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When I was young, I always thought that love could rival the years, but when I entered the world of two people, the matter of love was implemented to chai rice oil and salt, and I knew the complexity and reality of marriage.
Especially when people reach middle age, there is no original passion and romance between husband and wife.
Many people feel that their marriage and feelings are like a cheongsam full of lice, full of discomfort under the gorgeous appearance.
Indeed, when the years have ruthlessly removed the filters on each other, various problems such as emotional blandness, boredom, and boredom have followed.
As a result, in such a state, many people begin to be numb and dissatisfied with the life and feelings of the status quo.
If there is a person of the opposite sex who is good to you at this time, who is very concerned about your life, who pays attention to your state from time to time, and will find various reasons to care about you, it is actually not a good thing.
The appearance of the other party seems to bring you freshness and happiness, such as not grasping the scale, not keeping a distance, not restraining yourself, and not getting it right will bring irreparable harm and disaster to yourself and your family.
Therefore, after people reach middle age, there is still the opposite sex to be good to you, and you must understand that "it" is not a cause but a robbery.
Don't feel that this is the "luck" given to you by God, it may be more of a disaster that will make you fall into the abyss, thus burying the happiness of the second half of your life.
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It is undeniable that today's society, whether it is a great pressure on men or women, everyone seems to be decent, but in fact, the bitterness behind it is unknown.
Especially in the face of hardships in life, there is no way to talk, emotional pain, can not get comfort, in such a situation, it is easy to be suddenly appeared, and captured by the opposite sex of their own hearts.
Just like Liu Yang in the hit drama "Dear Myself" some time ago.
Liu Yang originally had a successful career, and he had just received the affirmation of the leader at work and was ready for promotion, but his family had some accidents one after another.
First the mother was sick and hospitalized, then there was a conflict between the feelings between the husband and wife, and then there was the issue of the daughter's education.
Under the pressure of huge family and life, Liu Yang was attracted by Wei Yayun, a new intern from the unit.
He even betrayed his wife unconsciously and came together with Wei Yayun.
Because compared to the daily frown and bitter face, opening and closing the mouth to eat and drink Lasa, and never dress up their wives, the opposite sex that appears in this halfway is more attractive.
She knows that Liu Yang works hard, so she often takes the initiative to care for him.
Send him WeChat, make him laugh, and accompany him to relieve his boredom. Or take him out to eat delicious food and let Liu Yang relive the youth of the past.
Liu Yang felt that Wei Yayun had been sent by heaven to save himself. But in fact, this so-called true love is not the arrangement of fate, but the test of disaster.
Later, when Liu Yang encountered problems in the project, Wei Yayun was the first to stand up and report him, and packed up his things and left him overnight.
In the end, Liu Yang not only lost his wife's love for him, but was also beaten by the so-called true love backhand.
As the saying goes:
"Thirty and standing, forty not confused."
Whether men or women, in middle age, they should have the most basic judgment and ability to distinguish between right and wrong in life.
Know what to do and what not to touch.
When you think that the opposite sex that appears in the middle is your true love, the olive branch thrown to you by love, and do not refuse and let it develop, your original married life is likely to be ruined here.
Marriage cannot tolerate betrayal, and feelings must not be deceived.
As a middle-aged person, in order not to ruin your marriage and life, you must keep your heart and do not easily be seduced by the opposite sex who shows affection to you.
Strangle everything in the cradle of people and things that could endanger your marriage. In this way, your married life can be stable and evergreen.
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Think of people in middle age, have already established a family, there are old and young, and all aspects are also on the right track.
If the marriage is no longer turbulent, then all the previous efforts and hardships will be in vain.
So, when the opposite sex treats you:
Take the initiative to approach you on the grounds of care;
Contact you frequently for various reasons;
On the grounds of admiration, say good things to please you;
Meddle in your love life for the sake of help.
At this time, if you don't know how to keep a distance, don't know how to refuse, don't know how to restrain, don't nip it in the bud,
Then it will eventually develop beyond your imagination, and at that time, it will be too late to regret it, because you have fallen into it step by step.
As we often say, "When the judgment is constantly reversed, it is chaotic." ”
When people reach the age of not being confused, they should think twice, ask themselves more why, think more about the consequences of what they do, and do what they can't think of.
To know that in this period, the most important thing to do is to protect the family and marriage well, and create a happy and happy growth environment for children.
Although the marriage of middle-aged people, with the passage of time, will be flat and boring.
But this is not an excuse to accept that the opposite sex is good to you and thus indulge yourself, nor is it an excuse to betray the marriage.
I remember the famous writer Chen Xue said in the book "Love Lesson":
"Love is not consensual, after the combination of romance, everything will come naturally."
More precisely, love does not really begin until the test appears after the romance has faded. ”
Deeply.
Marriage has never been a union in which one plus one is greater than two, but 0.5 plus 0.5 is equal to one.
This means that both parties must get rid of half of their personalities and temperaments, and run into each other in order to finally form a happy family.
As this saying goes:
"Marriage, not a perfect duo.
It is a practice in which two imperfect people support each other and slowly get better. ”
When people reach middle age, they must understand that fish and bear paws cannot have this truth at the same time.
When you choose another choice because the marriage in front of you is not perfect, you may also repeat the same mistakes and be dissatisfied again because of the various shortcomings of the new marriage.
There is never a perfect marriage in the world, and a good marriage requires time and energy to maintain and manage.
When you have chosen the other half, be loyal to each other and finally years. And should not be three twilight four, the heart of the ape horse.
If you are allowed to be accompanied by one person, you may be loyal for the rest of your life. This is the correct attitude that middle-aged people should have towards marriage.
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When people reach middle age, they will face many unexpected tests.
Emotional tests are the most deadly, and once they make a mistake, they regret it for life.
When people reach middle age, they are also most afraid of losing their minds, losing their direction, and thinking that they are doing the right thing, but they are actually a mess.
Therefore, as a middle-aged person, it is not easy to understand that married life, the essence of marriage is not to feel that the person in front of you is not good, or to give up when you are tired, but to learn to tolerate, learn to operate, and learn to cherish.
After all, love is long-lasting.
Finally, I hope that every middle-aged person can stick to his original intention, cherish his partner, be loyal to marriage, be responsible for himself, and have the rest of his life of contentment.