financial strength
In a certain program, Yang Mi was asked: "Do you need to consult with Liu Kaiwei to buy a house for your parents and buy valuables?" ”
Yang Mi's answer was "no", and when asked why, she said frankly, "Because I can afford it myself."
Although Yang Mi is divorced now, a woman's divorce is not the same as unhappiness, and only if a woman is financially independent and rich enough can she cope with any sudden changes in her life, including the disintegration of marriage and the departure of men.
At the same time, in the relationship can also be more pure to talk about feelings, live a life, the economy is the share of the right to speak of family status, without it, even if the feelings are good, gradually, it will become Gu Xiaonan in "Happiness Duo", saying that being slapped is slapped, and it is difficult to live if you want to run away from home at any time.
When the lack of economy is sometimes an important factor in the inability of relations to be equal, improving economic ability is always one of the important conditions for family stability and harmony.
No matter how difficult life is, no matter whether the relationship is bad or boring at the moment, instead of being entangled in emotional problems, it is better to have time to think more about how to improve their ability to make money, not to exaggerate that most of them have a relationship with money in the day, and the economy is not necessarily the only condition for emotional love, but it has a decisive impact on the harmony of the relationship to varying degrees.
Taking ten thousand steps back, when the feelings are good, it can not be said that it depends on each other to survive, and the feelings are problematic, and the same can be lived.
Talking well is the beginning of a happy marriage
The most difficult thing about marriage is to tie two people who are not related by blood to each other for the rest of their lives, no matter what happens, they can face each other together and talk to Yan Yuexi.
For couples, "talking well" seems simple, but it is very difficult.
Women want to be happy, starting from a good talk, this is not a male power, nor is it a bottomless compromise for women, but do not let a mouth destroy all their efforts, and do not clearly express their original intentions because of emotions and impulses.
Too many women, work a lot, tired a lot, but only lost to their own mouth, good talk is not weak and incompetent, but the wisdom of the skill, the way is the way of marriage management, control their own attitude and measure to have a happy life.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.