In film and television dramas, it is often staged, and the mother-in-law will use money to seduce the daughter-in-law and encourage her to have as many children as possible for the sake of her children and grandchildren.
Although this behavior is not very kind, it is understandable. However, having children is, after all, a matter for both husband and wife, and outsiders have no right to interfere, even the mother-in-law.
But in reality, there will be women who use children to earn capital. A few days ago, when I was walking around Zhihu, I accidentally saw this problem and couldn't help but stop and taste it.
There is a factual part of the problem: having children is really painful, and there is discrimination in employment, but the logic is wrong. From the words of the questioner, it can be seen that she is a more egoistic person.
It is said that the child is born for the man, and it must also follow the man's surname. Because he had suffered pain, he opened his mouth to ask for a dowry of 600,000 yuan, and felt that it was not too much.
Let's not judge it, this statement is not too much, let's talk about what she said, it is untenable. Since they are married, it is a community of solidarity, how can they say that children are born for men, such a brainless word.
Taking 10,000 steps back, even if the man is more eager to have a child, after giving birth to a child, he must be raised by both husband and wife, and cannot fail to fulfill the obligation of motherhood.
As for the child's surname with the man, it is even less worth mentioning, it is just a surname, and it cannot change the fact that half of the child's body is flowing with your blood.
To tell the truth, the girl who will ask such a question, her pattern and foresight, the judgment is made. No wonder some netizens replied like this, it is really relieved:
From the netizens' answers, it can be a good wake-up call for everyone, and the words of the original questioner are self-materialized. She treats having children as a transaction, not a mission for both husband and wife to accomplish together. So it is not surprising that she would be particularly confident to ask, is it really too much to compensate for the 600,000 dowry?
To say, it is really too much. 600,000 is not a small amount, it is not a stroke of the pen can be made, it needs to be paid by a little sweat in the past.
The vast majority of men, both to support their families and to appease their wives' emotions, are really too difficult for him to live like an emotionless money-making machine.
In addition to the mortgage and daily expenses, he can save very little money, and it is extremely difficult to save 600,000 yuan. Unless he is old and has a good pair of parents, he can pay for it.
It's just that most people, do not have such luck, they are ordinary, in order to survive to run and work, can only barely maintain the life they want, a little change, will have no time to deal with.
Children are both husband and wife, and since they have chosen to join hands with him to enter into marriage, they should be ready to fight with him against the tribulations that may occur in life, and it is not for themselves to enjoy, completely disregarding each other's life and death.
If you have this thought, don't get married, because you are not ready to share the hardships and hardships, but only want to achieve financial freedom by having children and asking for high money.
Men are not stupid, he can tell clearly, the woman in front of him, in the end, is not the person who lives a life. If you insist on compensating the dowry of 600,000 yuan like her, it is likely that you will end up in divorce.
For this little money, it is not worth it at all to take the happiness of the rest of your life. Unfortunately, the woman who was blinded by the money did not anticipate the future at all, she just wanted to grasp as much as possible, and she could catch it in front of her.
Of course, perhaps for this kind of girl, she does not want to be bound by marriage, and wants to pave the way for the rest of her life by marrying and having children, asking for a dowry of 600,000 per person.
Let's believe that she has the ability to find such a wronged head as desired, but the girl's reproductive age is only a few years, from the early twenties to the thirty, in addition to the time of recuperation and conditioning in the middle, it can be counted by a slap.
After getting the money, it is about three million or so, and the rest of his life is enough to eat and drink Lazar, is it enough? Even if you can save money and use it, you can barely do it, but you can guarantee that there is no disaster and no pain, and there is peace and joy in life, presumably it is absolutely impossible.
When you are old, there is no beloved person around, no children and no daughters, only a lonely person, will you regret it, the original fierceness and snobbery.
What is most important when people live in the world? Everyone's answer is very different, but it will never be money, and I would say that the most important thing is inner abundance and peace.
When you are young, there is nothing wrong with pursuing money, but you need to plan for the rest of your life, have a pattern, and can't just look at the present. Having a child is not for the man, you also have this need, the process of raising the child needs to be experienced.
The bride price should not be over-pursued. When a woman gives birth to a child, she has really endured great pain, and it is also common for people to reward, but it should be appropriate and not excessive.
You can ask your husband to take on the housework for half a year, and you enjoy the happiness of him feeding you. The quality of the day is self-selected. For the sake of 600,000 dowry compensation, and putting your marriage in a situation of exhaustion, it is a bit underconsidered.
Of course, the man who loves you will not wait for you to open his mouth to reward, he will take the initiative to reward you. What you ask for yourself, and your husband took the initiative to give you, there is still a difference between cloud and mud.
A smart woman, she will not easily open her mouth to compensate, but will give the other party hints. Of course, she will also judge the situation and will never make unreasonable demands. Let's imagine that if your husband's family is particularly wealthy and has hundreds of millions of assets, you open your mouth to compensate for 600,000 dowries, which is not too much.
But if your husband is a general family, the house is provided, and there is no other income except for salary, then this requirement is very excessive.
This move, for the latter, is no less than a fatal blow, while for the former, it is only a dime. Although the appeal is the same, it will bring different degrees of harm to people with different strengths.
No matter what kind of strength, such compensation requirements are still never mentioned. The bride price can be big or small. Since it has been given before marriage, there is no need to ask for compensation after giving birth to a child.
It's so ugly to eat like this. Moreover, the quality of marriage is inseparable from the concerted efforts between husband and wife. If the husband and wife are separated from their hearts, even if you have food in your hands, you will feel uneasy.
Maybe the young you are not able to understand that money is not a panacea. Money can buy material satisfaction, but spiritual peace needs to be given by people who really care for you.
I believe that every couple, from strangeness to love, will inevitably experience setbacks along the way, and since they have reached this step, there is no need to make up for that point of compensation, and make up unpleasant, or even emotionally separated.
We must understand a truth, even if it is a couple who love each other, they must be self-reliant and self-reliant, not to be the "parasite" in their feelings, and the bread baked by itself is the real incense. Open your mouth to beg, and it always feels a little less flavorful to eat.
With people, subtle feelings are important. Even couples who have already had children should pay attention not to unreasonable demands, to take care of this hard-won marriage carefully, and to do it and cherish it.