Liaozhai | husband spoils concubines and cold wives, and his wife worships fox immortals as a teacher, learns the way of the husband to counteract, and quickly learns
Ancient society in which men were inferior to women over overly suppressed the normal status of women as a marriage system, requiring women to make more sacrifices to satisfy the stability of marriage and even the family. One of the most obvious is polygamy, which is the root cause of the competition between wives and concubines.
Wives are afraid of unstable status, spoiling concubines and destroying wives, and concubines are afraid of being overshadowed and expelled from the house. The continuous game of each for their own interests has also deduced many stories of ridicule and lamentation in history.
The story in "The Constant Lady of Liaozhai" is just a common thing for wives and concubines to compete for favors, and it is not only used in the military method of "wanting to capture the old and indulge". But also to educate women in the world, how to better understand the way of Tension between husband and wife, so that the love between husband and wife will not fade with time, becoming only family affection.
But on the other hand, we should also see that the low status of women in feudal society is really painful, and women do everything possible to please their husbands, and if they are not happy, they can return to their mother's home. Only by living in the present can men and women be considered to be basically equal.
Beautiful as a flower is not loved, mediocre women are gentle townspeople?
The wife of Hong Daye, a Kyoto native, is surnamed Zhu, beautiful Peugeot, and the husband and wife have a good relationship.
But the good times did not last long, and Hong Daye later took a maid as a concubine, named Baodai, whose posture was far inferior to that of the Zhu family, but Hong Daye was partial to her. The Zhu clan was uneven and often quarreled with Hong Daye over this matter. Hong Daye was disgusted, and although he did not sleep in the concubine's room in public, he became more and more distant from the Zhu clan and spoiled the treasure belt.
Soon, Hong Daye moved his family and became a neighbor of a cloth merchant surnamed Di. Di's wife, named Heng Niang, came to visit Zhu Shi first. Hengniang is about thirty years old, with a mediocre posture, but her speech is clever and moving, and Zhu Shi likes it very much. The next day, Zhu Shi went to visit and saw that the Di family also had a concubine, in her early twenties, beautiful as a flower.
The two families were close to each other for half a year, and they had never heard Hengniang scold the concubine once, but the cloth merchant loved Hengniang alone, and the concubine room was only a figment. Zhu Shi was very strange and asked Heng Niang: "I originally thought that a wife was always inferior to a concubine, and a man was just a person who loved "concubines". What spells do you use? If I can teach it, I would like to make you a disciple!" ”
Heng Niang smiled and said, "Alas! It was you yourself who alienated him, how can you blame a man? Nagging all day from morning to night, isn't this driving away the birds for the bushes and the fish for the abyss? It can only be more and more alienated from the relationship between the two. When you go back, indulge him, do not interfere with him again, and if he is close to you, ignore him. After a month, I'll figure out a way for you. ”
The only way to capture is to recapture the heart
Zhu Shi obeyed, went home to freshen up and dress bao dai, and let her eat and sleep with her husband. Hong Daye occasionally approached Zhu Shi, but she strictly refused. The family praised the Chu clan for their virtuousness. More than a month later, Zhu Shi went to see Heng Niang. Hengniang said happily: "When you go back, don't dress up anymore, don't wear gorgeous clothes, don't grease and powder, let yourself be dirty and torn, work with the servants of the family, and come back in January." ”
So he went home and put on torn clothes, deliberately making himself dirty, except for the spinning thread and weaving, and did not ask anything else. Hong Daye pitied her, and sometimes asked BaoDai to help her do some work, but Zhu Shi wouldn't let her, and always drank Baodai away. After a month of this, I went to see Hengniang again, and Hengniang praised and said, "The widow is really teachable!" The day after tomorrow is the festival, we visit the Spring Garden together, you must remember to dress up carefully. Chu agreed. On that day, Zhu Shi looked in the mirror and applied grease and powder, carefully grooming. Hengniang was very happy to see her. He also pulled Zhu's hair, the light can be seen; for her to re-make clothes, shoes... The two men separated, let Zhu Shi drink some wine, and instructed: "After going back, I have seen my husband, close the door and go to sleep as soon as possible." If you call for the door, don't listen. Call the door three times before he can enter. But if he wants to make love to you, don't be too accommodating to him. Half a month later, you come again. ”
Chu shi came home and dressed up in makeup. Hong Daye was very surprised, looking up and down, talking and laughing. Zhu Shi talked a little about the situation of the garden, and then he put his hand on his cheek and made a tired look. It was not yet dark, so I got up and went back to my room to sleep. Not long after, Hong Daye did come knocking on the door, Zhu Shigao could not lie down, and Hong Daye had to leave. The next night, Hong Daye came to call the door again, and also ate the closed door soup. At dawn, Hong Daye rebuked Zhu Shi, who said, "I am used to sleeping alone, and I don't like others to disturb me." "On the afternoon of the third day, as soon as the sun turned west, Hong Daye lay in Zhu's room and did not leave. When it was dark, the two of them extinguished the candle and went to bed, making love to the fullest, as if they were newly married. Hong Daye agreed to meet at night, but Zhu refused, so he agreed that the two of them would have a date once every three days.
