What to do when something goes wrong in your marriage?
What to do to save your marriage?
Unhappy marriages have their own unhappiness, and happy marriages are different. All marriages will have problems, and the difference between luck and misfortune is more in how to face marital problems and how to solve them skillfully.
Statistics show that the divorce rate in first-tier cities in the mainland is as high as nearly 38%, and the high divorce rate reflects the impulsiveness, sloppiness, evasion, and departure of many people in the face of marriage problems.
Divorce is indeed a solution to the problem, but it is neither the best, nor the first choice, nor the only way.
So, when something goes wrong in marriage, what other way is there besides divorce?
When the relationship is in crisis, the following three situations may be appropriate to seek marriage counseling.
Situation one
One party cheats, but the parties do not intend to divorce
If a partner cheats, the blow to the other half is undoubtedly huge.
But recovering from an extramarital affair is not impossible, and it takes a lot of effort.
Forgiveness and moving forward requires commitment and will. There is no magic counseling that will allow you to recover from an extramarital affair in no time.
But if both parties are involved in the counseling process and remain honest, the marriage may be saved. At the very least, what is certain is that looking forward is more beneficial for both sides.
Situation two
Endless quarrels, negative communication states
There is a difficult scripture in the family, and it is common for couples to quarrel, many couples, who have just quarreled, will reconcile as ever after a while, and no longer care. Or a person, take the initiative to bow his head and admit his mistakes, take the initiative to curry favor, and resolve contradictions.
Some couples, after quarrelling, do not give in to each other, do not speak for a week, ignore for a month, and still take revenge for two months. How can such an environment be conducive to the relationship between husband and wife?
Negative communication includes not only all communication that hurts feelings, but also mental or physical abuse, as well as non-verbal communication.
It's not uncommon to hear couples say, "We know what's wrong, but we just don't know how to fix it." ——This is the best time for psychological counseling to intervene.
Situation three
For the sake of children together, strangers under the same roof
Some couples feel that it is wise to be reluctant to be together for the sake of their children, but in fact, for children, long-term living in a loveless family environment is harmful to their mental development.
If the couple is able to solve the problem and move towards a positive and healthy relationship, this may be the best outcome for all.
Of course, not all marriages are salvageable. During the marriage counseling process, some couples may find that they are healthier apart.
However, for those relationships that can be saved, and for couples who are willing to commit to the process, marriage counseling may be able to remind them why they loved each other in the first place and keep them that way.
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How does counseling help clients?
Anytime your quality of life is not what you want it to be, counseling can help you! Through dialogue, the psychological counselor and you continue to explore and sort out your problems, find out the causes of psychological problems through joint discussion, analyze the crux of the problem, and then seek ways and countermeasures to get out of the predicament, so as to restore psychological balance, improve the ability to adapt to the environment, and improve physical and mental health.