In this era of many men and women, how many people are longing for a vigorous love, but reality always backfires and tells you what a thousand-year-old single stick is. How many people are still single at the age of 30, and even if they want to get married, they have no partner. So, many people now want to end their singleness by getting married, while realizing the model of getting married first and falling in love later, but can you accept this way?
First, why can not accept this way
Many people are afraid of being hurt after marriage, and many people are afraid that this way will lose everything they have, after all, this way should be implemented to the point of helplessness. Under normal circumstances, most young people still give hope that they can talk about a vigorous love in their limited youth.
So, why can't we accept such a way, first of all, we are afraid of the entrusted non-people, we often say that men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. If you don't choose a good object, you risk ruin. After all, women's reputations will be much heavier than men's.
The second is the problem of getting along, when we have not really gotten along, it is easy to rush together, it is easy to have unnecessary quarrels and contradictions. Therefore, the problem of getting along is also a matter that many people will care about.
The last one may be how the other party is, we see that many people's unhappiness in marriage is basically a problem of people, in this case, how people are is very critical, if the person's character is not good, or there is a risk of inferiority, so much of this marriage will be bad. Of course, this problem exists in many marriages, but it is only discovered after marriage, and it is generally difficult to be discovered before marriage.
Second, why some people can accept this way
A lot of people can accept this way of marrying first and falling in love later, in large part because they are not good at being in love and don't like to focus their energy on irrelevant people. We will find a very real problem, some people even if they have been in love for a long time, but in the end they find that the person is not the person who wants to marry him. And some people, who have been looking for the road, waste their time, have been looking for their other half, but every effort to find that the person is not what they want to find, so they waste a lot of their time.
Therefore, some people can accept such a model, I think it may be a total of several aspects, first, they are not good at being in love, they prefer a simpler way, and they do not like to spend so much experience on useless work. Second, if you want to spend your limited energy on the right person, whether the person in the marriage is right or not, at least to a large extent, this person is right, so there is no need to waste so much time on other people who are not sure. Third, they believe in themselves and believe in each other. After all, most of the people who can get married are relatively good at eye edges, and if there is no certain eye edge, I believe it is difficult to step on this step. Therefore, they believe that they can change each other, and they also believe that the other party can synchronize with themselves in the future. Fourth, the current social ratio of men and women, they can not think much, only the first hand is strong, it is better than a single life is much better.
Whether or not you accept the way of marriage and then love, and no matter how you see it, this way of marriage or love is real. If you have flash marriages or blind dates around you, you can understand how this is going to be. Although we all hope to have a vigorous love, but there is no restriction on whether it is after marriage or before marriage, but most of the vigorousness is based on premarital, most of the life after marriage will tend to be flat, after all, plain is the truth. Therefore, whether it is to fall in love first and then get married or to fall in love first, it is an established arrangement, so cherish it, after all, what can come together is fate.