The fox demon teaches the fox charm
After about half a month, Zhu Shi went to see Hengniang again, and Hengniang closed the door and said to her: "From now on, your husband will spoil you alone." But you are beautiful, but you are less charming, with your posture, a little more charming can be better than Xi Shi. So let Zhu Shi fly a wink, Heng Niang corrected her, and let Zhu Shi laugh a little, and said no, so Heng Niang herself Sent Love, and yan Yan smiled, let Zhu Shi imitate.
Zhu Shi learned dozens of times in a row before he roughly imitated the same as Heng Niang. Heng Niang said, "You go back and look in the mirror and practice carefully." As for bed kung fu, the key is to adapt to changes and do what you like. Zhu Shi went back and did exactly what Heng Niang taught, and Hong Daye was really fascinated, lest he be rejected by Zhu Shi, and every day when it was not dark, he and Zhu Clan laughed, not leaving Zhu s house for half a step, and they could not drive away. Zhu Shi was even more kind to Bao Dai, and every time he drank and feasted in the bedroom, he beckoned Bao Dai to sit on the same bed.
However, Hong Daye felt that the treasure belt was getting uglier and uglier, and often let the treasure take away before the wine was finished. Zhu Shi tricked her husband into the treasure belt room and locked the door, and Hong Daye also ignored the treasure belt overnight. Since then, BaoDai has a grudge and often scolds people, and Hong Daye hates her even more after hearing about it, and begins to scold Baodai. Bao Dai was ashamed and indignant, and simply dragged a pair of torn shoes all day, and his hair was disheveled and inhuman.
One day, Hengniang asked Zhu Shi, "How is my spell?" Zhu Shi said, "It is very wonderful, but I can't understand the mystery of it, disciple." The first is to indulge men, why is that? Heng Niang said, "People like the new and hate the old, is it difficult to be easy?" A man's pet concubine, not necessarily because she was born beautiful, but just married into the door to feel fresh, and rarely slept with the same time, which increases this freshness. Indulge him, let him enjoy it, and there are times when the mountain treasures and seafood are tired, let alone the wild vegetable soup? Zhu Shi asked again: "First ruined the makeup, and then the makeup showed off, why is this?" Heng Niang replied: "You are suddenly disheveled and dirty, and you suddenly have a heavy makeup, and at first glance, it is like a reunion after a long absence; just like a bride, it is like a poor person suddenly getting a delicacy, and it is difficult to swallow the coarse rice." But if you don't satisfy him immediately, so that he can't get it, he will feel fresher and rarer, and you will become a spoiled wife as a spoiled concubine. The Zhu clan was overjoyed and formed a close friendship with Hengniang.
A few years later, Hengniang confessed to Zhu that she was originally a fox demon, and she was going to go back first, and she would not see her again, the two of them wept separately, and the next day, Hengniang disappeared without a trace.
Gorgeous cheongsam crawling with lice Women are ultimately victims
The ending of the story seems to be a consummation of merit, which also makes people exhale. But the deep meaning behind the story is chilling.
First, in the marriage between the two, Zhu And Hong Daye were originally in harmony with each other, but they became estranged due to the sudden treasure belt. This change came, Zhu Shi was not at fault, she was repeatedly disgusted by her husband for the normal demands of marriage, and the people around her were not dissatisfied with it.
Second, when she turned to Hengniang for help, Hengniang told her that the blind quarrel was to drive away the birds and the fish for the yuan, and taught her the art of wanting to catch the old and indulgent to rekindle the freshness of men, but although these old tricks of playing with love made Zhu Shi defeat the enemy and regain the favor of her husband, in her marriage with her husband, there was actually no victor at all, and the pure feelings between them had disappeared, just like the gorgeous cheongsam crawling with lice.
Third, when the flag was raised for Zhu's victory, Baodai became another sad victim. In the patriarchal society, these women centered around the favor of men have lost all their self-power in all their lives, and have to regard themselves as playthings, to constantly please their husbands and obtain men's short-term favor as their life goals, and under the extremely distorted concept of life, they eventually completely fall victim to the patriarchal era.
Fourth, the extreme emptiness of the spirit of the upper-class women in feudal society, the Zhu family and the treasure belt are no different, after losing the favor of men, they have become inhuman, which is actually a complete loss of spiritual values. And Hong Daye, as the holder of power, and the family members as the boosters, will never realize the oppression of women's values in this distorted system.
Naturally, we cannot comment too much on the ideas of the ancients, but we may be able to think that when we put our hearts completely on someone, it may be the beginning of our loss of self-worth, and over time, we will eventually be betrayed by others.
References 《Chatting with Zai Zhiyi》