Mrs. Hong in the TV series "The Legend of the Green Hill Fox" is a very virtuous wife, who listens to her husband's words and never disobeys any of her husband's requests.
But even so, the husband still did not care about her, gave all the favor to the new concubine, and left the original mate aside.
In order to win back her husband's heart, Mrs. Hong can only seek help from a high person.
Under the guidance of the high-ranking people, Mrs. Hong is no longer obedient to her husband as before, her husband does not come to her, she will not care, she will arrange more time on herself.
It is also strange to say that the husband who did not answer to her at the beginning, when Mrs. Hong ignored him, instead took the initiative to come to his wife, even if the current Mrs. Hong was not as virtuous as when she first started.
From this, we think it's a mistake for men to like virtuous women. In fact, a virtuous, diligent woman, men do not need it in their hearts.
Virtuous and diligent women lose their freshness to a certain extent
If we pay attention, we will find that the words "virtuous and diligent" mostly appear in the scenes describing mothers.
For example, a virtuous wife, such as a good mother, and so on.
In the relationship between the sexes, it is absolutely impossible for the feelings between men and women to rise to the point of "good mother" and "good wife" in a short period of time.
Moreover, the woman is virtuous and diligent, and invisibly places herself in the perspective of a mother, but the man already has a position about the mother in his mind.
Therefore, if the woman is virtuous and diligent, she will lose the freshness that a relationship should have because of the overlap of roles.
The famous British psychologist Alice once said: "Because she is busy with the housework herself, such a woman becomes disgusted by her husband and hated by her child... Tired of the family, but lost the love of the family. ”
Virtuousness is a good word, and diligence is also a good word, but what we need to know is that men need a partner, not a "mother".
Confused ideas, how can it be possible to get the love of men?
What men need is a woman who "will come"
Qiao Hui in the TV series "Beauty Heart Plan" is the niece of Empress Bo, who is also considered to be born noble, and her personality is also gentle and pure, and she wholeheartedly wants to assist the prince.
Miaoren is just a palace girl, with a strong personality and low eyes, a bad stomach and a heart, on the origin, she and Qiao Hui are the difference between cloud and mud.
It is such a big gap between the two people, the prince prefers the magic people like to tighten.
The reason is that the wonderful person will be spoiled, will say nice words to make the prince happy, and when she is unhappy, she will play a temper to make the prince coax her.
And these Qiaohui will not, she only knows three from four virtues, only knows how to be obedient, even if the prince provokes her to be angry, she will only say "it doesn't matter."
Only when a man pays for a woman and accumulates costs, he will know how to cherish.
Most people don't remember those who cross mountains and mountains to see themselves, but for those who go over mountains and mountains to see themselves, they remember them at any time.
That's because people are selfish, and love is no exception.
From this point, we need to know that if we want men to be addicted to themselves continuously, they need to be a "going to do something" woman.
For example, when you are angry, do not easily forgive the other party, you must let the other party coax;
For example, don't skimp on those words of praise, but praise the other party generously;
For example, don't feel embarrassed to be spoiled, many times, spoiled can easily make men pay for themselves, and so on.
What men need are women who have a common topic with them
TV series "Know it or not. Zhang Guifen in "Know It or Not" was arranged by the emperor to marry General Shen, but General Shen once had a beloved wife who lost his life because of saving the empress.
In order to remember his wife, General Shen took his deceased wife's sister as a concubine, gave all his favor to the concubine, let her be pampered and proud, and refused to put a little thought on Zhang Guifen.
Zhang Guifen is not sad, she can't afford to hide, she avoids everyone, but this is not a solution to the problem.
Later she changed her strategy and couldn't make herself unhappy because of one person.
Zhang Guifen was proficient in polo, and the way she rode on horseback really amazed General Shen, he didn't know that his wife was so proficient in polo, and his eyes were surprises that could not be hidden.
Since then, he has gone to look for Zhang Guifen every three to five minutes, because Zhang Guifen and him have a lot of common topics at this moment.
Shakespeare said: "Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, nor a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." ”
Language is the bridge that connects each other's feelings, and with a common language, men will feel that they will not be alone in this world. Two people with a common topic will not worry about the withering of emotions at any time.