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Previously, the 43-year-old Gao Yuanyuan rarely disclosed his postpartum marital private life, which aroused the envy of everyone.
In the years after giving birth, because of his daughter, Gao Yuanyuan did not have many opportunities to appear in public.
The year before, when Gao Yuanyuan made a comeback to film, many people wondered how the star couple would keep the family.
After finishing the shooting, Gao Yuanyuan finally confided in his married life:
"My family is mostly inside my master, and then Zhao Youting works a little more outside.
Then when my work comes, the other party is a state of full cooperation, that is, we will have a rhythm of you entering and retreating, and I entering and retreating, that is, dynamic balance is achieved. ”
Gao Yuanyuan's words are indeed not just talking.
When Gao Yuanyuan, who came back after childbirth, gave her a lot of encouragement as a partner, not only accompanied her throughout the process, but also took care of her daughter alone.
Even when the crew Gao Yuanyuan needs help at work, Zhao Youting will accompany him to read the script and then help with the lines.
After watching their married life, I seem to have an epiphany about what kind of marriage can last.
In today's increasingly fragile marital relationship, many marriages are disintegrating not because they once did not love each other enough, but because they did not know how to operate.
Zi Xin said something like this:
"Marriage is not a matter of one person, but of two people, for a lifetime. If you want the other person to meet your needs, you also have to meet the needs of the other person. The best marriage must be one that needs each other and achieves each other. ”
Good marriages are not chasing each other, but giving in to each other and achieving each other.
When you are slow, I will stop and wait for you, and when I am tired, you will reach out and pull me.
Only by paying for each other can feelings flow.
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I saw a help post from a girl on the Internet.
Girls are more sensitive and insecure since childhood, and have always longed for one to take care of their other half.
Two years ago, at a book club, the girl met a sunny and gentle boy, and because of the complementary personalities, the two quickly established a male-female relationship.
During the love period, boys are very good to girls, take care of them carefully, and even boys will unconditionally tolerate girls' small tempers.
On weekdays, even if the boyfriend works overtime until he comes back late, he will always worry about whether she is hungry or not, and often pack food to eat for her.
After being together for a long time, girls have become accustomed to the boyfriend's efforts, and once felt that he would not marry in this life.
But what the girl did not expect was that in a good relationship, the boy suddenly proposed to break up with her.
The boy's reason is simple, which is "I'm too tired." ”
In this regard, the girl is very puzzled, the relationship between the two is very good, and the boyfriend who has never raised any questions is now determined to break up.
As Yang Lan once said:
"The so-called partner is when you are most helpless and weak, when you are most depressed and depressed, he holds up your chin, straightens your spine, commands you to be strong, and accompanies you around to bear the fate together." 」
No one can give unconditionally unilaterally, or rather, such an unbalanced relationship is doomed not to last long.
When a person unconditionally enjoys the efforts of another person for a long time, it is enjoyed for you, but it is tormented for him.
As marriage counselor Xu Chuan put it:
"You ask your partner to be good to you consistently, to always be your provider, to make up for the missing part of your heart, which has always needed energy to fill, and no one can do it." 」
Without each other's support, without each other's understanding, no amount of love will be slowly consumed.
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The literary couple Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu can be said to be a model of a beautiful marriage.
When Yang Daisheng's daughter was hospitalized, every time Qian Zhongshu came to visit the hospital, he would always honestly tell him about the things he couldn't do well, such as breaking the lamp or tearing off the doorknob.
Although during the hospitalization, Yang Dai did not blame her in the slightest after listening, she instead smiled and comforted: "It doesn't matter, I will repair." ”
Because she has always been considerate of Qian Zhongshu, he has lived in a rich family since he was a child, and he has not been good at taking care of housework.
Later, Yang Dai was discharged from the hospital and returned home. Qian Zhongshu, who had never been in the kitchen on weekdays, took the initiative to wash his hands and make soup.
He stewed chicken soup, peeled the turquoise tender silkworm watercress, boiled it in the soup, put it in a bowl, and finally brought it into the house for Yang Dai to eat.
Another time, Yang Dai was cooking, and he was very scared when he saw the shrimp he bought back jumping around. Qian Zhongshu saw the situation, and since then, he has taken the initiative to help Yang Dai peel shrimp.
The two of them spent decades of married life with little complaining and arguing.
No matter how many storms they encounter in life, they always think about each other in their hearts, try their best to think a little more for each other, and do a little more for each other.
I remember watching the variety show "How about two days of escape" before watching Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong said a passage in the show.
Zhang Xinyi said: "If life is going to destroy anyone, I don't want that person to be you." ”
Yuan Hong replied, "But I hope that we will not be destroyed." ”
Unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, but happy marriages have one thing in common: empathy, mutual concessions and understanding.
Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree": "We share the cold tide, the wind and thunder, and the thunderbolt; we share the fog, the flowing lan, and the rainbow." It is as if they are separated forever, but they are dependent on each other for life. ”
The best look of husband and wife, no matter the road is smooth or dangerous, the two always share, share and rely on each other.