"I'm old, kicked out by my own son, but taken home by my stepson, who has been abusive!"

01.

The grace of procreation or the grace of nurturing, which is more important, I believe most people will think that it is the latter.

The person who gave birth gave life, whether it was voluntarily or forced to leave later, as long as it was born and not raised, the love between the two people actually had a clear end.

And the people who raise them, with hard work and hardships, ten years as a day, hard work to pull the big children.

Obviously, the grace of nurturing is indeed greater than the grace of procreation.

However, if this nurturing grace only stays in giving a mouthful of food to eat, the process of raising is not gentle and considerate, and basically only scolding is left. Is this kind of nurturing grace still greater than the sky? Do you still need to pay back?

Generally speaking, between biological parents and children, there should be no such problems, basically step-parents and stepchildren will have a series of follow-up problems.

Xu Bin saw his stepmother again, in the 6th year after he and his stepmother had a complete stalemate, and he was wearing the back of his stepmother, and it was difficult to associate her with the woman who had quarreled with him.

In the past few years, he has more or less heard about some of his stepmother's situations, some of which are uneven, and some of whom are deliberately watching the hilarity.

Therefore, Xu Bin knows that his stepmother's situation is getting worse and worse every year as he grows older, and when he speaks from the heart, when he hears this, his heart is happy, and he feels that a person like his stepmother should have such an old age.

02.

But when he saw his stepmother's current downfall and emaciation, his heart was unbearable.

He followed his stepmother and watched her go to the vegetable market to pick up vegetables that the greengrocer had lost, and the scenes of the past crossed his mind.

The appearance and temperament of the biological mother, Xu Bin said through his father and grandmother.

When he was three years old, his mother died of illness, and he had no impression of his biological mother.

At first, his father was not ready to remarry, and wanted to be both a father and a mother, pulling Xu Bin up.

But then it was really unbearable, a person really could not bring a child, and finally under the persuasion of his parents, Xu Bin's father remarried.

At that time, Xu Bin was 6 years old, he had already begun to remember, he remembered his father and he said that there would be one more aunt in the family in the future, so that Xu Bin would call his mother.

Xu Bin did so, he envied that his friends had mothers, but he did not.

So he believed his father's words, thinking that as long as he was obedient and sensible, as long as he called his mother, he would have maternal love.

Unfortunately, the stepmother is not a good person, and the reason why she married Xu Bin's father, who was widowed and had a son, was completely covetous of Xu Bin's family situation.

After marriage, when Xu Bin's father was at home, his stepmother was very kind to Xu Bin, and he was warm and thoughtful.

But as soon as his father left, Xu Bin became a trash can for his stepmother's emotions.

Xu Bin's father wants to earn money to support his family, and he spends more time outside, so Xu Bin's life is very difficult.

And after the birth of his half-brother, life was even more difficult.

03.

Xu Bin thought about telling the truth to his father, but his stepmother was very attentive, and his clothes were similar to his brother's, and if he said that his stepmother was not good for him, his father would not necessarily believe it.

Even if the neighbors know that other people's family affairs are not willing to mix.

And Xu Bin did not want to embarrass his father, after all, after marriage, his father has always been very happy.

So he kept silently enduring, thinking that when his father was at home, he could still live a good life for a few days.

But such a good day, not a few years later, his father was seriously ill when Xu Bin was 10 years old.

He spent all his family's savings and passed away with nostalgia for his family.

The stepmother was strong, and the house left by his father was saved, and he was not taken away by his uncle and aunt, but Xu Bin was really miserable in this family.

The stepmother pampered her children and scolded Xu Bin, and the only resource in the family was naturally tight to her own flesh and bones.

Xu Bin understood, but was very aggrieved.

In this way, after graduating from junior high school, he went to work.

In order to still find the shadow of his father at home, for his own home. Xu Bin did not break off contact with his family, which also became a chip for his stepmother to ask for money from him.

In this way, the money Xu Bin earned was basically spent on his stepmother and brother.

Even so, when he got married, his stepmother probably felt that she would not get any benefit from this stepson in the future.

So not only is it not like a mother to handle her son's marriage, but all kinds of ridicule, making a lot of ugly, Xu Bin recalled his bits and pieces over the years, and finally chilled his heart, completely broke off relations with this family.

After he married his wife, he first rented a house in the city, then bought a house, had children, and he never returned to his hometown once.

Later, I heard that my stepmother's life was getting more and more difficult, after all, she had no money in her hands, her age had gone up, her health was not good, and she could not create value for the family except for spending money and needing to be taken care of.

So the stepmother was kicked out by her son and daughter-in-law, and the house in the town had spent all her money, but now she didn't even have a place for a bed.

04.

Sometimes listening to others is not the same as seeing it all with your own eyes.

Although Xu Bin heard about his stepmother's situation, he felt revenge in his heart.

But seeing his stepmother's situation with his own eyes, he couldn't bear it.

He remembered that after his father died, although his stepmother was not good for himself, she did not take her brother to abandon herself in the end, but still gave herself a bite to eat.

When I graduated from junior high school, I didn't continue to study, although it was related to my stepmother's reluctance to continue to spend money, but it was more because my own academic performance was not good.

And it's been so long since the incident, and the stepmother is old, the more Xu Bin thinks about it, the more uncomfortable it is.

I went home and discussed with my wife, and I wanted to take my stepmother over to retire.

Although the wife was surprised, she also expressed understanding, cleaned up a room, and went with Xu Bin to pick up her mother-in-law a few days later.

It was learned that Xu Bin did not come to ridicule and ridicule himself, but to take himself to the pension.

Xu Bin's stepmother was sad from it, and she remembered her previous words and deeds, and she was ashamed.

However, Xu Bin asked his stepmother not to think about the past, and the bad things between the family turned over, and they lived a good life in the future.

Everything has a cause and effect, and the reason why Xu Bin's stepmother can now have a relatively stable old age is because she did not do things to the end.

She may not have been so devoted to her stepson out of selfishness, but in the end, she raised her stepson.

And Xu Bin, kind and filial piety, he put down the "hatred" and is more willing to remember some warmth, which is also a good thing.

Life is short, and for those who have the grace of nurturing, can we let go or let go.

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