Zhang Daniang's marriage was a political marriage, and when the dynasty changed, zhao Zongquan, the most powerless king of the domain, became emperor by mistake, the old and new courtiers were divided, and the emperor's cronies were all young military generals.
In order to win over the power of the old courtiers and consolidate the court, the emperor gave marriage to the British public family and the Shen family, both of which were unwilling, but the will of the Son of Heaven, even if he was no longer satisfied, had to bow his head and thank him.
The Shen family is a mess, there is a virtuous wife in front, there are also concubines and concubines, and there are noble concubines Xiao Zou in the back, such a family, in exchange, no one is willing to marry their daughters in, and the British public is loyal and marries the concubines.
After Zhang Da niang, who was pampered at home, married into the Shen family, her husband missed his deceased wife all day and turned a blind eye to her, the concubine was arrogant and arrogant, uneasy and kept her duties, and the concubines and daughters vigorously rejected themselves and regarded her as an enemy.
In the face of such a situation, it is difficult for anyone to accept, not to mention the only daughter of the British public with noble birth, Zhang Da Niang was also depressed for a while, but later experienced ups and downs, after trying to understand, she cheered up her spirit and worked hard to live.
Shen Congxing and Zhang Da Niang have never loved each other in their lives, but the two have also lived a lifetime of respect and companionship, long-term companionship, and the two have also become inseparable relatives from each other, and the marriage with sex and lovelessness has a very happy ending.
Compared with withering and withering in the arrogant persistence, Zhang Da Niang chose to survive in a smooth compromise, her life is not so perfect, but her attitude towards life is worth learning from us.
1. Political marriage, the heart is like ashes to accept the arrangement
Zhang Guifen is an old daughter of the British couple, from childhood to adulthood, she was afraid of losing it in her hands, and she grew up with fear in her mouth, and she never suffered half a grievance.
The British Duke is the founding assistant minister, crawling in the official field for decades, the British Duchess is also a noble daughter of everyone's birth, and the daughter they have raised is the real famous bridesmaid.
She knows dali, behaves generously and decently, and has a kind of style of a tiger girl, and the British couple began to look for her family early on, looking at Zheng Xiao, the younger brother of General Zheng, that is, Xiao Shen's later husband.
The Zheng family is really a good family that is one of the best in the world, the children and grandchildren are powerful, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious, and there is a sister-in-law Zheng Daniang, who is particularly capable of housekeeping, from the small Shen family, we can see that being the daughter-in-law of the Zheng family is a very happy thing.
If the mother-in-law's body does not care about family affairs, and is gentle and kind, there is no need to stand by the rules to suffer from the mother-in-law, the sister-in-law Zheng Da Niang, although the rules are severe, is a real and kind person, treats people kindly, and treats the sister-in-law as a child to be spoiled.
This good marriage was originally Zhang Guifen's, and she was also waiting with great anticipation to marry General Xiao Zheng, but just when the two families were about to be married, the palace rebellion and the death of the emperor were delayed.
In order to consolidate the stability of the court, the emperor gave the empress's sister to the Zheng family, the former minister of the former emperor, and then gave the marriage to the only daughter of the British duke and the uncle of the country, Shen Congxing, and messed up the Mandarin duck spectrum, and Zhang Guifen's happy life was ruined by a holy will of the emperor.
For Zhang Guifen, this political marriage has no choice, only the fate of acceptance, the British government needs the Shen family to strengthen the relationship with the new emperor, and Shen Guo's uncle needs the deep-rooted British government to enhance his own power.
As the only daughter of the British public, Zhang Shi cannot selfishly only care for her own happiness, but also consider the honor and disgrace of the Zhang family, if she is not trusted by the emperor, the children of the Zhang family will not be reused, and the honor and favor of the Zhang family today will no longer exist, and she can only accept the arrangement of fate.
However, Zhang Da Niangzi has never been able to put down her heart and live a good life, in the Shen family, her situation is also very embarrassing, she grew up in Beijing, golden and jade, zhishu Dali's high-gate concubine, in the future to live with an uneducated, sweaty soldier upstart, how can she be willing.
Moreover, it is still a house filling, obviously it is "low marriage", but the Shen family does not accept her up and down, and is critical of her, Shen Congxing's former wife, Lady Zou, is really a brave and benevolent strange woman.
Shubian is remote and desolate, and for her husband to remember the empress dowager, she is a weak woman and fully supports her husband to leave her homeland and settle in Shubian. Shen Congxing made an errand in the border army, and Lady Zou often went to accompany the empress on weekdays, occasionally helping the neighbors, compassion for the poor, and quite a moral reputation in the local area.
