Depression is not simply a "bad mood", but a disease.
The detection rate of depression among mainland adolescents is increasing with the increase of grades, and some children have been in a low mood for a long time. (People's Daily)
According to relevant statistics, the detection rate of depression among adolescents in mainland China has reached 24.6%, and about 30 million adolescents under the age of 17 are troubled by various emotional disorders and behavioral problems: the number of suicides due to depression is as high as more than 200,000, and the trend is increasing year by year.
In Guangzhou Li Jianxue psychological counseling contact with many depressed patients, in recent years found that adolescents suffer from depression more and more, the age also tends to be younger.
In the past, college students and high school students were more depressed, and now many junior high school students and elementary school students are also depressed.
There is even a phenomenon that many adolescents suffering from depression are excellent children, and there is no shortage of key middle schools and prestigious universities.
Many parents are very confused, thinking that their children's living conditions are superior, there is no shortage of anything, and they do not know why their children are depressed.
Why is depression becoming more common in adolescents? What influences it? The following summarizes the common causes found in counseling.
One
Sense of meaninglessness
I don't know when a sense of meaninglessness and worthlessness began to breed and spread among teenagers.
For adolescent adolescents, this stage is the stage when their outlook on life and values begin to be explored, and the period when self-identity is established. They start thinking, who am I? Where am I from? What is the meaning of my life?
The answer to this three questions constitutes the consciousness of the self and forms the role of the self to acquire a sense of meaning in life.
Many teenagers in psychological counseling said, "I am always in a problem-solving environment, I don't know what I like, let alone why I want to study." ”
Today's families generally have better living conditions, and many teenagers cannot find the motivation to struggle, and feel confused about their future, which further aggravates the sense of meaninglessness of teenagers.
Adolescents at this stage are prone to a sense of meaninglessness because of confusion and need to be given the right guidance and help.
Two
Lack of connection to the real world
In today's society, many children are wrapped in an information cocoon, and do not really establish a life connection with the world, with others, with themselves, and this loss of meaning is actually a loss of connection.
On the one hand, due to the increasing number of only children, many children live in big cities, there is almost zero interaction with neighbors, no siblings to communicate, and lack of opportunities to contact with nature, play with friends, and contact with different people.
On the other hand, teenagers long for friends but are lonely, and can only watch TV, play mobile phones, and contact online messages.
Receiving too many stimulating and novel messages, but making people more and more scattered, unable to stay quietly with themselves, aggravating depression.
Three
The family is overprotective/controlling of the child
Deprives children of their right to be themselves
In life, many parents help/control their children in a big way, do not let their children do any housework, and make decisions for their children, which not only lacks real and effective spiritual nourishment, but also deprives children of their right to develop freely.
This leads to over-dependence in the child, and even if it encounters some minor blows, depression will appear due to frustration and helplessness.
And many children who have been treated like this since childhood will be afraid of making mistakes, unable to stick to their choices, and sometimes feel that they are very bad, and they always have a huge hole in their hearts, empty and confused hearts, and lack of goals.
Four
Unable to accept the ordinary but true self
Don't tolerate your own lack of excellence
The lack of unconditional acceptance by parents when childhood, the high requirements all the time, the relatively single measure of school, or the emotional neglect of parents at an early age may lead to adolescents' inability to accept their ordinary selves.
Many children can't accept that they are not good enough. When their expectations exceed their actual ability and they cannot lower their expectations, this excessive demand for themselves will cause them to fall into pain and frustration again and again.
The more they cannot accept the ordinary, the more they confront themselves, and this confrontation brings attacks and injuries to themselves. Many people with depression are a disorder of reality and self-expectations.
In addition, the Internet has exposed teenagers to more information, even to the culture of society in advance, which has led more and more teenagers to understand that the efforts of ordinary people are very little for the success of society's definition.
In addition, no matter how they do it, they fail to meet their expectations, so they fall into "learned helplessness" and choose to "rot", they will not have passion for anything, nor will they think that there is anything worth exciting in life, this is a meaningless life, which is the result of inevitable depression.
Five
Academic pressure is too heavy
Can't get a good rest
Now teenagers' academic pressure is getting heavier and heavier, the time and intensity of studying at school and reviewing at home is not less than 996 for adults, they leave early and return late, sleep is seriously deprived, except for class, homework, there is almost no time for outdoor activities.
Some children pursue perfection, like to blame themselves, will make strict study plans and harsh living habits for themselves, and aggravate insomnia at night due to too much anxiety, a vicious circle.
Lack of adequate rest and recreation leads to teens not having enough space to release stress. Long-term stress and insomnia can also make people increasingly depressed.
Guangzhou heard about the conclusion of psychological counseling:
If your child suffers from depression, first accept the fact that your child suffers from depression, and find a professional counselor for psychological counseling in time.
While doing the child's counseling, parents may also need to intervene in family therapy together to understand the causes of the child's depression, learn how to properly guide the child, strengthen communication, and accompany the child out of depression.