"Helping you is a love point, not helping is a duty" Mother-in-law's words in the past have now become a pit dug for themselves

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In the past, it was only natural for a mother-in-law to show her daughter-in-law children, because generations of people came that way, so everyone felt that this was the right thing. Everyone thinks that young people have their own things to do and to support their families, so parents will be considerate of young people and can help a little. And they also know that when they are old, they still have to rely on their sons and daughters-in-law to provide for the elderly, so no one will refuse to show their sons and daughters-in-law children.

In that era, if a mother-in-law refused to show her son and daughter-in-law, she would be poked in the spine, and others would say that the old lady of this family was not exquisite and selfish, and would also say that she did not understand young people. Therefore, we can see that in the past era, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would do what they should do, the mother-in-law would help to watch the children, and the daughter-in-law, when the mother-in-law was old, would also serve with and urine.

But now, in this era, people's individual consciousness is getting stronger and stronger, which has led to many mothers-in-law who are unwilling to help their sons and daughters-in-law watch their children.

They feel that they have been tired for a lifetime, that they should enjoy their lives when they are old, and that they do not want to suffer for the sake of their children and grandchildren. She is not unaware that young people are not easy, or she can't see the difficulties of her son's family, but she just chooses to turn a blind eye, and she will use words like "helping you is love, not helping is duty" to prevaricate her daughter-in-law.

In this way, she lived a dashing retirement life, did not have to worry about her livelihood, did not have to suffer from watching children, just danced square dance every day, and found someone to nag when there was nothing to do. But because her son and daughter-in-law have no one to help watch the children, the daughter-in-law can only choose to leave the job and go home to see the children, while the family of three can only rely on her son's salary to survive.

For these, it is impossible for a daughter-in-law to have no complaints, especially when she sees that the mother-in-law of other people's families is also paying money and contributing to help her son and daughter-in-law, she will resent her selfish mother-in-law even more. Many people will remember to hate for a lifetime, and then secretly swear that when their mother-in-law needs to be taken care of in the future, they will never take care of it.

In this way, the mother-in-law opened a "good" head, and the daughter-in-law did not let go of more, so toss and turn, the family will not be peaceful. Don't say anything about filial piety, it is good to be able to get along peacefully.

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Wang Lili (not her real name) experienced these things after marriage. Her mother-in-law was a more self-ego person, in the early days of marriage, her mother-in-law rarely cared about them, at that time she also felt that such a mother-in-law was very good, no matter what, she could live more comfortably.

But this kind of thinking changed after she gave birth, and when she needed help the most after giving birth, her mother-in-law only cared for her own pleasure and never cared about her. If the mother-in-law has not retired and still needs to work, then she can also understand a little, after all, the family is not a rich family, but the mother-in-law has obviously retired, and she has nothing to do every day, but she is not willing to help her.

When she first gave birth, her mother-in-law did come to see her, but after that, she didn't care at all. During the hospitalization during the birth of her child, her husband ran up and down alone to live, and when she was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law was also unwilling to come and take care of her confinement. Her mother-in-law either plays around with a group of old sisters every day, or does what she likes to do at home, and insists on sending circles of friends every day.

During the time when the mother-in-law was dashing, she and her husband were busy, out of the hospital, no one helped to serve her confinement, only her husband came, but her husband still needed to go to work, their family's economic situation did not allow them to lose this job, they were also afraid of this rest, the work was replaced, so her husband took care of her for a few days and went to work.

She had no choice, her mother-in-law was unwilling to help, and her own mother had to take care of her own grandson. Therefore, Wang Lili can only find a sister-in-law, but the cost of hiring a sister-in-law is too expensive, and a monthly sister-in-law needs to spend her husband's two months' salary, she is really reluctant to do so, so in the end, she did not sit on the confinement at all.

She dragged her body that had not yet recovered, and she was busy taking care of the children every day, and she had to cook for herself, during which she did not sleep well at all, nor did she rest well, so after two months, her body did not recover, and she obviously felt the changes in her body.

