After more than ten years of marriage, there were even a full ten years of working outside the home and not returning home, and the family was ready to repair the house, but they rushed back in a hurry to say that they wanted to divide the family property.
The peaceful old age that should have been spent hand in hand was shattered and strife by his wife's sudden visit.
Is it really bitter or vain? After more than ten years of marriage, what really happened between this old couple?
The old couple fought in public
In the picture, an old man seems to be angry with the woman in front of him.
In order to interrupt her, he reached out and slapped her face firmly.
The woman fled to hide behind others in a hurry, while crying bitterly: "He hit me!" He's going to hit me!" ”。
The man was particularly angry, and while chasing after her, he even picked up a wooden stick with a thick arm on the side and gestured to hit her.
The interviewer with the microphone in his hand quickly crossed between the two and tried to pull a fight, while painstakingly advising the old man to put down the things in his hand and not to use violent means, while letting the woman quickly get into the car to avoid chasing.
It is understood that the old man who has just passed the age of flower armor is named Su Dafan, and he is not hitting someone else, but his wife Li Xiuhua.
It may be difficult for ordinary people to imagine that such a farce that should appear in two enemies can happen to an old husband and wife who have been married for 14 years.
Where did the husband's excessive anger come from? Why did the two of them have to make trouble in this field?
The love and vanity in the eyes of the husband
It turned out that Li Xiuhua was not Su Dafan's married wife, the two were married for the second time, and they had spent a full 14 years together.
Nowadays, both of them can be said to have reached the age of need and enjoy their old age.
Therefore, su Dafan's family decided to build a typical rural-style small western-style building, ready to be raised for the elderly.
But when his wife, who had been working outside for many years and could not come back once, came to Su Dafan's side, he showed extreme disgust and anger.
In addition to using violent means to try to expel Li Xiuhua from his home.
He also threw all the clothes that Li Xiuhua had placed in his house out of the house, making it clear that it was for her to hurry up and go as far as possible.
Seeing the appearance of her husband, Li Xiuhua was sad. She said that she had been working for many years for the sake of this family, and after she never wanted to come back, what awaited her was not a warm greeting, but a violent beating by her husband.
Li Xiuhua
This made her feel very aggrieved and sad, and even couldn't help but wipe her tears from the camera of the reporter.
She cried and said that Su Dafan's cruel performance today was ungrateful.
So what is the truth of the matter?
The reporter found one of the protagonists of the incident, Su Dafan, and interviewed him.
Unexpectedly, the results of the interview surprised everyone, because what Su Dafan said was completely opposite to Li Xiuhua's statement.
He said that in the more than ten years since Li Xiuhua married into this family, she has only been staying at home and managing family affairs for only three or four years.
Moreover, li Xiuhua had been married for less than four years, and despite the opposition of the Su family, she resolutely went out to work and make money.
Li Xiuhua Hua Su Dafan
Li Xiuhua, who went to the big city, seemed to have completely forgotten about their family, and once they left, they were ten years old, and they rarely returned home for a long time.
The general traditional festival is also counted, and it can still be when she is too busy at work to come back.
But even the Spring Festival, such a happy time of family reunion and gathering together, she has never been seen.
Speaking, Su Dafan mentioned an old past.
He said that after the autumn harvest that year, the family's millet sold for more than 3600 yuan.
It just so happened that he had a distantly married niece with a child, and he wanted to visit it.
Unexpectedly, Li Xiuhua was very stingy, and even two hundred yuan of travel expenses were not willing to give.
According to Su Dafan, when Li Xiuhua married, the family conditions were not very good, and it can even be said that it was more difficult.
Therefore, Li Xiuhua later used this unbearable and difficult environment to use the reason that she ostensibly said that she wanted to go out to work to earn money, but in fact she wanted to avoid this marriage as much as possible.
But after all these years, the conditions at home are getting better and better. Even if she doesn't usually see Li Xiuhua's people, she should send something home so that her family can know about it.
But Li Xiuhua has never taken out any of the money she earned from part-time work to buy something to send home.
Saying that going out to work is really like evaporating in the human world, and no one can be found everywhere.
And now, when his son has made a lot of money, grateful for his father's nurturing grace, and ready to build a new house for the family, Li Xiuhua ran back.
As a result, the house had not yet been built, and the people rushed back to divide the property.
Isn't Li Xiuhua's apparent love for vanity and coveting his money?
This kind of behavior made Su Dafan feel very unacceptable, which made him have the attitude that looked very bad before.
Irresponsibility in the eyes of his son
As the saying goes, "if you listen to it at the same time, you will be bright, and if you believe it partially, you will be dark", and just listening to Su Dafan's one-sided words will inevitably make our judgment affected by his subjective emotions.
Since this is the case, let's take a look at the opinions of the sons of the Su family on Li Xiuhua.
Su Dafan's younger son said that in fact, as long as she was well with her father, they did not have any other requirements.
Now the conditions at home are also better, just hope that someone can accompany his father, do not let him live in old age and loneliness.
The eldest son also said that usually they treated her like their own biological mother, and never treated him half a point.
It's just a pity that Li Xiuhua is really not good, with a bad personality and at the same time, she is more careless and does not pay attention to details at all.
They said that when their mother was alive, the relationship with the neighbors was very good, and everyone would come to visit the house and nag. Neighborhood relations can be said to be happy and harmonious.
But since Li Xiuhua entered the door, there were constant contradictions between her and her neighbors.
The neighborly relationship that her mother had managed very well was all messed up by Li Xiuhua.
Some neighbors even get together from time to time and talk about Li Xiuhua, and they are dissatisfied with her inside and outside.
Just when the reporter was interviewed, the neighbor also said that Li Xiuhua came once this year on the third day of May and the fourteenth of August.
