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Jing Mama had a classmate married to the United States, and when chatting in the classmate group, when a female classmate helplessly told the various troubles of the mother-in-law in the family, the classmates who married the United States felt a little confused.
Because after they get married in the United States, their mother-in-law will not live with the little couple, and even when her husband is an adult, the mother-in-law has already kicked her husband out of the house.
Now all of them are earned back by two couples one by one, so the mother-in-law will not point fingers at their affairs. In the United States, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very weak, only a little better than strangers, so there is no mother-in-law relationship at all!
We say that distance produces beauty, the closer the distance, the easier it is to produce contradictions, especially one of the most favorite things for Chinese mothers-in-law to do is to cross the line, which is also a fuse that leads to problems in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
Likes to cross the line of Chinese mother-in-law, like to do three things, leaving young people speechless
First thing: The child grows up crossing the line
The term "mother-in-law" arose because she gave birth to a son, and the son married a daughter-in-law, and the two people are prone to various contradictions in the process of getting along.
The old woman is also prone to cross the line in the process of her son's growth! Even raise a mommy boy.
I have seen a post on the Internet before, it was written by a girl who had just been married for a long time, and when she fell in love with her husband, she felt that her husband was special, polite and filial.
Unexpectedly, after getting married, the image of the husband and mother's treasure boy slowly revealed, when buying large pieces of furniture in the family, the girl asked her husband for money, but her husband said that my salary card has always been held by my mother, and I have no money here!
And usually when two couples want to discuss something, the husband generally does not give advice, you ask again urgently, he said I go back to ask my mother.
Once this girl went home early on a business trip and saw a scene that surprised her very much, her husband was bathing in the bathtub, and her mother-in-law actually helped her husband rub her back, this scene directly broke her heart, and divorce became her only choice.
As the child grows up, he should be independent, and if the mother-in-law interferes in the process of the child's independence, it is easy to cultivate a mother and a baby man.
The second thing: finger-pointing to the little couple's little family
For example, the daughter-in-law usually goes to work by herself and likes to buy all kinds of things, but the mother-in-law is not used to it, and she nags every day.
And the "Chinese-style mother-in-law" likes to guide the little couple the most, that is, married to have children, to give birth to children, and now the state let go of the three children, on a variety of fancy to give birth to the second child and three children.
Having children or not is a matter of two couples, and if the mother-in-law interferes too much in this matter, it is easy to affect the feelings of the young couple.
The third thing: treat your child in a willful way
"Chinese mother-in-law" has a lot of good experiences with babies to share:
For example, children with eczema should be rubbed with huangdan powder, which can detoxify and generate muscle, resulting in lead poisoning in children!
For example, children with jaundice do not have to go to the hospital to take blue light, just wash some potions directly at home, which leads to serious bilirubin invasion of the brain and affects the development of the child's brain!
As soon as the child is born, the nipple is expressed, and as a result, the child's breast is squeezed, causing inflammation!
Every year there are some tragedies caused by old experiences caring for children!
And the Chinese-style mother-in-law with children likes to use the old experience of the soil method, it is easy to cause the child to be injured, once the child is injured, it is easy to have contradictions in the home.
Therefore, the mother-in-law's crossing of the line and obstinately going her own way can easily affect the small family.
The psychological counselor mentioned that the ranking of relationships in a family is very important, the first place should be the husband and wife relationship, the husband and wife relationship is stable, the whole family can be happier! The relationship between husband and wife is the needle of the family.
In the second place is the parent-child relationship, parents are responsible for the child when they give birth to the child, so the responsibility for the child is greater.
The third is the relationship between mother and son, although in law the child has the responsibility to support the parents, but this maintenance is less important than the responsibility between parents and children.
If you want the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be good, your mother-in-law must be clear and not cross the line.
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