Education has been a major concern of parents in our country since ancient times, most families, but where there is a little surplus food at home, they will first invest in their children's education, and they all hope that children will study well, and they will have a good future, at least more than themselves.
Reading is high, and this is a truth that has remained unchanged for thousands of years.
However, in the past few years, the environment has suddenly become very different
After your parents and your generation have been desperate to read, work and struggle for their lives over the years, science and technology have developed greatly, and the development of industrial automation in these decades has whizzed. Production is getting faster and faster, and substances are getting richer and richer.
The trend of finding jobs is that there are more jobs than graduates, and many jobs used to be done by college students, and now graduate students can't apply
So what to do?
Of course, it is more hard to study, find a way to test better, as long as your baby's grades are better than others, how society changes are not afraid
So the inner volume began.
After the roll, the study needless to say, must be more spelled, do not do things that have nothing to do with the exam, and do not learn classes that have nothing to do with further education.
Some of the common activities of our generation when they were young, such as climbing trees and going upstairs, bumping and jumping horses, and various collective nonsense running projects, have basically disappeared now, and sports are limited to exam projects, examination projects, and performance projects. Pull-ups, which were not difficult before, are now difficult projects.
When the first action of parents to pick up their children after school is to take the child's school bag, I am afraid that the child will not grow up for a few minutes, most of the children are either bean sprouts or small fat mounds, shoulders can not carry hands can not be lifted.
In terms of physical fitness, children are now much less than their parents
Now young people struggle in order to go to a good university and find a good unit. But the work intensity of the good units that make more money is generally much higher than that of most units twenty or thirty years ago.
Do young people lie flat without fighting or struggling? The boss and colleagues all said so, so they didn't work overtime before, and now they are 996. The higher the salary unit, the more common it is to stay up late and work overtime to brainstorm. Dreaming about the project, feeling sorry for this salary. Anyway, the young people are in good health, and everyone is overdrawing.
The result of the overdraft, if nothing else, simply look at the hair, the 1:58 rate of young people in the struggle is not low.
The body is not as good as before, and the intensity of work is doubled. For example, the newly produced machine is not good in quality and wear is much higher, and I don't know if the operating life of such a machine can still be the same as that of the old machines?
The ultimate goal of the chicken baby is to make the baby live a better life, but the premise of a good life should be health and longevity.
Talk about life after talking about the body
Now people's living standards are much higher than before, their work is busier than before, their hands are much more generous than before, and their attitude towards life is different from before, they don't want to cook and go out to eat, and if they don't want to work, they find an hourly job. Try to be comfortable and make yourself comfortable.
At the same time, the child is more attentive, the era of stocking is gone, everyone must give the best to the baby, must not let the baby be wronged.
Can such a carefully cultivated baby make him/her wronged in the future? Of course not
Especially the baby who has paid a lot of effort will definitely let him/her live a better life
If you are looking for a partner, first of all, the family must at least be the right door, do not look for the phoenix man, do not find the brother demon, the family property I earn can not help other people's families. My baby has such a high education and such a high salary, and I can't go to the other people's baby
Second, the spiritual requirements are higher:
My baby hasn't washed the dishes since she was a child, and I can't let her serve others after she gets married
It hurts too much to have a baby, and I support my girl not to have a baby in the future
If you don't fit, don't get married, and your mother will raise you for a lifetime
Marriage can be considered, but it is impossible to be wronged
……
This is just the idea of parents, and the requirements of young people are even higher:
30 years old no house, no car, no deposit of 1 million to get married
What to do with a girlfriend, is it not good to play games
Why should I coax you?
Everyone has a large number of high-quality leftover men and women around them. They look down on each other, and neither of them is willing to condescend
So now the marriage rate is getting lower and lower, and the divorce rate is still quite high
Why did the previous marriage feel stronger than it is now?
In the history of China for 5,000 years, about 4900 years is the fate of the parents, the two have not met before getting married, whether happy or not, most of them can live a peaceful life
Traditional ideas can have a partial impact on marriage, but rising living standards also have a big impact on modern marriage
Marriage is like starting a company, after the passion fades is the partnership relationship, if the dependence between the partners is very strong, just like the two people who farmed the land in the past, without each other, it is easy to eat without food, wear warm clothes, and can't go on, then the other party will not care about your music appreciation ability, your red wine tasting level. The first need of married life is to work together to run the family, let the family run, and let yourself live.
Pickiness comes after eating enough
Now there are more and more girls with high academic qualifications, the proportion of female students admitted to graduate school has exceeded that of male students, and the choice of finding a target academic qualification requires female high and male low began to decrease.