In addition, in the whole fourteen years of marriage, he had not seen her figure in the Su family.
And Li Xiuhua did not bring some comfort to her father's later life as her sons imagined.
On the contrary, she and her father often quarreled over small things. It can be said that in the eyes of both neighbors and sons, she is not a competent and responsible wife.
Although everyone has also mentioned that Su Dafan is indeed too upright. Not only is he a bit grumpy, but he also speaks more directly.
The contradictions between the two are constant, and there should be part of the reason for Su Dafan's body.
But they all believe that it is more because of Li Xiuhua's lack of dedication to this family and her blind avoidance of her responsibilities.
How to justify criticism
Li Xiuhua has not responded to these arguments.
She said she was an extremely insecure person.
After divorcing her first husband, she fell into a state of helplessness. She and Su Dafan came together to let others stop gossiping about her and think that their lives would be better in the future.
But life after marriage is not as warm and fulfilling as she imagined.
When I first married into the Su family, it was as if I was not satisfied with what my husband did.
Su Dafan scolded her without moving, saying that he wanted her to "get away!" ", let her feel very wronged.
Because of this, Li Xiuhua will feel that no matter how much she pays, she is always an outsider who cannot be integrated in this family.
Therefore, I will make up my mind to go out to work and save money that only belongs to me as my most solid reliance.
In fact, the money Li Xiuhua earned from working for many years was indeed used by her to renovate the old house in her hometown.
The dilapidated mud house has now been built into a beautiful two-story small Western-style building.
She also said that she only did this to make her life secure after she was old, so she didn't feel that she had done anything wrong.
In addition, Li Xiuhua also said that after she came to the Su family, she was not lazy and did nothing.
As she spoke, Li Xiuhua pointed to a small forest next to Su's house to the reporter who interviewed her, saying that she had planted them after she had come.
Therefore, she believes that the Su family's property should have her share, which is indisputable. He and Su Dafan discussed dividing the property of the Su family's newly built small bungalow, which was also very reasonable.
But Su Dafan said bluntly that not long after Li Xiuhua came to the Su family, he left their grandfather and grandfather to work unexpectedly, and did not go home several times a year during the period.
This time to build a new house, she has not given any money or strength, this house has nothing to do with her, no matter what, he will not agree to give the property of the house to Li Xiuhua.
It was also under the dispute that the two sides had the beginning of the farce-like chase.
But no matter what others said, Li Xiuhua always insisted that since she and Su Dafan were legal couples who had obtained a marriage license through formal procedures. This newly built house is the common property of the two of them, that is, it should be divided equally between the two of them.
The complexity of the incident makes the responsibility unclear
According to verification, the investigators learned from the staff of the village committee that although the current villa was not funded by Su Dafan alone, it was indeed hung in his name.
And because the two sons only account for the majority of the funds raised, they cannot be simply and directly classified as the common property of the husband and wife.
Eventually, the distraught couple came to the village committee, hoping that the staff would provide a feasible solution.
But I didn't expect that in the mediation process, the two had problems again.
As soon as Li Xiuhua came up, she asked Su Dafan to give 100,000 yuan in compensation.
Word by word, she broke her hand to count the time and energy she spent taking care of their family after she came to the Su family.
She offered to cash in on these hours with the salary standards she knew about her sister-in-law and "pay her wages."
Of course, Su Dafan was not happy when he heard it, and even immediately "bargained", saying that he could only produce about 20,000 yuan at most, and there was no more than one point.
The staff saw that the two sides seemed to be in a tense posture, and quickly came forward to mediate.
Subsequently, Li Xiuhua reluctantly lowered the standard, saying that at least 50,000 pieces must be given.
Under the further communication of the staff, Su Dafan reluctantly increased the original 20,000 to 20,000 8, but Li Xiuhua was not satisfied, resulting in the mediation eventually failing.
Afterwards, Li Xiuhua said that she would sue Su Dafan to the court and let the judge solve the problem of "cutting and messing up" between the two.
But in fact, the complexity of this matter is not something that can be fully sorted out by using legal weapons.
Seeing this, it is estimated that many people want to say to this couple, since they can't get by for a long time, why not divorce it?
Yes, obviously Li Xiuhua has long been dissatisfied with Su Dafan, and the contradictions between the two are constant, so why not divorce early and make the two clean?
If you can't be a family, at least you can get together and disperse.
And Su Dafan obviously sensed that Li Xiuhua had shown resentment towards this family early, and knew the reason why she had to go out to work at all costs.
I also watched her not go home for many years, ignoring this family, and actually insisting on this marriage in name only.
In the end, the two had to break up in front of people, one was angry and blew his beard and stared, and the other was sad and weeping, which was actually not the responsibility of one person.
After all, the maintenance of a marriage requires two-way giving and love.
A paper certificate has never represented anything, the most important thing is to see whether there is a mutual trust and affirmation between husband and wife.
Many marital crises may not be simply incompatible, and when some things are difficult to talk about, emotional discord becomes the best cover.
End
Originally, it was supposed to be a warm old age life that was mixed with each other and reminisced about the past years, but it was broken up because of Li Xiuhua's excessive insecurity and Su Dafan's temperament.
In fact, in today's society, there are also many rural families who are divorced due to one party going out to work.
Especially now, when the economy is becoming more and more developed, many rural areas still have the ability to work, and there are people who are not satisfied with the status quo, and the trend of flowing to the city is becoming more and more obvious. And the problems that arise with their flow are also constantly emerging.
We don't know what the old couple will do with their property and the small western-style building in the end.
However, we can say that this farce between Su Dafan and Li Xiuhua not only makes us see the incompatibility of the personalities of the two sides and what kind of consequences will be brought to a marriage, but also sees the epitome of many rural families that have broken up because one party chooses to go out to work.