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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Lin Yutang said: "There is no marriage in the way of love that does not fail. We must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack. ”
Marriage and love are different, it will change with time, and the way of getting along changes, so that the feelings will eventually be flat.
If the husband and wife can't stand the blandness and still hold too high expectations, there will be many contradictions. Many times, it is not the marriage that has changed, but the people in the marriage who have changed, who will not be flexible, who will not compromise.
In essence, marriage is a process of continuous compromise, a marriage that is completely uncompromising, almost nothing, no matter what kind of couple, more or less will have a certain degree of compromise.
Therefore, men and women after marriage, if they blindly pursue the so-called love, can not resist the temptation in the feelings, it is easy to walk into extramarital love.
However, the feelings outside the marriage, which look tempting, are actually the bitter fruit wrapped in a sweet coat, and once tried, the final outcome must be tragic.
Perhaps, at the beginning of the extramarital affair, there will be some excitement, but once the novelty disappears, it will be followed by the disintegration of the feelings of both parties, and the destruction of the two families after the relationship is exposed, at a tragic cost.
What is the end of an extramarital affair? There may be only three of the following:
First, the relationship is exposed, the divorce ends, and the two families are destroyed
Extramarital love, essentially, is an unblessed feeling, which violates the moral bottom line and will not have good results.
No matter how much love between the two parties is at the beginning, once the relationship is revealed, both people will bear a huge price.
Not only does it affect their respective marriages, but they also destroy the integrity of their respective families, causing divorce and ruining the end of the two families.
Such consequences, men and women can not afford, nor can they recover, after all, they will live a desolate life and cannot lift their heads for a lifetime.
At any time, there is no room for a grain of sand in the relationship, as long as the bottom line of the marriage is touched, the price must be tragic.
Therefore, men and women after marriage, do not think how sweet and romantic the extramarital affair is, in order to enjoy a temporary stimulation, and destroy two families, such an ending, too unworthy.
Ms. Lin and her husband have been married for more than ten years, have two children, and although their lives are not rich and noble, they are also plain and happy.
However, by chance, Ms. Lin met her first love, talked with each other very happily, and instantly aroused the dusty love past.
The sudden germination of emotions made Ms. Lin sleepless day and night, and she couldn't help but send a message to her first love, and the two people gradually connected.
Soon, Ms. Lin had a substantial relationship with her first love, and both sides had plans to be together.
I thought that this relationship would go to happiness, but I didn't know that I was falling into the abyss, and when the relationship between two people was exposed, they were greeted not by blessings, but by the breakdown of their respective marriages and the collapse of their families.
When Ms. Lin's husband learned of their relationship, he angrily filed for divorce and quickly let her get out of the house. Ms. Lin naively thought that her first love would be responsible for her, but the other party's marriage was also on the verge of breaking down, and there was no time to take care of her.
In the end, the originally happy two families were destroyed, each ending in divorce, and both sides blamed each other and lost both.
Therefore, extramarital affairs, there is really no good outcome, when not exposed, there may be a hint of freshness and excitement, once the relationship is made public, both parties will bear the painful price.
Second, the two sides reorganize the family, but find that they have fallen into another abyss
In reality, some men and women have extramarital love, but also broke through many obstacles, and finally cultivated the right results, and the name is justified together.
However, when two people really become a couple who get along day and night, from the original passion to the plain, only to find that the marriage is not happy, but fell into another abyss.
In fact, feelings outside the marriage are often the reality report, you think that the original marriage is not happy, try to escape, to find the so-called love, mistakenly think that you have true love, can be understood by the other party.
However, after really being with each other, I experienced the chicken feathers of life again, but found that I did not find true love, but fell into another abyss.
Without looks and hardships, you will not find that extramarital affairs are essentially another version of reality.
Two people in the romance of extramarital affairs, no need to be responsible, do not have to worry about life, anyone can give you beautiful love.
