When you are young, you don't understand love, and you tend to do something impulsive. Some of these things are inconsequential, and some of them will affect a lifetime. Therefore, girls who are not deeply involved in the world must be cautious when facing love and marriage, and do not act impulsively.
Self-narrator: Xiao Yu
Age: 30 years old
Occupation: Freelancer
City: Gongyi
01
When I went to work in a foreign country, I was only 18 years old and secretly went out with my friends. At that time, my parents asked me to continue reading, but I was not born to read, and I had to go to bed as soon as I picked up the book. So I didn't want to study, so I went to war with my parents again and again, and then I dropped out of school.
My first job was as a waiter in a restaurant, where I lived in a dormitory, and ate in the shop, so there was no pressure, and the salary was enough for me to spend. Lin Lin and Chen Yi, who work in the kitchen of the hotel, are a good pair of buddies, they are both the same age, both 5 years older than me.
The three of us often eat together, hang out together, and have a very good relationship. Everyone said that Lin Lin and Chen Yi were pursuing me at the same time, but neither of them confessed to me, nor did I ask them.
After more than a year, on Valentine's Day, the three of us made an appointment to go to the street after the store closed. The three of us don't have any objects, so let's spend Valentine's Day together! With the romantic atmosphere of Valentine's Day, you may be able to meet love.
02
After the store closed that day, Lin Lin and I walked out of the store door first and waited for Chen Yi at the door of the store. Chen Yi said that his stomach was uncomfortable, and he had to go to the bathroom first. When Lin Lin and I were standing at the entrance of the store, a flower seller sold roses to Lin Lin and said that he must send roses to his girlfriend today.
Lin Lin looked at me and bought a rose for me. Then, suddenly, he confessed to me that he had always liked me and wanted to establish a relationship with me. I didn't know what to do for a moment, when Chen Yi walked out, and when he saw the rose in my hand, his face showed an embarrassed expression.
The next day, Lin Lin came to me again and asked me how I was thinking about it. This was the first time I had been confessed, and I was excited and happy in my heart, so I agreed. When the news of our time together was told to Chen Yi, he said blessings on his lips, but his face was particularly ugly.
Since then, Chen Yi has consciously withdrawn, no longer being a threesome of me, Lin Lin, and Chen Yi. Lin Lin and I, like all couples, come to work together every day, leave work together, and hang out together.
03
After we were in love for a year, it still seemed good on the surface, but in fact, there was always a contradiction. At this time, Chen Yi returned to his hometown once, and when he came back again, he said that he had gone home to go on a blind date, and now he had established a relationship with the blind date.
Lin Lin and I awkwardly passed for more than half a year, but we still broke up. At this time, Chen Yi and his partner were already engaged, and when he heard that Lin Lin and I had broken up, he was completely overwhelmed.
Later, Chen Yi told me that on Valentine's Day, in fact, he did not go to the bathroom, but went to get the gifts prepared for me. He wanted to confess to me that day and give me a pair of earrings as a gift, but when he saw me holding the rose, he realized he was one step behind.
Chen Yi asked me, can we start over now? If he could, he would immediately break up with his girlfriend from his hometown. I didn't know how to answer for a while, at this time, Just when Lin Lin came to me drunk, I couldn't ignore him, I could only send him back to the residence.
04
Chen Yi thought that Lin Lin and I were still together, and that we had a temporary conflict and broke up, so he was very sad and went back to his hometown. This time when he came back, he brought his newlywed wife with him, and he said that he had returned to his hometown to get married.
I was very disappointed in my heart, in fact, I really broke up with Lin Lin, he was drunk that day and habitually came to me.
Not long after, Lin Lin also got married under the arrangement of his family, and then returned to his hometown to develop. Chen Yi understood that Lin Lin and I had really broken up, so he got drunk in the shop, and then his wife came to take him back.
The next day, after Chen Yi woke up drunk, he confessed to me again, saying that he did not love his wife at all, and for me, he could divorce her. So the two of us were really together, but before he could file for divorce from his wife, she checked out she was pregnant and learned about our relationship.
In order to save the marriage, his wife came to beg me to leave Chen Yi. She also called her in-laws in her hometown, and her in-laws came to me immediately, putting pressure on her son. Chen Yi's father scolded me for being a little third in the shop, and Chen Yi's mother cried and begged me to spare his son, saying that her daughter-in-law was pregnant.