When the eldest prince was born early, for a time, the royal palace could not even find a nurse of Zhou Zheng, and at that time, Lady Zou also happened to give birth, she insisted on leaving her relatives and children to breastfeed the grand prince first, taking good care of them, and the woman's family did not rest well in the month, fell ill, overworked, left a bunch of children, and died.
Shen family up and down including the empress, everyone felt her kindness, after her death, Shen Congxing did not forget every day, all day long thinking about the good of Lady Zou, Zhang Da Niangzi was not originally the person Shen Congxing wanted to marry, her arrival, it seemed so unwelcome, and out of place.
In addition, in order to repay the favor of the Zou family and keep the wealth of the Zou family, the Shen family took The sister of the Zou family as a concubine, and the emperor also posthumously gave her a commandment, and there was a virtuous Zou Lady in front of her, a noble concubine room in the back, and a large group of concubines and concubines.
Zhang Da Niang broke the jar and broke it, simply shut herself in the courtyard and did not go out to see no one, she was originally a proud person, the British public Zhang family is a famous and noble, is the founding pillar, to fill the house for others is a great grievance, where is still willing to bend the heart, wholeheartedly for the Shen family to manage family affairs, branches and leaves?
After two years of marriage, Zhang Congxing was unwilling to be with Shen Congxing, even the door was not opened, relatives did not leave, and her mother's family did not return, in fact, Shen Congxing also felt that she could not stand the Zhang family. When I first got married, I wanted to treat Mrs. Zhang well, but she was always cold. No matter how nice she was, she didn't pay much attention to her.
Lady Zhang is like a monk as a nun, taking care of herself to live a life of Worshiping Buddha, not caring about the affairs of the Marquis of Weibei, nor bothering to perfunctory relatives and friends, that is, people invite her to a banquet and socializing, she also mostly resigns by taking advantage of illness, even her mother's family does not return much, the proud and proud noblewoman, since she was a child, her parents love and pamper, how can she succumb to reality for a while.
2, spoil the concubine to destroy his wife, almost a corpse and two lives, to fight for themselves
To say that the British duchess is still powerful, seeing that Minglan has a very good relationship with Xiao Shen and the empress, she constantly shows kindness to Minglan, and then naturally asks Minglan to enlighten her daughter.
When Minglan saw Lady Zhang, she guarded a plum tree that did not want to blossom and lamented her life:
These two plum trees are stubborn, good water and good fertilizer, and do not bloom. Years ago, the florist was bored and ignored them, but now he has blossomed instead. You see, how beautiful, like the clouds on the edge of the Spring Cliff in the West Mountain, floating layers of fog, so good that people's hearts hurt, as if you blink, it will disappear.
Minglan was embarrassed for a while, not knowing how to catch this conversation, neither being able to go along with her words, nor pulling her reverse scales, thinking for half a day:
After all, it is not a flower and a fog, there are parents and parents, there are innocent children, how can it be like flower dew, such as morning fog, say no, no worries. My sister is a wise person, and she never thinks about it, and she also reads her parents' loving nurturing.
Xiao Zou's arrival interrupted the two of them, originally Xiao Zou was going to come to minglan, but Minglan had been a person who had observed the color in the courtyard of the deep mansion since he was a child, and knew that people like Xiao Zou would eventually break into a catastrophe, deliberately avoided her, and told Xiao Zou the story of two princesses and concubines.
Xiao Zou was silenced by Minglan's few words for a long time, looking at Xiao Zou's unhappiness, Zhang Da Niang's mood was cheerful, her appetite was good, her smiley face was also there, and her heart knot was also opened, but a momentary relief did not mean that she could always be comfortable.
Zhang Da Niang is bright and upright, never thought of using means to deal with Xiao Zou, as long as Xiao Zou clan is safe and keeps to herself, she is not unable to tolerate people, no matter how arrogant Xiao Zou clan is, she has always tolerated.
But not everyone in this world knows gratitude, not everyone knows contentment, the master mother is kind, the husband is pampered, and the Shen family has pity, but Xiao Zou's family still wants to die.
Zhang Da Niang was pregnant with the child of Guo's uncle, and whenever the Tai Doctor came to ask for a pulse, Xiao Zou always had to find someone to intercept the Tai Doctor halfway, deliberately disgusting Zhang Da Niang, Zhang Da Niang was kind, and did not think much about it.
When it was about to be in the basin, the tai doctor was intercepted and delayed, and the people around Zhang Da Niang went to ask Xiao Zou to be humiliated, Zhang Shi was angry and could not go to the theory, Xiao Zou pushed Zhang Da Niang, the child was born prematurely, almost a corpse and two lives.