However, when you are really together for a long time and need to face the chai rice oil and salt of life together, there is no longer any romance, only the triviality of a place of chicken feathers.
Neighbor Mr. Zhang, who used to think that his ex-wife was particularly strong and had no status in the family, his ex-wife did not understand him, nor did he respect him, felt very painful in marriage, and wanted to escape at all times.
Therefore, he often complains to female colleagues who work together, who especially understand him, often give him comfort, and are very concerned and considerate to him.
In this way, Mr. Zhang felt that the female colleague was more gentle and considerate than his ex-wife, and couldn't help but fall in love with her, hoping to be with her forever.
To this end, he filed for divorce, resolutely left his ex-wife, and re-established a family with female colleagues.
However, after remarrying, Mr. Zhang did not feel happy, but more status than before, not only the salary card was handed in, but also the big things and small things in the family had to be taken care of by him, and the wife did not want to pay anything.
The two people often have conflicts, either quarrels or hands, Mr. Zhang found that the original reorganized marriage is just another abyss.
Therefore, extramarital love, even if the family is re-established, is just a short firework, only a moment of beauty, will eventually disappear, seemingly perfect ending, in fact, is another painful beginning, too unworthy.
Third, the two sides are good to get together and disperse, but they have been condemned by conscience all their lives
In reality, there is also a kind of extramarital love, and the final outcome may be that the two sides get together and disperse, each does not entangle and disturb, and quietly withdraws.
However, even if two people repent and terminate this abnormal relationship in time, they will be condemned by their conscience for a lifetime.
The two parties returned to the family, on the surface, there is no trouble, in fact, the harm brought by the extramarital affair to the other half is difficult to heal for a lifetime.
Perhaps, the other half did not calculate and chose to forgive, but the trauma left on the soul cannot be truly released.
At this time, people who have had extramarital affairs will be uneasy in their conscience, feel ashamed of their other half, ashamed of their families, and live a lifetime of uneasiness.
Once the peace of marriage is broken, even if efforts are made to repair it, it will leave a crack and become a wound that is difficult to heal in this life.
As the old saying goes, "A nail that goes in, even if it is taken out, leaves a hole." ”
The same is true of extramarital love, if it is hurt, it cannot be truly healed, and it will leave scars for a lifetime.
Therefore, men and women who have experienced extramarital love, even if they finally repent, let go of each other, and return to the family, will also bring more suspicions and contradictions to their future lives.
Trust, once missing, will not really be found back. Perhaps, you really understand, but how the other half can really believe in you, may only be time to prove.
You think that life has returned to peace, but what is hidden under the calm must be a tighter string, broken at the slightest touch.
At this time, you will be more uneasy, more regretful, and your conscience will be condemned for the rest of your life, and you will never live as you used to.
Once happiness is gone, it really can't come back, which requires men and women to abide by the bottom line in marriage, only self-respect and self-love, responsible for marriage, will not be confused.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Xin Yiwu said: "It is mine, it is mine, gone, can only show that he never belonged to me, maybe love is rigid, marriage is soft, we all have to learn to compromise." ”
For men and women, whether it is the previous love and can not be, or the later long-term love, as long as you enter the marriage, you can not touch, only do not get involved in extramarital love, in order to get real happiness.
Those seemingly beautiful loves are actually just stingers wrapped in a sweet coat, and once they are pierced, the consequences are unimaginable, and the ending must be sad.
To sum up, the cruel ending of an extramarital affair is nothing more than these three, and I can't afford not to touch it.
The relationship is exposed, the divorce ends, and the two families are destroyed; the two sides reorganize the family, but find that they have fallen into another abyss; the two sides are good to get together and disperse, but they are condemned by conscience for a lifetime.
In the final analysis, there is no true love at all in extramarital love, and all the sweetness and romance that float on the surface are false illusions.
The so-called love is actually just an excuse for seeking excitement, and if you are obsessed with this kind of self-deceptive feeling, you will eventually bear the painful end and pay a painful price.
Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.