From physical to psychological, adolescent boys and girls have some different characteristics in addition to having commonalities. Next, from the perspective of boys and girls, parents are reminded of some issues that require special attention.
Today share how to teach adolescent boys to respect women.
Respect for others is definitely not just a matter of courtesy and upbringing, it also has an intimate relationship with people's self-identification. Educating an adolescent boy to respect women has some points, both physically and psychologically.
The first is basic courtesy, a person behaves very elegantly, the core basic element is to know how to respect any different person from the heart, so that he will have a more distinctive height. When facing the opposite sex, there are also some basic etiquette to pay attention to.
First, parents should tell their children to eat bite by bite, do not speak when there is something in the mouth, do not bite and clatter, and pay attention not to burp in public after eating. Adolescent boys are usually very interested in interacting with girls, that is to extend to social etiquette, boys should know how to pour drinks for female companions, to let girls order first, at the end of the party, if you can't personally send girls home, then at least send her to the car, so that girls can have a sense of respect.
Second, improving their appearance and paying attention to appearance is not difficult for boys now, because boys can actually do some appropriate basic maintenance of this body and appearance by puberty. Of course, be moderate, don't overdo it, the principle is not deliberate, but at least keep it clean and tidy. For example, if some boys have a heavy body odor, the appropriate use of deodorant will also make people feel that they are cleaner.
Similarly, hair and mouth cleaning, parents should tell boys to pay attention to it. In addition, you can also match the appropriate clothing to make the personal image look better, which is also a manifestation of respect for others.
Third, teach boys to look at beautiful things with their hearts, such as participating in some exhibitions or going to museums to receive the influence of beauty and form their own aesthetics, so that they will not be kidnapped by secular trends according to standards.
Why do you want to emphasize these three points with you?
Because these things can give the boy enough confidence, so that he does not have to feel that he must rely on material things or rights to let others see him. Through a process from the inside out, this will make everyone feel that the boy is a person who knows how to respect others, especially women, and he also knows how to respect himself, so that the self-identification of adolescent children will be a very benign feedback.
On the other hand, after boys enter puberty, they will generally be interested in the opposite sex, so when making friends with the opposite sex, the appropriate scale is also very important. Parents should let boys understand that they are interacting with girls, and even that they may go further, such as when they are in love or what they are doing, they must know how to respect women's wishes.
Adolescent boys generally don't have much of a concept in this regard, and as parents, it's important to teach your child a correct idea.
Specifically, it also starts with the basic education of the family.
First of all, in the family, such as the attitude of the father to the mother, the child can learn the correct way to treat women, and even include the attitude towards others, such as knowing how to ask others when you want to take something. Instead of saying that you can use it if you want, you want it, and everything is the kind of mentality that I like and what I can't do.
If parents can teach by example and let their children learn to do it through family education, the effect will be very good.
Secondly, in daily life, parents can regularly discuss topics to strengthen their children's cognition of respecting others and respecting the opposite sex. You can use news, stories to discuss, it comes down to respect or empathy, and it is really very important in the process of interacting with people.
As a boy, you must know how to properly interact with girls, show courtesy and temperament when you are active together, and then ask the other party's wishes, rather than forcing others to cooperate with you.
Although today's theme is to talk about parents teaching adolescent boys to respect women, because from this stage onwards, boys will begin to have some contact with girls.
Of course, in fact, respect for this matter is gender-neutral, both men and women. We often think that boys should respect girls, so should girls respect boys in turn? In fact, as far as respect is concerned, it must be related to the family education received from childhood.
When we say that respect is actually essentially saying that you don't know how to love people, whether you have the ability to love, because sex is instinctive, but love is an ability, adolescent children must know how to learn the ability to love, and this ability is actually heard in the family from a young age.
In the family environment, parents often have a problem that may not be easy to realize, that is, parents must not prefer sons to daughters, because when you prefer sons to daughters, in fact, you are already doing the worst sex education, emotional education demonstration.
Son preference means you're telling your child that there are double standards for boys and girls. For example, there are two children in the family, if the brother accidentally touches the younger sister, and the younger sister is already uncomfortable, then the preference for sons and daughters, the parents will feel that the brother is not careful, it does not matter.
When the child enters puberty, if the boy and the girl accidentally have intimate behavior, after returning home, they are afraid to tell the family that I am associating with a girl, hugging her or kissing her, and even developing to cause the other party to accidentally become pregnant. In the face of such a serious situation, many mothers actually tell their children that it doesn't matter, boys will not suffer losses anyway.
If this is the case, he will not learn what love is and how to love, and this double standard of adults is terrible. Remind parents and parents, do not think that in the relationship between the sexes only girls suffer losses, boys will not suffer losses.
This patriarchal line of thinking extends, which will make boys feel that they are not wrong, only girls should pay attention to various problems.
Like summer comes, sometimes girls dress cooler, if the boy does not learn to respect, under the hormonal impulse to deliberately touch the girl's body, he will not only not feel that his behavior is inappropriate, and even put the responsibility on the girl, who told you to dress so cool, once you have this thought and thought, it will be very bad, may have unexpected consequences for parents.
After boys enter puberty, because of the relationship between hormone levels, it is easy to be impulsive physically and psychologically, coupled with lack of experience, so it is easy to misbehave.
The emotional education of parents, on the one hand, is to let children learn to love and understand love, on the other hand, to understand respect. The essence of respect is to realize the sense of boundaries between people, other people's bodies, diets and wishes can not be violated at will, can not be because you feel that you like each other, you can not impose your own will on others.
Parents must not feel that compared with their children's studies, respect is only a small thing, in fact, learning to respect themselves and know how to respect others is an important lesson in everyone's life, because this is the foundation of our self-identification.
Ask parents to understand that it is important to teach their children to respect the construction of their children's values, which is why parents should pay special attention to their words and deeds.
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