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A high-paying job is what many people dream of, but outsiders only see the superficial brilliance of others taking high salaries, and do not know how much they need to pay for the work.
The 28-year-old woman works as a live-in nanny, with a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan, not including the employer's tip money, and her daily work is relatively relaxed, which is really enviable. But she said that every day was very painful.
Narrator: Ms. Ling / 28 years old
I was born in the countryside, married to my husband in the town, and after marriage we had a son and a daughter. There are old and small, and our pressure is very high. In order to support my family, I could only give my children to my mother-in-law to take, and I and my husband went to the provincial city to work and earn money.
I have sold men's clothing and worked as a waiter, but the salary is too low, and the salary of the early three thousand years is gone, and there is little left of the rent and living expenses. Later, I heard that the salary of being a nanny was high, originally I could not put down my face to go to someone else's home to be a nanny, and I thought that as long as I stayed up for a month, I would have a salary of 10,000 yuan per month, and I still gritted my teeth.
I work as a live-in nanny, so the salary is much higher than that of the average nanny. Also, I was taking care of a pair of 2-year-old twin girls, and the employer's family had money, and the salary was 10,000 yuan.
Employer couples are young, they are in business, usually busy and don't have time to take care of children. Employers and couples were approachable, never cursed or picked at me, and they gave me their children with confidence.
It is reasonable to say that taking care of such a small twin child should be very tiring, fortunately, the two children are very well-behaved, they are not as mobile as some children and cry and make trouble, always able to play quietly with toys, teasing and laughing.
The two of them also have a regular schedule, they can take a two-hour nap at noon, sleep until six o'clock the next morning at 9 o'clock in the evening, and occasionally get up at night. So I just have to feed them on time, coax them to sleep, and work is relatively easy.
But even so, I still feel that every day is very painful. The reason is not the employer or the child, but my own failure to regulate my mindset. Originally leaving the children at home, my husband and I went out to work, I was already very reluctant to have children.
When I was doing other work before, I had 4 days off a month and I could go back and see my kids once or twice a month. Now my employer's home is a villa, public transportation can't reach, and I only have one day off a month, so I can't go home to see my children.
Employers' children are cute, but when I see them, I think of my own children and then I feel very bad. I miss my children so much that I take care of other people's children and can't be with my own children. The guilt of that intense longing torments me every day.
Before my husband and I were renting a house, the children were not around, and there were children with me. Now I live in someone else's house, and although my employer is very kind to me, I am still uncomfortable, alone, and I especially miss my husband and children. I was always hesitant to continue to do it for a high salary, or to quit my job and go home with my children, so every day was very painful.
epilogue
Being a nanny can receive a salary of 10,000 yuan per month, which really makes many people envious, but this 10,000 yuan is not so easy to get. In order to work, Ms. Ling cannot accompany her young children and has no husband as a companion, so she is lonely and feels guilty about her children, and it is this kind of psychology that torments her.
My advice to Ms. Ling is to make a choice based on the actual situation, if the family is really short of money, you can continue to work for a period of time, and then change to a job that is convenient for reuniting with your husband and children when the economic conditions improve.
In addition, you can also discuss with your employer whether you can take a few more days off every month, so that you can go home to visit your children and reunite with your husband to relieve your longing, so that you will not be too hurt by your thoughts.
Adults are not easy, for the sake of family and children, there is a lot to bear. It is precisely because of this that the family's life can become more and more prosperous, and the children can get a better life and education. If you want to open up a little, your days won't be so torturous.