05
After Chen Yi's parents left, my colleagues in the store accused me, and the boss also talked to me and advised me not to destroy my colleagues' families. For a time, I became a sinner that thousands of people were referring to, and I felt that I had no face to see people. So I quit my job, didn't talk to Chen Yi, and went back to my hometown alone.
When I returned to my hometown, my parents were no longer angry about my dropping out of school, and they entrusted someone to help me find a job in my hometown. After two years, my parents asked the matchmaker to help me introduce the object, and I went on a blind date.
Later, the matchmaker helped me introduce a man named Luo Jia. Luo Jia is three years older than me, is a driver, is very honest and responsible, and is very good to me. After more than a year of dating With Luo Jia, I was ready to get married, but I had an indescribable taste in my heart.
My feelings for Lin Lin, Chen Yi and Luo Jia, the three men, are completely different. At that moment, I accepted it excitedly because someone liked me, and didn't think much about it. So later, when I matured a little, I always quarreled with Lin Lin, in fact, I didn't love him.
And between Me and Luo Jia, it is entirely because of the age, we should get married, and Luo Jia's conditions are good, so we are together. I think the person I really love is Chen Yi, and the person Chen Yi really loves is also me, but the people I love can't be together.
06
A few days before the wedding, I wanted to see Chen Yi for the last time, and I still lacked a farewell! I think when we met, I forgot about him completely and walked into marriage. So, I went to the city where I used to work and found Chen Yi, whose child had already been born.
I told Chen Yi about the time without quitting, and said that I was about to get married, and this was the last time I saw him. The two of us agreed that after seeing this side, we deleted each other and became strangers from then on.
I just wanted to meet him and say goodbye to him, but then I went to the hotel with him unconsciously and spent the night together. After dawn, Chen Yi and I deleted each other's contact information and then went our separate ways.
After I returned to my hometown, I honestly married Luo Jia. In the second month after marriage, I found out that I was pregnant, and at that time I was hesitant in my heart. But after seeing Luo Jia's ecstatic look, I held on to the psychology of luck and didn't think about it anymore.
After I was pregnant in October, I gave birth to a son and the family was overjoyed! Roja is a good husband and a good father, and she is very good to me and my children. I feel very happy, and then Luo Jia and I will raise the child well, I think the years are quiet.
07
In the blink of an eye, Luo Jia and I have been married for 5 years, and on the third day of the 5th wedding anniversary, the child suddenly had a fever. After we sent the child to the hospital, in order to find out the cause, we checked the blood, and it turned out that the child's blood type was neither with me nor with Luo Jia.
The test list was taken by Luo Jia, and at that time I only cared about taking care of the child, and I didn't read the examination report at all, so I didn't know about the blood type. But Roja got carried away, and after a few days, he put a DNA test report in front of me and asked me what was wrong?
I was shocked, it turned out that because of the blood type, Luo Jia secretly took the child to go to the paternity test. In fact, when I decided to keep this child, I hesitated, and I didn't expect my fears to become real.
In the end, I divorced Luo Jia, because I was the wrong party, I felt sorry for Luo Jia, so I took the child out of the house. A woman with a child alone and without any possessions is a life imaginable.
I took my children to the city where I used to work, and I wanted to find Chen Yi, but Chen Yi's family had already moved away. A former colleague said that Chen Yi's family moved to the south in the year of my marriage, and I don't know where I went.
Now, I live alone with my children, and life is not easy. I didn't know where to look for Chen Yi, and I didn't know whether to go to him or not, and I was very entangled in my heart.
Emotional Realization:
Love is incomparably beautiful, you can spend the moon before, you can swear to the mountains, you can qingqing me. But the consequences of love are realistic, and since you have talked about love, you must bear the consequences.
Therefore, a person cannot indulge his feelings, and must be responsible for his feelings. Love that should not happen, do not happen; when true love is encountered, if this true love is in accordance with law and morality, then it must be firmly grasped, not wavering.
Marriage must be responsible, since you are married, you are not qualified to talk about love with other people of the opposite sex. Marriage must be cautious, marry because of love, do not marry because of impulse, otherwise the marriage will not be happy.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.