And now boys and girls can earn a lot, and they can live well financially without relying on others
After the income level increases, girls will pay more attention to the improvement of spirit, style, and life taste than boys. The gap between the minds of men and women will get worse and farther as wages increase.
The better life you live, the more things you encounter in your life, the more choices you have, the more points of disagreement there are, and the harder it is to match the hearts of others
before:
Eat = eat the nest head, two adults, one child, fixed all year round, no choice
Dark = sleeping, no choice
Right now:
Didn't I say let you buy AOP's red wine? How do you buy such a regular meal wine and come back
How do I take out such a big logo on my handbag, it looks like a tasteless upstart
How can you fall asleep at a concert, how humiliating
I specifically took you to see Monet's real handwriting, you are actually playing with your mobile phone
There is no common language all day, and this day really can't be passed
And on the birth of babies, modern people are even less active
Former baby = double chopsticks. Every family has a bunch of children, parents have to earn money and raise babies without the old man to help (a bunch of brothers and sisters, the old man can't help), the biggest responsibility of the parents is to let the baby eat and wear warm
There are more children, less money, parents are busy, and each child does not get so much attention
And now?
The result of the sudden improvement in living standards is that people will suddenly pay attention to themselves and the quality of life, and the previous quality of life has become too bitter to bear.
The living conditions are better, the baby is less, and the attention the baby gets rises like a rocket.
Milk powder to buy imported specific brands, should drink a few paragraphs of drink a few paragraphs, can not drink the wrong milk, drink milk to be precise control, to use a measuring spoon, with a warmer to control the water temperature, with the wrist temperature measurement, with a special cleaner cleaning
Toys to buy big brands, to be disinfected in time
Clothes to buy big brands, big brands can be good quality, trustworthy, beautiful, you must give children a colorful childhood
Expensive parent-child lessons, swimming lessons, and babies can be arranged from 6 months onwards, and cannot be lost on any starting line
Too tired, too expensive, a baby is enough, who talks to me about the second child I am anxious with whom
After going beyond the days of eating and wearing warm, the focus of life is of course put on the children, and the new GDP of the whole family is basically consumed by the baby.
Previously, mom and dad gave birth to 6 babies, and each baby's proportion in consumption would not exceed 10%
Now Mom and Dad bring a baby, and the money spent on the baby also occupies at least half of the country.
One baby can spend 50%, two babies can be how to raise ah, rush this can not be regenerated.
So, the situation now is:
Chicken baby - baby go to a good school - find a good job - personally excellent - easy to picky - find a partner can not be casually made up - marriage rate is decreasing - the willingness to have children is reduced
Chicken baby - the old mother is too tired - unwilling to look at the grandchild again - can accept no grandchildren
Broken, the thinking of the two generations is highly unified, I feel that the harder I work now, the better the baby, the easier it is to get married late, not to marry, and not to have grandchildren in the future
Ancestral genes are broken
The instinct of living things is to reproduce, reproduction is the premise of maintaining the survival of the population, for thousands of years, human evolution has been slow, but now the rapid development of science and technology has made many changes in newly grown human beings
According to Darwin's theory of species selection, the genes that have been preserved belong to the winners in favor of the species
If the baby is cultivated very well, the baby lives a comfortable material life, which is gratifying for the old mother and the baby.
But if the baby is particularly good, there is no suitable partner around and thus failed to marry, or both parties pursue Dink's freedom without having a baby, this unproductive life may be of high quality at a young age, but the result is that the excellent genes will eventually disappear with themselves.
For the human species, whether active or passive, the disappearance of genes is an elimination that is not suitable for biological evolution.
To change the usual scene:
The little king next door worked hard to get into the best university, worked hard after work, and finally lived a glamorous and beautiful well-off life (ordinary excellent babies, most of them can only reach the luxury well-off), but because of excellent and high taste, they have not found a partner with a common heart, or do not want a good life to be dragged down by the baby and thus have no baby.
Xiao Wang took the initiative to free up a place for future primary schools, middle schools and universities.
Your baby is always mediocre, going to ordinary college, looking for ordinary jobs, earning ordinary wages, ordinary he has no impeccable capital, so the normal speed of marriage and grandchildren.
(In large and medium-sized cities, the second generation of the baby, the power of the flood can become a man and a woman, and most of them become B men and B women when they grow up normally)
However, when your grandson wants to go to school, your son suddenly finds that many of the school bullies who desperately rolled up your baby did not have a baby, so your grandson's academic competition became easier.
Therefore, if your baby is not as good as the baby of the old king next door, you can also let him have a simple and ordinary heart, live a down-to-earth life, and have a normal baby.
Your baby has not been able to fight hard in learning, but your grandson may have a bright future
That's lying to win
Win without a fight
(Public number name: the little tadpole in the mud pond)