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A few days ago, Uncle Li, a 68-year-old retiree, became famous in the community.
The reason is that his wife danced with other old men, and was seen by the neighbors in the community, and the word spread widely.
When others made irresponsible remarks in person, Uncle Li disagreed, and defended his wife, claiming that it was just an interaction between dance partners.
It didn't take long for his wife to be exposed to the fact that she was in and out with other men.
Uncle Li still did not change his words, but loudly reprimanded the advice of others.
When the matter intensified and his wife did not refute it, Uncle Li finally admitted that his wife had had an affair many years ago, and he had known about it for a long time.
Uncle Li said that he knew what his wife had done, and he was sad, but she took care of herself in life, and understood her temperament and temperament, and knew her preferences and habits.
Besides, there is always a little resentment when you are let down, why should you divide a part of the property to the wrong party, and then fulfill them to fly with wings!
simply, Uncle Li pretended not to know and lived his life in peace.
Many people may think that Uncle Li should be angry, he should have divorced when he found out many years ago and looked for his own happiness.
Uncle Li doesn't think so, because there are many conflicts between halfway couples, there are more troubles, and they still need to keep running-in, so they may not be able to achieve peace and happiness.
On the contrary, apart from the original couple, there will be no more husband and wife, and other aspects of life are still comfortable and comfortable.
Men are realistic and rational animals, they have to weigh the pros and cons first, even in the face of love and marriage, they will not get carried away, but more transparent and calm.
It's not that they only have interests and no feelings in their hearts, but they think about themselves in advance and don't want to become emotional animals who lose themselves and dignity.
Uncle Li also looked at this decades-long marriage, when he was young, he was very playful and indifferent to his wife, causing his wife to go elsewhere to keep warm.
Of course, this does not be a reason for the other party to cheat, but it does lack something.
Many people sighed and felt that Uncle Li was "hurting a thousand enemies and losing 800 himself", and in order to maintain the so-called stability, they wasted each other's lives in vain.
There are also many people who agree with his decision, deeply sympathize with his suffering, and decide that Uncle Li's forbearance over the years is very difficult.
In fact, no matter how strong the reaction is, it can't bring back his wife's heart, nor can it cover up all the pain, except to swallow it raw and gradually forget, Uncle Li really has no other way.
Here it is necessary to say that as an adult, you should have a high moral standard, especially in marriage, you can't play with your lover because of the pursuit of so-called love, this is venting anger, not true love.
Those who are greedy, both men and women, should respect marriage, and if it cannot be maintained, please be reconciled and dispersed; If you can sustain it, don't act recklessly.
Morality and integrity are the labels of walking society, which are far more sincere and effective than those "freedom to pursue true love".
As a man, you can't regard the other party's patience as cowardice, hurting a soft person, which is equivalent to killing your inner conscience at the same time.
Ma Yili once said that marriage is not easy, but do it and cherish it.
There is no resentment, no extermination, only persuasion and tolerance.
But this does not mean that she can be criticized and ridiculed by others, and it does not mean that she has given up the right to happiness.
Including Uncle Li, who has endured for many years, he still has the right to choose to end this ridiculous marriage at any time, but he doesn't, this is also his right, and others have no right to blame.
There is always one choice or another in a person's life, as long as there is no regret, even if there is a little regret, it is not so terrible, but it is to achieve the balance of one's own heart, which is the most important.
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