She really couldn't stand it, so she begged her mother-in-law again to let her come and help see the child, and said that she really couldn't stand it, let the mother-in-law come over and push it, and when she eased up, she would watch the child herself.

But the mother-in-law refused very crisply, the mother-in-law said that the child was born by Wang Lili herself, she did not have the responsibility of taking care of the mother-in-law, she even said that "helping you is the love, not helping is the duty" this kind of words. Wang Lili felt that her mother-in-law was really too impersonal, and she said that she was unwell, and she was indifferent.

She saw this mother-in-law clearly, she swore that she would not have this mother-in-law in the future, and when the mother-in-law was old and needed to be taken care of, she would never take care of the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law did not say that "helping you is the love, not helping is the duty", then she will keep her duty.

After that, she could only resign as a housewife for the sake of her children, so that the burden of supporting the family was all on her husband, and her husband had no ability and could not earn much money, so the whole family lived tightly for several years. It wasn't until later, when the child was older and she started working, that the whole family lived a more relaxed life.

She thought that her mother-in-law would always live that kind of dashing life, but she did not expect that many years later, her mother-in-law fell ill, and she must need to be taken care of when she was sick, at this time her mother-in-law remembered her daughter-in-law, and licked her face and asked her to take care of it, she directly refused. She told her mother-in-law that it was her husband who gave birth to her, not her, so she also had no responsibility to take care of her mother-in-law.

When she said it, she really didn't care at all, and she let her husband be busy and half dead. Because of the events of that year, she also had a grudge against her husband, so she did not feel sorry for her husband, her mother did not feel pain, and she was not related to the outsider who was not related to anything.

After this incident, her mother-in-law regretted what she had done, but it was too late to regret it at this time.

From the affairs of Wang Lili's family, we can understand two truths.

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One: Filial piety is the greatest blessing of a family.

Filial piety is the greatest blessing of a family. A family, not relying on a person can support, today's society, life is not easy, want to live well, many times need is a family to help each other and the efforts of the younger generation.

A family, the need for husband and wife to work together to shoulder the responsibility of the family, only in this way, the family can be well resistant to risks, so, the young people of any era are in need of the elderly to help, not to say that the elderly pay to support them, but the elderly need to give the children some help as much as they can, so that the children can have the energy to go to the outside world, earn a family business, and pave the way for their next generation.

Therefore, at the stage when young people have just started a family and have children, if the mother-in-law can generously give them some help and help the daughter-in-law to see the child, the daughter-in-law will also remember this love.

At that time, when the mother-in-law is old and needs to be taken care of when she is sick, she will sincerely take care of the mother-in-law who is sick in bed because of the love of the mother-in-law.

This is the filial piety of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and such a family is a truly happy family.

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Second: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot withstand the "toss".

Mother-in-law, when the son first got married, was not very old, and his body was also tough, so they never worried about the problem of old-age care in the future. Some people will even amplify their words, saying that they will not rely on their sons and daughters-in-law in the future, saying that they have their own pensions, and if they can't move at that time, they will go to a nursing home. They vowed that they would never rely on their sons and daughters-in-law in the future.

But really at that time, how can they not rely on their sons and daughters-in-law, all the details need to be taken care of, even if they really want to enter the nursing home, it is also dependent on their sons and daughters-in-law Zhang Luo.

But these truths, when their bodies are still tough, they can't think of them, and they may not want to think about them. As a result, some mothers-in-law will live a special life, she is not willing to help her daughter-in-law, and she will toss and turn, and completely destroy her daughter-in-law's good feelings for her.

In this way, when the mother-in-law reaches the age, or encounters something and needs the daughter-in-law to take care of her, the daughter-in-law will also put on a look of not caring about herself and ignore her.

Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot withstand the "toss", and from the very beginning, both parties must manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

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