Although the child landed safely, but Zhang Da's heart was hurt, the Zhang family was a founding hero, a heavy courtier, the only daughter of the Tangtang Guogong, and was almost killed by a concubine, if not attacked, wouldn't it be too weak.
Moreover, if it were not for Shen Congxing, who had been spoiling concubines and destroying his wife, holding Xiao Zou in the sky, and having a disagreement with his wife, how could such a thing have happened, if it were not for the emperor's marriage, the daughter of the Zhang family would not have been able to take the turn of the uncle of the state, and now, there is no need to tolerate it anymore.
The British gong was not small in age, in order to win the new emperor's trust, very hard, for several days to work in the military camp, Zhang shi is the old daughter of the British couple, has always been very spoiled, left to seventeen or eighteen years old can not pick a son-in-law, marrying Shen Congxing is really helpless.
It was after this suffering that he fell ill that night, and the emperor sent a doctor to see him, saying that the old man had been working hard for many days, and he suddenly heard the bad news, and he did not return to the scriptures with blood, and injured Benli. (Good means)
The Duchess of Guo said bitterly to her daughter:
This time, even your father is sick, and if you don't understand it anymore, you will be the daughter of the Zhang family. You are the daughter of our Zhang family, the wife of the main house of the Houfu, and the slaves in the palace actually dare to do it, so where has the surname Zou extended his hand? Today they dare to push and shove you, tomorrow they dare to take the life of this child!
You understand! In the end, you are married, how much your mother can help you, no matter how much you make strength, it depends on your own. Now that your father and I are still here, if we go in the future, and your brother and sister-in-law are in charge, it will be separated by another layer. What is the future of this child? ”
Although a woman is weak, a mother is strong. If you are alone, you will die when you die, but it is only a sadness for the two of us who are not dead. But now that you have a child, can you bear to see him living in a nest, because he is not welcomed by his father, to see him being bullied by his brothers and sisters, and to be treated slowly by the next person? ”
We are not evil people, originally thought that Madame Zou died early, you and her sister are good, it is not impossible. Who knew that this slutty person actually dared to take his sister's child to make a play, and then I knew that this slut's heart was not good, and I had to clean it up...
It's not a good idea for you and your aunt to be so cold. You are thin-skinned and refuse to whisper, I have to find you a step, this time is a wonderful opportunity, not only half of the disaster. Your uncle will be sorry for you at this moment, and when he comes to see you again, you are not allowed to give a cold face another look. For the sake of the child, you must also be soft, you should cry when you should cry, you should say that you are wronged, you should be weak and weak, and you will hold people together.
Under the persuasion of the Duchess of Guo, the knot in Zhang Daniang's heart was opened, and Shen Congxing felt guilt and pity for her since this incident, and desperately wanted to compensate their mother and son, and the Zhang family resorted to thunderous means, one showed loyalty, one betrayed miserably, forcing the Shen family and the emperor to give Zhang Da Niang a statement.
After planning to forgive Shen Congxing, Zhang Da Niangzi perked up her spirits and planned to do a good full moon wine, so as to make her position clear in front of the noble relatives in the capital, she Zhang Da Niangzi was the real head of the Shen family, and no matter how honorable the others were, after all, they were just a concubine, and they would never be able to go up to her head.
Life is short, why long and short sighs, even if the whole day is long and short sighs, what can it be, life is still going to live, only by cheering yourself up, accepting reality, changing reality, the days will get better and better.
Shen Congxing, after that incident, rested at Zhang's place every night, got up in the morning to dance the sword in the courtyard, and then carried the sword to see his son, and while coaxing and teasing, he also casually hung the sword on the wall of his son's house.
Husband and wife are harmonious, father and son are deeply in love, and so on, everyone rejoices. Instead of withering and withering in arrogant persistence, it is better to survive in a sleek compromise.
3, children and grandchildren are full of churches, and they can live a lifetime without love and sex
Since Zhang Da Niangzi had to choose to face reality, she inevitably had to face the concubines and concubines left behind by the former lady Zou Da Niang, one man and two women, with different personalities.
Lady Zhang has always maintained the kindness of a famous bridesmaid, the existence of concubines and concubines has not made her uncomfortable, and she is not like ordinary women who raise concubines and concubines in order to compete for the title, and there is no half-cruelty.
She has a cold nature, and she can't intimately hold the children of other women in her arms and teach them to read and write like Minglan, but she will not alienate them and be cold, and there is no difference between treating them and treating her own children.
Xiao Zou's family made trouble in the backyard all day, instigating the children born by their sister, saying that Zhang Da Niang was their enemy, and the children born to her sister would rob her father's favor, and her younger brother would steal her brother's title.
