Someone said this: A good marriage can cross us to the other shore; a bad marriage drags us into a sea of suffering.
The quality of marriage determines the happiness index of our lives. However, the quality of marriage depends on the husband and wife.
Husband and wife, mutual understanding, mutual understanding, marriage will develop in a benign direction. If both husband and wife are wary of each other all day, calculate each other, and worry about everything, then sooner or later the marriage will go to the end.
01, the 300,000 that was saved together before marriage disappeared
Xiao Jing dreams of owning a house of her own, so when her boyfriend Song Tao proposed to her, Xiao Jing said very clearly that the two sides jointly paid for the house, wrote the names of two people, and did not live with the parents of both parties after marriage.
Song Tao agreed at that time, immersed in xiao Jing in the atmosphere of being proposed, but did not see the hesitation and embarrassment of her boyfriend. It wasn't until the two sides began to talk about marriage and Xiao Jing took her boyfriend around to see the real estate, Xiao Jing knew that all this was just buying a marriage house for herself.
Xiao Jing took Song Tao with great interest and finished shopping in the whole city. In the end, Xiao Jing took a fancy to a house, and just when the two people were discussing which house to choose at home, Song Tao told Xiao Jing that the 300,000 that the two people had saved together was gone.
Since working in the same city with Song Tao, Xiao Jing has begun to live with her boyfriend. After so many years of living together, Xiao Jing was tired of renting a house. She can't buy what she likes, and she can't move her favorite furniture to her home, so she desperately wants to have a house that really belongs to her.
But seeing that the dream of buying a house is about to be realized, Song Tao told her that the two of them have saved up the 300,000 yuan to buy a house together over the years, and they have disappeared, which makes Xiao Jing how can she accept it?
02, 300,000 was lent to his brother by the boyfriend, but asked the woman to accompany the marriage room
Under Xiao Jing's repeated questioning, Song Tao told the truth. His brother, who is three years older than him, has recently been preparing to talk about marriage. It's just that there is no house, and the woman who is pregnant before marriage has been holding Joe and is unwilling to get married.
Song Tao's family is generally poor, and his parents have to support their two sons to go to college, and they are really unable to come up with hundreds of thousands of down payments. Therefore, under the woman's pampering and arrogance, Song Tao's parents had to beg their younger son for help, whether it was to give money or borrow money, to let his brother get married smoothly.
Song Tao was soft-hearted, and he was reluctant to let his parents whisper to his relatives to borrow money, and without consulting with Xiao Jing, he privately lent the 300,000 yuan saved by the two people to his brother to buy a house, and he did not let the other party IOU.
Thinking of these 300,000, it was like a meat bun beating a dog, and after there was no return, Xiao Jing was completely sad. She asked Song Tao, you lent 300,000 yuan to your brother, so what do we take to buy a house and what do we take to get married?
Song Tao said disapprovingly, we lent my brother 300,000 yuan to buy a house, but you are an only child, and your parents can buy you a house as a dowry. In this way, wouldn't it kill two birds with one stone, and no one's marriage would be delayed?
Xiao Jing did not expect that her boyfriend not only did not repent, but also had the courage to ask her parents to accompany the marriage room, and eat her soft rice with courage.
Xiao Jing has been making trouble at home for a long time, and her boyfriend has always refused to go to his brother to get 300,000 back, saying that he took away 300,000, which is undoubtedly to ruin his brother's marriage. Moreover, most of these 300,000 miles are the money he earned, and Xiao Jing only earned a small part.
03, parents stop loss: break up immediately
Although the boyfriend said the truth, he ignored one point, that is, 300,000 miles, most of which is the money earned by the boyfriend, but the monthly rent, water and electricity and family expenses are basically Xiao Jing paying.
When I first lived together, my boyfriend thoughtfully said that his salary was saved up to buy a house, and Xiao Jing's salary was used for family expenses. The simple Xiao Jing did not think too much at all and agreed. After all, two people are rushing to get married, who has so much to calculate?
But Xiao Jing did not expect that her original understanding had become the reason for her boyfriend to embezzle credit. Xiao Jing was particularly upset, and she told her parents all about it.
When the parents learned that the 300,000 yuan saved together was privately lent by the boyfriend to his brother to buy a house, the parents resolutely asked Xiao Jing: break up immediately, the sooner the better, so that the unclear and calculating man is not a lifelong good match.
Although Xiao Jing was very reluctant to have this relationship for several years, but the boyfriend's unclear, but also let her discouraged, she proposed to break up, asking the boyfriend to return half of the room payment.
The boyfriend does not agree, and has been urging her to agree to the marriage room, saying that the two people are not husband and wife, but they are better than husband and wife, where do you need to worry about it, for a little thing to break up? What's more, Xiao Jing has lived with him for so many years, once she breaks up with him, where can she find a better and more suitable man than him?
But Xiao Jing does not think that this is a trivial matter, her boyfriend's family is poor, she does not abandon it, her boyfriend is temporarily depressed, and she does not care. But her boyfriend's deception made her completely desperate. The boyfriend began to deceive himself before marriage, and after marriage, wasn't he even more lying and hiding everything from her?
In fact, a woman, not afraid of suffering or tiredness, is afraid of men cheating on her. In the woman's eyes, the man's deception is undoubtedly like a slap in the face, making her realize for the first time how bad her eyes are.
So, marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. No matter how much women hate marriage, don't marry an inappropriate man casually. Because until the last moment, you don't know whether the other party is a good match or a scumbag.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Xiao Jing's breakup is a timely stop loss?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!