The two big ones who were taught by her were the same as her, hated Zhang Da Niangzi, guarded against the stepmother like a thief, only the little jade beads, did not understand anything, did not want to listen to the words of the little aunt, nor did they get close to the stepmother.
Although Shen Congxing did not love Lady Zhang, he greatly respected The character of Lady Zhang, and he knew that his wife had never been evil to the children born to Lady Zou, and even the marriage of the eldest daughter would consult with Lady Zhang and listen to the opinions of Lady Zhang.
The marriage of the eldest girl of the Shen family was personally chosen by the empress, and at that time, there were two candidates who were all superior, one was the Prince of Wei Shizi, gentle and honorable, and his talent was outstanding; the other was a small general who had just made meritorious contributions at the border pass to return to the dynasty, a young hero, and a hero.
Lady Zhang believes that living a life depends on the details. The Bo family has a simple population, a thick family foundation, and a good door style, which must be worry-free. Although the Wei Wang Shizi is good, but in the end it is the prince of the clan, there are four side concubines who can enter the jade, and the flowers and plants of all roads can be less? Moreover, it is royal, even if it is wronged, who can do it?
Shen Congxing also felt justified, but unfortunately, Xiao Zou and the big girl of the Shen family did not agree at all, they thought that Zhang Da Niang was red in the eyes, she married into the high gate, chose the Wei Wang Shizi, and later the Big Girl Shen had a bunch of "good sisters" who were fat and thin, and the family was restless all day, General Bo Xiao married Hua Lan's eldest daughter, the couple was indeed very kind, and the big girl Shen finally understood that the little aunt Xiao Zou was not a good person, and the hostility towards the stepmother was reduced a lot.
Xiao Zou has not known how to restrain, without appearance can not hook Shen Congxing, he constantly meddle in the nephews and nieces' family affairs, making the Shen family chicken flying dog jump, Shen Congxing really can't stand it, simply move directly into the courtyard of Zhang Congxing to live, the two can have children vigorously.
The name was made miserable by Zhang Da Niangzi, saying that the name is good to feed, big Mao, er mao, A Mao, Mao Mao, Baozhu, Jinzhu, four sons and two daughters, Zhang Da Niang is not good at housekeepers, nor is she good at raising children, she likes the peaceful and pure poetic life, but her children are alive and jumping, every day from morning to night, she does not have a science to idle.
Whenever she sat down to draw two clear landscapes or give a few poems, Da Mao stole her father's sword and played with it in the middle of the room, Xiao Mao used ink to paste the golden beads into flower cats between the branches, and the golden beads sat on the kang and cried loudly. On the side, Ah Mao and Mao Mao wrestled and made a mess, and the second time the treasure bead dropped the red book, climbed on the head of the jade bead to look at the battle situation next door, raised his voice and shouted: "Mother, you listen to you, little brother they start again"...
Looking at the mess at home, Shen Congxing could only shout "Guifen you are not coming soon", Zhang Da Niangzi's forehead exploded with green tendons, and the pen tube was pinched and creaked. The final result is often that she is lucky dantian, and she is furious as a Hedong lion roar, shaking the roof - "Get me out!" ”
Yuzhu was born to Lady Zou, but she was generous and was not taught badly by Xiao Zou, and had a deep affection for her concubine Da Mao, who was born to Lady Zhang, and Lady Zhang was also like her own two daughters, often teaching her to be a housekeeper and checking her homework.
Later, Yuzhu had the opportunity to get acquainted with Zhang Da niang's maternal nephew, achieved a good marriage, before getting married, Da Mao cried like a dead father, Zhang Da Niang also called Yu Zhu to talk about her heart once, and sincerely wished her happiness.
Although it is not like an ordinary woman, being held in the palm of her hand by her husband, but it can also be regarded as a guest of honor, the days go on like this, although not as beautiful as they think, but there is no lack of fun, life, is not it so, happiness is a day, unhappiness is also a day.
epilogue
Zhang Da Niang's life is not happy, but it is also complete, if she does not choose to compromise, but has been stubbornly insisting on being herself, presumably there will be no such good results.
Many times life is not satisfactory, many things can not be carried out according to their own ideas, when faced with the last resort in life, rather than stubbornly insisting, it is better to smoothly compromise.
Many unmarried young people, just like Zhang Da niangzi, have a full of pride, originally the best in life, but they have to live a life of last resort, always unwilling to compromise, and finally can only wither and wither in stubborn persistence.
On the contrary, those who know how to choose to compromise smoothly may be able to blossom in a dull life, like Zhang Daniang, without love, she can still have a wonderful life.
So don't put yourself in a high position forever, when life slaps you to the ground, what you have to do is not to remember the nobility in the mud, and then go down, but first learn to get up, and then get out of the mud strongly.